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KathanDiary : पुत्रगोष्ठी : Food for thoughts : How do we get thoughts, Papa?

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January, 2018

Last night, he had new set of questions.

“विचार क्या है? कहाँसे आता है? विचार आने पर , मस्तिष्कमें क्या फेरफार होते है? गुस्सा विचारसे आता है?”

“विचार मनमें आते है|”

“मन शरीरमें है?मन कैसे बनता है?”

“मनोमय शरीर, शरीरका एक स्वरुप है| हे सोम्य ! यह मन अन्नमय है।[१] जो अन्न खाया जाता है, वह तीन भागों में विभक्त हो जाता है। स्थूल अंश मल, मध्यम अंश रस- रक्तमांस तथा सूक्ष्म अंश मन बन जाता है।[२] हे राजन आहार शुद्धि होने पर चित्त की शुद्धि होती है। इस निर्मल चित्त से ही धर्म का प्रकाश होता है।[३]”

“अब पता चला, आप केक/चोकोलेटको न खानेको क्यूँ कहते हो|”

“सुंदर, बेटा! हमेशा मातृहृदयीके हाथ बना खाना खानेका आग्रह रखना| आहार मन विचार याद कर लेना|”

“स्कुलमें खाना बनाने वालेको भी यह समजाना पड़ेगा न पिताजी! कितने सारे बच्चे उनके हाथ बना खाते है! उनके मनके विचार हम सभी बच्चोको जाने अनजाने मिल रहे है!”

“अतिसुंदर! अपने शिक्षकसे बात करना!”

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[१]
अन्नमय हि सौम्य मन।
(छान्दोग्य)
[२]
अन्नमशितं प्रेधा विधीयते तस्य यः स्थविष्टो
धातुस्तपुरोषं भवति यो मध्य मस्तन्मा स योगिष्टास्तन्मव। (छान्दोग्य)

[३]
आहार शुद्धया नृपते, चित्र शुद्धिश्च जायते।
शुद्धे चित्रे प्रकाश: स्थाद्धर्मस्य नृपसत्तम्।।
-देवी भागवत

Parents: Villain for kids

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Don’t be villain of their life.

So did you feel sad and shocked for child smoking picture?

Your child’s screen obsession(video games, selfie, chat, music, movies, cartoons) is no different than smoking addiction!

Too early. Too much danger.

On festivals, family gathering, I see new trend. The dangerous trend. Zombie collapse in making. Kids get bored easily and mobile gaming is their only solace.

Kids hate sun-exposure. Kids don’t feel excitement in cow-worship. Kids don’t even like playing outdoor! But mobile games? Yes!!

Save your kids if you observe such trend @ Home.

Don’t be villain of their life.

Human Speech’s Surprising Influence on Young Infants

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In most households, kids talk more often with gadgets and TV. And due to this passive communication, their emotional and language growth is severely injured.

Injuries in mind-space, sense-space are difficult to spot. By the time we spot, it is too late.

Take care.

“…parents in impoverished homes speak less to their children..”
 
This is true for rich families too. So many of new parents in my generation and social structure speak very less with their kids. Above that, they live in confined nuclear set up. Kids get very less listening sessions. Only major listening happens in front of TV :D.
 
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Human Speech’s Surprising Influence on Young Infants
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SPEAK MORE with YOUR KIDS. THEY LOVE TO LISTEN. MORE you speak, more they learn.
 
“These new results, culled from several different labs including our own, tell us that infants as young as 2 or 3 months of age not only love to listen to speech, but that they learn about fundamental cognitive and social relations better in the context of listening to speech than in any other context we’ve discovered yet. Nobody would have thought that,”

JAMA Pediatrics: Electronics Toys Hampers language learning

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When I resist electronics toys for my son, many in family and relatives either oppose or make fun of me as primitive.

When I say, technology-ready (Digital education 😀 lol) school is a curse, they reject the idea as bigoted one.

Kids don’t need gadgets and technology. They need real touch, real experience, real interactions!

Electronic toys for infants that produce lights, words and songs were associated with decreased quantity and quality of language compared to playing with books or traditional toys such as a wooden puzzle, a shape-sorter and a set of rubber blocks, according to an article published online by JAMA Pediatrics.

