Child Development

Child Development

Assaulting Childhood

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Assaulting Childhood
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Some facts:

• Recently, class 9 student from my city caught with Vodka in his water bottle
• Alcohol ads are ban in India.
• Mr. Amir Khan did show on Alcohol abuse (We cheered and forgot).
• Medically, alcohol is injurious to health

• School annual functions arrange performances based on Alcohol theme
• School vans and buses repeat Alcohol theme songs daily
• All marriage processions and parties (like Holi celebration) repeat them
• They are broadcast daily in prime time

Are we hypocrite society?
Do we know impact of such moronic songs on child psychology?
Assaulting Childhood by our mindless obsession with bollywood will breed worst generation of this century. Be ready to face the consequences.
This land has never seen such irresponsible and selfish youth?

It is painful to see, careless parents around, who directly or indirectly expose filthy bollywood (including pornstars) to their children. Pity them.

If you claim being a responsible parent, stay away from bollywood obsession, IPL obsession and idiot box TV for the sake of Nation. Don’t contribute in making of wicked and timid generation of the future. We can not stop idiots behind these all stuff but we can at least act on our side.

Parenting Blunder – 2 : Teens, TV, Media and Indulgence

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TV influence on teens
TV influence on teens

Exposure to sexual content in music, movies, television, and magazines accelerates adolescents’ sexual activity and increases their risk of engaging in early sexual intercourse. Result: Confused teens with matured bodies but toddler’s mind. They become irresponsible citizens in future due to hampered development.

Exposure to virtual world tools (Facebook,Twitter,Whatsapp) decelerates adult mind that behave like a child. The word for such adults is neoteny, the state resulting when juvenile characteristics are retained by the adults of a species. (Isn’t narcissism a predominant juvenile behavior? Click photos. Share. Expect likes. Expect comments. Think about it.)

Both are social diseases. Society/Individual suffering from these diseases, cannot perform their duties towards self, family, society, Nation and mankind.

Unless we fix these two diseases, there is hardly any hope for real change in society. And to begin with, we must correct our habits. Divert your free time from passive entertainment to more engaging and active activities. Take breaks from virtual world. Go spend days and days with Nature. Spend time with mass. Understand them. Participate in constructive activities.

Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest

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Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest
Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest

Western Superhero -> “I am capable enough of doing everything. I can save the world. I am center of the universe. I can destroy all evils.”

Our Superhero -> He takes the driver’s seat. He navigates. He directs. He inspires. He believes in collective actions. He believes in awakened mass. To his best friend, he says: “Do not become a coward, O Arjuna, because it does not befit you. Shake off this trivial weakness of your heart and get up for the battle, O Arjuna.”

Rama was capable to slay Ravana alone but he did not. He did Nation-wide Van-yatra, awakened the mass, took their help and collectively fought.

Look at the go-vardhan picture. It is not just Krishna that is participating.

This universe runs by collective actions. Even Avatar demands it.

So when your child is raised by the stories of Batman and Superman, it is difficult to instill this valuable learning about collective actions. And child may develop false delusion of super-ego.

I would any day prefer stories of Rama and Krishna over Batman and Superman.

Your child and You: Growth vs Chaos

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Tremendous brain growth occurs in the first 7 years of life. In first two years, more dramatic than at any other age, overall brain size doubles in the first year, reaching about 70 percent of its adult size; it reaches 85 percent of adult size by age two.

During this time your baby’s brain is busily building structural and functional connectivity, creating the essential neuro-architecture to support life and learning.

Child brain demands maximum human interactions during this growth period. (Critical first 2 years and at least first 7 years).

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When you replace quality human interactions with technology, shortchanges a young child on the time and mix of experiences the sensorium (The areas of the brain that process and register incoming sensory information and make possible the conscious awareness of the world) needs for well-rounded development. Neurologically and psychologically, the tech effect becomes a wild card in your baby’s development.

