Child Development

Child Development

Human Childhood : Special Childhood



Humans have the longest childhood of any animal on the planet. Neural circuits started forming before you were born, and so extended brain development continues during childhood.

Childhood is a time when children need love, affection, care. It is extended pregnancy for mother, helped by other family members.

If you want your kid to unveil his/her potentially fully, take care of their childhood. Take care of them like they are in womb for at least 5-6 years. Do not give them stress. Do not scold them. Whatever you want them to learn, demonstrate in your activities. They are great learners .Do not impose your mentality on them. Give them free space to breathe.

First 100 days, Sanskar and Gut Immunity

First 100 days (~4 months) are critical. We Indians only do निष्क्रमण संस्कार after 100 days. After 100 days in home, we take out child and introduce outer univese, The Sun, The moon, Trees, River, Lake and of course relatives.

निष्क्रमण संस्कार इस संस्कार का फल विद्वानों ने आयु की वृद्धि बताया है- निष्क्रमणादायुषो वृद्धिरप्युद्दिष्टा मनीषिभि:।ये संस्कार शिशु के जन्म के चौथे चा छठे महीने में किया जाता है। सूर्य तथा चंद्रमा आदि देवताओं का पूजन कर शिशु को उनके दर्शन कराना इस संस्कार की मुख्य प्रक्रिया है। हमारा शरीर पृथ्वी, जल, अग्नि, वायु और आकाश, जिन्हें पंचभूत कहा जाता है, से बना है। इसलिए पिता इस संस्कार में इन देवताओं से बच्चे के कल्याण की प्रार्थना करते हैं।

जन्म के चौथे मास में निष्क्रमण-संस्कार होता है। जब बच्चे का ज्ञान और कर्मेन्द्रियां सशक्त होकर धूप, वायु आदि को सहने योग्य बन जाती हैं। सूर्य तथा चंद्रादि देवताओं का पूजन करके बच्चे को सूर्य, चंद्र आदि के दर्शन करना इस संस्कार की मुख्य प्रक्रिया है।
यूंकि बच्चे का शरीर पृथ्वी, जल, तेज, वायु तथा आकाश से बनता है, इसलिए बच्चे का पिता इस संस्कार के अंतर्गत आकाश आदि पंचभूतों के अधिष्ठाता देवताओं से बच्चे के कल्याण की कामना करते हुए कहता है-
शिवे ते स्वां द्यावापृथिवी असंतापे अभिश्रियो।
शं ते सूर्य आ तपतुशं वातो वातु ते ह्रदे।
शिवा अभि क्षरन्तु त्वापो दिव्या पयस्वती:।।

अर्थात् हे बालक! तेरे निष्क्रमण के समय द्युलोक तçाा पृथिवीलोक, कल्याणकारी सुखद एवं शोभास्पद हों। सूर्य तेरे लिए कल्याणकारी प्रकाश करें। तेरे ह्रदय में स्वच्छ कल्याणकारी वायु का संचरण हो। दिव्य जल वाली गंगा-यमुना आदि नदियां तेरे लिए निर्मल स्वादिष्ट जल का बहन करें। (via

Nishkraman Sanskar
Nishkraman Sanskar

The first 100 days are crucial.

During this 100 days, child is groomed in known प्राणिक signatures of mother and other family members. No strangers please. Read Man is known by the company he keeps : We all have individual microbial cloud to know more. This helps child to acquire only known healthy familiar bacteria!

So primitive that they keep Desi Gau’s gobar and mutra at all Sanskar ceremonies. So that their infants get Gau mata’s blessings and build foundation of healthy प्राणमय शरीर.
“And our study emphasises that in that first 100 days the structure of the gut microbiome seems to be very important in influencing the immune responses that cause or protect us from asthma.”
Oh Hindus? So primitive they are! They know very well how to avoid Asthama and other immune disorders ! So primitive and fanatic. 🙂

Reclaim and revive dharma!


Children exposed to 4 key bacteria are less likely to develop asthma, study finds

Children who acquire four kinds of gut bacteria in the first three months of their lives can be protected from developing asthma, according to new research.

The four bacteria, called FLVR (Faecalibacterium, Lachnospira, Veillonella, and Rothia), are naturally acquired by most babies through exposure in their home surroundings. However, some infants miss out, and it’s those children who are at most risk of developing asthma, according to researchers from the University of British Columbia in Canada.

“And our study emphasises that in that first 100 days the structure of the gut microbiome seems to be very important in influencing the immune responses that cause or protect us from asthma.”