So don’t become your child’s enemy by presenting them costly but ineffective Chinese toys. If your child is already addicted to such toys, de-addict. Asap!


Research


How Does Type of Toy Affect Quantity, Quality of Language in Infant Playtime?

Electronic toys for infants that produce lights, words and songs were associated with decreased quantity and quality of language compared to playing with books or traditional toys such as a wooden puzzle, a shape-sorter and a set of rubber blocks, according to an article published online by JAMA Pediatrics.

The reality for many families of young children is that opportunities for direct parent-child play time is limited because of financial, work, and other familial factors. Optimizing the quality of limited parent-child play time is important.

Anna V. Sosa, Ph.D., of Northern Arizona University, Flagstaff, and colleagues conducted a controlled experiment involving 26 parent-infant pairs with children who were 10 to 16 months old. Researchers did not directly observe parent-infant play time because it was conducted in participants’ homes. Audio recording equipment was used to pick up sound. Participants were given three sets of toys: electronic toys (a baby laptop, a talking farm and a baby cell phone); traditional toys (chunky wooden puzzle, shape-sorter and rubber blocks with pictures); and five board books with farm animal, shape or color themes.

While playing with electronic toys there were fewer adult words used, fewer conversational turns with verbal back-and-forth, fewer parental responses and less production of content-specific words than when playing with traditional toys or books. Children also vocalized less while playing with electronic toys than with books, according to the results.

Results also indicate that parents produced fewer words during play with traditional toys than while playing with books with infants. Parents also used less content-specific words when playing with traditional toys with their infants than when playing with books.

Modern life, Precocious puberty, Juvenile Crime and Cancer

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What to talk about those parents who subscribe their children to Computer, Mobile, Video games, as early as age of 5 or 6? What to talk about schools who teach by screens from kindergarten?

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Is there any relation among Food, Mind, Body, Child Development and Sexual assault crimes?

1.A) Researches show that fast food/Toxic Food/GM food/Chemical milk triggers early puberty (Precocious puberty)
1.B) Researches show that excessive screen entertainment (TV/Movies/Video Games/Mobiles) accelerate puberty.
2) Researches also show that precocious puberty triggers violence, drugs use and excessive sexual activities in children.
3) Researches also show that effects of precocious puberty on delinquency are direct, without any other factors involved (like social class, family and race).

Precocious puberty tangles growing brain in sex related imaginings very early in life. This leads to potential development deficit. For more insights, this is worth researching subject.

Overuse of screen entertainment/interaction (TV/Movies/Video Games/Mobiles) accelerate puberty. Light and radiation from television screens and possibly even computer screens disturbs the production of melatonin, believed to be the hormone that can prevent early onset of puberty. With accelerated puberty, you reduce your child’s childhood and make them dumb adults, burden for society!

1) Early puberty is believed to put girls at higher risk of sexual abuse
2) Precocious puberty triggers violence, drugs use and excessive sexual activities in children.
3) Early-Onset Puberty Puts Girls at Risk of Medical Problems like breast cancer
4) Early sexual maturation in boys can be accompanied by increased aggressiveness due to the surge of hormones that affect them. Because they appear older than their peers, pubescent boys may face increased social pressure to conform to adult norms; society may view them as more emotionally advanced, despite the fact that their cognitive and social development may lag behind their appearance.
5) Studies have shown that early maturing boys are more likely to be sexually active and are more likely to participate in risky behaviors.

On the contrary, CEOs of Silicon Valley IT companies, send their children to technology-free schools!

A Silicon Valley School That Doesn’t Compute

 

Childhood, Brain Plasticity and Window for Imparting healthy habits

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“the unique plasticity of the human brain during childhood makes it the ideal window of opportunity to instill lifelong lasting healthy habits.”

This fact by modern research backs many queries parents have about child development. We at सरस्वती उपासक शिबिर in Nov, 2018, discussed them at length and concluded two major stages of child development, we cannot miss. If miss them, we are doing harm to the future of the world.

research has also shown that children with unhealthy habits who adopt healthy habits before adulthood have similar health outcomes to those who were never unhealthy.