Now a dear friends argues that: But child learns from TV (Even recent TATA TV ad also give this idea). Well, learning at the cost of growth? What TV can teach, you can easily demonstrate. When you demonstrate, you actually help brain in growth.

The brain is not machine, and is designed to develop in all the areas through natural human interactions and play, and by putting kids in front of screens we are changing their brains.

Take care or live in self-denial and compromise your kid’s growth. What I presented here are crude biological facts. Opposing them will invite nothing but a self-goal 🙂.

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“Look, the brain of the child is shaped by the interactions they have with parents—that’s just absolutely clear. We need to be in the physical and relational world before we reduce it down to screens.”

—DAN SIEGEL, CHILD PSYCHIATRIST
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You already spend 8 hrs in sleep. 10 hrs at work. 2 hrs in daily chores. You left with 4 hrs. From this 4 hrs, you give 2 hrs to your entertainment dosage (TV, Internet, Mobile).

Your kid gets only 2 hrs per day. Kids are not machines that you can take care on weekends. They need continuous interactions.

Infants seek mother’s voice, smell and milk!

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Infants seek mother’s voice.
Infants seek mother’s smell.
Infants seek mother’s milk.

I have shared many times on this wall, how critically they are.

Imagine the growing senses’ sensorial stress:

1) When we offer idiot radio/tv/youtube rhymes in robotic voice instead mother singing the bhajans/songs for infants/toddlers?
2) When a toddler/infant is full of artificial smell (powder, soap, oil, room freshener, parents deodorant, car freshner )
3) Mother is replaced by maid

Autism (or any psychological disorder in kids) does not only cause by chemicals. We first create worse mental space for it to occur.

Never compromise with innate needs of growing kids i.e. mother and motherly family members. Their wakeup time should be full of interactions with mother and motherly figures.

Products expectant mothers should avoid during first trimester

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Toxic urban life style is killing our future 🙁

When you ask newly wedded couples to take care of these things, they often show their arrogance of foolishness and say: “I don’t care. My life, my style!”

🙁

For last decade, I suggest all married young couple to take care of life before it is conceptualized. From diet, sleep to utilities, married life demands critical care. But hardly anyone listen. 🙁

Everyone is in cloud 9 of modernity. 🙁

Expectant mothers in their first trimester should avoid certain cosmetics, cleaning agents and medicines, to protect the developing fetal brain from chemicals that can trigger autism, York U health researchers have found.

The list is long: cleaning solvents, pesticides, nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs such as acetylsalicylic acid; misoprostol (a drug used for inducing labor); polychlorinated bisphenyls used as industrial lubricants; polybrominated diphenyl ethers found in wood and textiles; phthalates in PVC flooring, children’s toys, and cosmetics and lotions.


Research


York U researchers list products expectant mothers should avoid during first trimester

York U researchers list products expectant mothers should avoid during first trimester

STOP Fear Mongering Children

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“यहाँ से चालीस-चालीस कोस दूर तक जब रात में बच्चा रोता है तो माँ कहती है बेटा सो जा नहीं तो गब्बर आ जायेगा|”
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Being a parent, I often observe other parents, so to learn from them. One common thing I observed is that many parents engage in fear mongering to serve the purpose (to make the child sleep or the feed the child etc).

This is highly insensitive practice.

As per Charak Samhita (The Ayurvedic Authority Scripture)

“न ह्यस्य वित्रासनं साधु तस्मात्तस्मिन् रुदत्यभुञ्जाने वाऽन्यत्र विधेयतामगच्छति राक्षसपिशाचपूतनाद्यानां नामान्याह्वयता कुमारस्य वित्रासनार्थं नामग्रहणं न कार्यं स्यात् |” [1]

“Never ever engage in fear mongering. Even if child does not eat, cries and does mischief, do not engage in fear mongering. Never use imaginary characters like भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना etc to threaten them. Do not show them shadows as भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना”

This practice subconsciously kills their inborn fearlessness and will lead to mild to severe mental issues in adult life. Avoid. This is the challenge of being parent. Learn creative ways to convince child and not the shortcut i.e. fear mongering or threatening. Such parenting will lead you to loss at the end. Take care.