Early infancy microbial and metabolic alterations affect risk of childhood asthma

Asthma is the most prevalent pediatric chronic disease and affects more than 300 million people worldwide. Recent evidence in mice has identified a “critical window” early in life where gut microbial changes (dysbiosis) are most influential in experimental asthma. However, current research has yet to establish whether these changes precede or are involved in human asthma. We compared the gut microbiota of 319 subjects enrolled in the Canadian Healthy Infant Longitudinal Development (CHILD) Study, and show that infants at risk of asthma exhibited transient gut microbial dysbiosis during the first 100 days of life. The relative abundance of the bacterial genera Lachnospira,Veillonella, Faecalibacterium, and Rothia was significantly decreased in children at risk of asthma. This reduction in bacterial taxa was accompanied by reduced levels of fecal acetate and dysregulation of enterohepatic metabolites. Inoculation of germ-free mice with these four bacterial taxa ameliorated airway inflammation in their adult progeny, demonstrating a causal role of these bacterial taxa in averting asthma development. These results enhance the potential for future microbe-based diagnostics and therapies, potentially in the form of probiotics, to prevent the development of asthma and other related allergic diseases in children.

Children, Air pollution and common sense

Children and Air pollution
Children and Air pollution

The breathing rate over the first 12 years of life is about double that of adult breathing rate. So good air or bad air, children consume more.

For your healthy lungs, thank pre-1991 (Before Manmohan era of mindless development) Indians who were not as mindless as we are. Imagine what we gift to millions of children by rampant urban air pollution.

Greatest gift we give to our children: Suffocating air. 🙁 Yes, I am also partner in crime, like you all. 🙁

Although this is not a solution, I suggest you to have Fresh-Air-Sundays with kids. Away from urban crowd, in the laps of the nature, for weekly fresh air quota. (Y)

The Gut – Brain Axis and Roots of Inflamed brain

Gut Microbes - Depression
Gut Microbes – Depression
Gut Microbes - Depression
Gut Microbes – Depression

Inflammation is your body’s first line of defense against infection and injury. This process normally shuts down after healing occurs.
But trouble can arise when the inflammation process gets stuck “on” and doesn’t know when to stop.
Then inflammation can turn on your body, attacking healthy cells, blood vessels, and tissues instead of protecting them.
This is called chronic or systemic inflammation.
You can develop chronic inflammation anywhere in the body — including the brain.
Unlike the inflammation of an injury or arthritis, brain inflammation doesn’t cause pain since the brain has no pain receptors.
But that doesn’t mean it’s not there, causing hidden damage to your most vital organ.

As per this[1]  research, depression is linked to brain inflammation.

As per this[2] research, Gut microbes protects against brain inflammation.

Antibiotics, Highly acidic processed food, chemical ingredients – We are daily waging war against our friends. 🙁

And we complain about Alzheimer, Parkinson’s, Aggression, Autism, Asthma, Suicides, Dumb, Zombiness… 🙁 That is what we deserve.



Role of Translocator Protein Density, a Marker of Neuroinflammation, in the Brain During Major Depressive Episodes

Elaine Setiawan, PhD1,2; Alan A. Wilson, PhD1,2,3; Romina Mizrahi, MD, PhD1,2,3,4; Pablo M. Rusjan, PhD1,2; Laura Miler, HBSc1,2; Grazyna Rajkowska, PhD5; Ivonne Suridjan, HBSc1,2,4; James L. Kennedy, MD1,2,3,4; P. Vivien Rekkas, PhD1,2; Sylvain Houle, MD, PhD1,2,3; Jeffrey H. Meyer, MD, PhD, FRCPC1,2,3,4

The neuroinflammatory hypothesis of major depressive disorder is supported by several main findings. First, in humans and animals, activation of the immune system causes sickness behaviors that present during a major depressive episode (MDE), such as low mood, anhedonia, anorexia, and weight loss. Second, peripheral markers of inflammation are frequently reported in major depressive disorder. Third, neuroinflammatory illnesses are associated with high rates of MDEs. However, a fundamental limitation of the neuroinflammatory hypothesis is a paucity of evidence of brain inflammation during MDE. Translocator protein density measured by distribution volume (TSPO VT) is increased in activated microglia, an important aspect of neuroinflammation.


Gut Worms Protect Babies’ Brains From Inflammation

What’s in mom’s gut could help protect her baby’s brain

According to what scientists call the “Biome Depletion Theory,” some autoimmune and inflammation-related diseases may be the result of too few of the life forms that once lived in and on the body — particularly gut worms — rather than too many.

Tapeworms, roundworms and other wormy companions have inhabited the warm wet folds of animal intestines for more than 100 million years, bathing in a constant supply of food and nutrients.

Over millions of years of co-existence, the theory goes, the immune system learned to tolerate these live-in guests, and eventually adapted to work with worms in mind.

The theory is that now, with worms gone from our guts, the body’s natural defenses can spiral out of control.

“Our bodies are essentially an ecosystem,” said Duke immunologist and study co-author William Parker.