यशोदा अभिभावाकता (-1 to 3 years)

First 5 years of life is all about लालन-पालन. Alphabests can wait, sanskar can’t. We call it चित्त development as per Vedic scriptures. Modern sciences says: unique plasticity of the human brain   

Three things mother must keep in mind: आहार, व्यवहार, संस्कार

शार्दूल शिशुविहार (Age 3 to 7)

This is the time when children must realize that his/her community can also love as much as mother love!~ Again, very critical for healthy mind and body development. So kid must be placed among like-minded foster mothers! I don’t wish to call them teachers! They are in extended role of mothers! And the commune must happen in witness of mother nature!

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Now read this research. It’s prescription is limited to mere good heart health! 🙂 But when we follow child development as per Vedic traditions, it is impossible not to produce mighty citizens!


Research


https://www.acc.org/latest-in-cardiology/articles/2018/12/06/13/33/childhood-intervention-key-to-lifelong-heart-health

Childhood Intervention Key to Lifelong Heart Health

Heart healthy habits in adults are rooted in the environment we live in in early childhood and, therefore, it is important to focus on health promotion in young children during this period to potentially prevent cardiovascular disease in adulthood, according to a review paper published Dec. 6 in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology.

In the review paper, the authors describe what the future of health promotion looks like and specifically address three focus areas: reasons why children should be a focus for health promotion; strategies for health promotion in children along with legislative efforts; and research gaps. According to the authors, the unique plasticity of the human brain during childhood makes it the ideal window of opportunity to instill lifelong lasting healthy habits.

Modifiable risk factors in children and adolescents can include smoking, obesity, physical activity and unhealthy diet, as well as high cholesterol, high blood pressure and high blood glucose. Research has shown that less than one percent of children have ideal dietary habits and only about 50 percent of adolescents get the guideline recommended amount of physical activity. However, research has also shown that children with unhealthy habits who adopt healthy habits before adulthood have similar health outcomes to those who were never unhealthy.

According to researchers, to effectively change the health habits of children, a multicomponent educational approach that involves family and teachers must be used. In the review, several strategies for school-based initiatives, family- and community-based interventions, and legislation and public policy initiatives are discussed.

Finally, the authors address the current gaps in research that might influence the success of health promotion interventions in children, including a lack of research on how family strain and emotional issues associated with socioeconomic status may influence unhealthy habits and limited longitudinal data directly linking unhealthy behaviors in children and cardiovascular outcomes in adults.

Curse of nearsightedness: Modern Schooling & Careless Parenting

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More and more children now get specs very early in life. One of the reasons identified is lack of enough exposure to sun light.
 
Schools are now AC class rooms. Or operated from congested unplanned urban buildings. Homes have AC. Gadgets share play time. There are hardly grounds left where kids’ sights get enough exposure.
 
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Read the research:
 
Higher ultraviolet B (UVB) radiation exposure, directly related to time outdoors and sunlight exposure, was associated with reduced odds of myopia (nearsightedness), and exposure to UVB between ages 14 and 29 years was associated with the highest reduction in odds of adult myopia, according to a study published online by JAMA Ophthalmology.
 
Myopia is a complex trait influenced by numerous environmental and genetic factors and is becoming more common worldwide, most dramatically in urban Asia, but rises in prevalence have also been identified in the United States and Europe. This has major implications, both visually and financially, for the global burden from this potentially sight-threatening condition.
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Research
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Increased UVB Exposure Associated with Reduced Risk of Nearsightedness, Particularly In Teens, Young Adults

 
Astrid E. Fletcher, Ph.D., of the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, and colleagues examined the association of myopia with UVB radiation, serum vitamin D concentrations and vitamin D pathway genetic variants, adjusting for years in education. The study included a random sample of participants 65 years and older from 6 study centers from the European Eye Study. Of 4,187 participants, 4,166 attended an eye examination including refraction, gave a blood sample, and were interviewed by trained fieldworkers using a structured questionnaire. After exclusion for various factors, the final study group included 371 participants with myopia and 2,797 without.
 