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Fear mongering (or scaremongering or scare tactics) is the use of fear to influence the opinions and actions of others towards some specific end. The feared object or subject is sometimes exaggerated, and the pattern of fear mongering is usually one of repetition, in order to continuously reinforce the intended effects of this tactic, sometimes in the form of a vicious circle.


 

Reference


[1] http://peterffreund.com/Vedic_Literature/charaka/charaka_sharira.html

Father or First Guru : Extinct Relation

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Father-Child Relation
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Do you have time-luxury or you are done providing material luxury to your children?

As per one study, Children who spend time with their fathers have a higher IQ[1] ! What about those unfortunate urban children whose dads are always busy in career pursuits? Dad leave for the job when children are sleeping and dad return home in night when again children are sleeping! No school or teacher or nanny or toys or games can fill in this vital gap of father’s presence! And same applies to mothers! Do not escape by buying some toy for your children. Spend time as they want more of your presence!

Take care. Spend as much possible time with your children! You are what you are because your parents cared so much of you!

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Children who spend large amounts of time with their fathers have higher IQs, according to a new study.

Strong fatherly involvement in their early life can also improve a child’s future career prospects, the research shows.

The researchers warned that it was not enough for parents to live together, but that a father should be actively involved in a child’s life to benefit their development.

The study looked at more than 11,000 British men and women, born in 1958.

The more effort a father invests in his children, the smarter they are as kids and more successful as adults, new research shows. And highly educated fathers make even more of a difference than less educated dads, all things being equal.

“It’s not [just] about having dad around, it’s about what kind of dad he is,” says Daniel Nettle, a psychologist at the University of Newcastle, UK, who led the new analysis, based on surveys of more than 10,000 children over half a century.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/3110360/Children-who-spend-time-with-their-fathers-have-a-higher-IQ.html

https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn16219-time-with-dad-is-time-well-spent/

Children: Language learning and social activities

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Language

Parents must not use shortcuts. Stories on tablets, cartoons on TV are not useful. If you want your kid to learn and excel in multiple languages, let there be more opportunities for social interactions. Your babies demand your time. Human interactions. Even if they cannot speak full words and sentences, speak with them! Communicate! Gestures, expressions and surprises! Tablet and TV cannot give gestures and expressions!

“We found that the degree to which infants visually tracked the tutors and the toys they held was linked to brain measures of infant learning, showing that social behaviors give helpful information to babies in a complex natural language learning situation,” Kuhl said.

“Our findings show that young babies’ social engagement contributes to their own language learning – they’re not just passive listeners of language,” Brooks said. “They’re paying attention, and showing parents they’re ready to learn when they’re looking back and forth. That’s when the most learning happens.”

Babies’ brains show that social skills linked to second language learning

http://www.washington.edu/news/2015/07/27/babies-brains-show-that-social-skills-linked-to-second-language-learning/

Study reveals 1 in 3 babies has used a smartphone or tablet before their first birthday

Study reveals 1 in 3 babies has used a smartphone or tablet before their first birthday

Healthy kid Delusion

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Lean means lack of excess flesh. Clinically thin means lack of flesh due to deficiency.

Most pediatricians are not taught this difference. Forget about parents, they are brainwashed by media. For parents, fat or excess flesh is sign of health.

As per my observations, lean but active, with no visible sign of any type of deficiency are children with high emotional and intellectual capacity. 
When parents of such kids approach me, I suggest them no food advices but prescribe to spend more time with Mother Nature so that kids Sattva is nurtured. Naturally lean spend more energy at brain then fat conversion.

But not all kids are fortunate. They are prescribed feeding formulas. Extra digestion burden. Some of them lose nature’s gift. Like Hanuman’s amnesia, they too forget their real potential due to parental and doctor’s ignorance.

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