The researchers found that an increase in UVB exposure at age 14 to 19 years and 20 to 39 years was associated with reduced odds of myopia; those in the highest tertile (group) of years of education had twice the odds of myopia. No independent associations between myopia and serum vitamin D3 concentrations or variants in genes associated with vitamin D metabolism were found. An unexpected finding was that the highest quintile (group) of plasma lutein concentrations was associated with reduced odds of myopia.
 
“The association between UVB, education, and myopia remained even after respective adjustment. This suggests that the high rate of myopia associated with educational attainment is not solely mediated by lack of time outdoors,” the authors write.
 
“As the protective effect of time spent outdoors is increasingly used in clinical interventions, a greater understanding of the mechanisms and life stages at which benefit is conferred is warranted.”
 
http://media.jamanetwork.com/news-item/increased-uvb-exposure-associated-with-reduced-risk-of-nearsightedness-particularly-in-teens-young-adults/

First 5 years of parenting: Sacred Duty

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During the first several years that our development continues outside the womb we are utterly helpless, decisively dependent on our families for our every need.

From conception to several years, human body development continues outside the womb. This development demands womb like physical and mental environment. Aatma in new human body expects slow and step by step gradually expansion of new body’s universe, in sync with expansion of inner universe.

Being a parent, you are the caretaker of this expansion processes, both the microcosm and macrocosm (Since child will continuously build perceptions about his/her universe outside).

Such a sacred duty! Being a messenger of the God! Helping parallel universes to move towards the goal of self-realization. If you are blessed parent, Good luck!

There is no safe dosage of poison : Avoid Sugary Food

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We reported this sometime back:

Increasing Eye diseases? High fat-High Sugar diet and Microbes

So, few parent readers responded : “Once in a while, it is ok!”

“Everything in limit is fine? You must occasionally allow kids to eat chocolates. And if you are not doing so, your parenting style is against the growth of kids in modern times!”

Let us count few obvious occasions.

1) 40 peers @ school – 40 chocolates days
2) Add 20 neighborhood friends. 60 chocolate days per year.
3) Add 20 family and friends birthdays. 80 chocolate days per year.
4) Add 50 casual offering by parents, grandparents, relatives.

130 chocolate days per year. Is this limit? 35% is good limit?

Btw, as per this news, over 40% Irish parents give their children sweets daily.


News


Over 40% of Irish parents give their children sweets daily

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/health/over-40-of-irish-parents-give-their-children-sweets-daily-1.2640765

More than 40 per cent of Irish parents are giving their children unhealthy treats like chocolate, crisps and sweets more than once a day.

The new research from Safefood, the food safety promotion board, published on Monday showed the majority of parents (73 per cent) did not consider these types of foods as treats.

Dr Cliodhna Foley-Nolan, director of human health and nutrition at Safefood, said an over consumption of these treats was a “serious threat” to children’s health.

“As parents, we need to break the bad habits of giving these every day as it’s now become the norm and not really a ‘treat’ anymore,” she said.

“ Parents are really finding this difficult and these products are simply empty calories.”

Children aged five and under were the age group given the most daily “treats” at 50 per cent.

Parenting Next : I am least-bothered about my son

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I am least-bothered about my son.He is product of present societal setup. I simply cannot impose anything on him. Many friends who read my post assume that I claim being best parent! ha ha. It is next to impossible to grow a child by being a best parent. Not enough. For optimum child-development, not just parents but environment play critical role.

I can do two things that are under my control.

1) I can demonstrate values I wish my son to adopt
2) I can work in sustaining healthy environment for him. To sustain the environment on both physical plane and mental plane. For physical plane, I must offer him quality food, air and water. I consider it as my utmost duty. And that is not limited to buying best organic food from superstore but actually correcting the food chain. I also need to work on correcting mental sphere around my son. And for that, I read, listen, share and re-share life-enriching ideas, here and in real life.

Being a theoretical ideal parent is not enough. It takes a village to groom a best next generation. My son will be outcome of parenting, schooling and present societal norms.

I wish my friend understand this and get rid of preconceived idea of ideal parenting. Strive for ideal culturally rooted society if you wish best next generation.

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