Loneliness is unfortunate, togetherness is a medicine



Even being Adult taking care of own physical and mental needs, we still share a fundamental biological and emotional need for each other.

Studies from around the world suggest that single people are at greater risk for a wide variety of diseases; married couples and their children even suffer less from tooth decay and have better gums than do members of divorced and bereaved families.

A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age (As per Bharatiya culture, one should get married after age 25. Please note. It is called Grihasth life), and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers.

In short, social living ( Call it marriage) is mandatory and critical to maintain healthy life.

What does social living means? I earn money, you earn money, we spend it during weekend on our personal entertainment (Eating outside, friday movie, Sunday cricket/football match, kid’s playground)?

Think about it. Is our way of life where we are rapidly reducing time spent for each other, real cause of all illnesses?

Experiment: We should invest more time in each-other than trivial things like movies, TV and games where we are mere spectators. A bunch of clappers, criticizer or glory-makers for virtual heroes.

One way communication. Lack of involvement. Slow but steadily declining health of each family member. Think about it.

Spend more time with your decaying parents and see the magic. They will live longer than expected. My personal experience. Try it.

Spend more time with growing kids. Get involved in their play. Invest new means of happiness for them. They will grow healthier with minimum hiccups. Try it.

Spend more time @ playground, playing sports with friends. Play for self. Play with your billion+ body cells and 10 times more bacteria living in body. They will feel good. They will bless you healthy life.

Play. Life is a play. Divine play as Krishna suggests.

The Dark Side of the Modern Food

If you can’t pronounce It, Do you still want to eat It? 😀
This is called कलियुगी माया! 🙂 Toxic influence of toxins!
The problem is, most processed foods have a laundry list of ingredients similar to that of a can of paint. It’s not as simple as adding a little sugar to canned bisque or lemon juice to a scone mix.
Take a look at the list of ingredients from the strawberry flavoring of a milkshake served at a zip-through restaurant:
Amyl acetate, amyl butyrate, amyl valerate, anethol, anisyl formate, benzyl acetate, benzyl isobutyrate, butyric acid, cinnamyl isobutyrate, cinnamylvalerate, cognac essential oil, diacetyl, dipropyl ketone, ethyl butyrate, ethyl cinnamate, ethyl heptanoate, ethyl lactate, ethyl methylphenylglycidate, ethyl Nitrate, ethyl propionate, ethyl valerbate, heliotropin, hydroxphrenyl-2butanone(10% solution to alcohol), a-ionone, isobutyl anthranilate, isobutyl butrate, lemon essential oil, maltol, 4-methylacetophenone, methyl anthranilate, methyl benzoate, methyl cinnamate, methyl heptine carbone, methyl naphthyl ketone, methyl slicylate, mint essential oil, neroli essential oil, nerolin, neryl isobulyrate, orris butter, phenethyl alcohol, sore rum ether, g-undecalctone, vanillin, and solvent[1]
[1] Schiosser E. :Fast Food Nation: The Dark Side of the All-American Meal, New
York, NY: Houghton Mifflin, 2001

Don’t Mimic Fatherless America!



Have you ever thought why media is paid so heavily to spread perversion in society? Be it TV serial or news, there is unlimited sell of affairs, perversion and sex.

here is this program on Life Ok which telecast sleazy scenes and stories for 24×7. Especially when the home-makers are idle at in middle class homes i.e. afternoon and late evening.

There are cases reported where teens took inspiration from this show and performed brutal murders of family members.

Do you know why all of this?

Breaking India.


Break family institution.

कुलक्षये प्रणश्यन्ति कुलधर्मा: सनातना:।
धर्मे नष्टे कुलं कृत्स्नमधर्मोऽभिभवत्युत ।।१.४०।।

कुल के नाश से सनातन कुलधर्म नष्ट हो जाते हैं, धर्म के नाश हो जाने पर सम्पूर्ण कुल में पाप भी बहुत फैल जाता है |

Development of civilization pays high tribute to virtue of family system कुल-धर्मं. Lack of कुल-धर्मं/Family system promotes अधर्म. Resulting danger to society and civilization is troublesome. Hope, people understand this by keeping their modernism and wantonly living.

Due to proliferation of delusional properties about self-centered living imported from west, Indian family system is passing through worst time ever. Increase in break-ups, divorces, old-age homes, orphanages, need based marriages, misuse of laws show surely that it is not a good situation. When families are destroyed, Nation suffers.

Take care. Save family from collapse.

Below is must read Essay. Remember one thing – once the family-fabric is broken, it is very easy to control the society.

And for some of us who see American Society as ideal, rethink.

We must not walk on their path blindly.

Article Showcase

Fatherless America by David Blankenhorn

Fatherhood in America is in trouble. David Blankenhorn, in his book, Fatherless America, has dissected the crisis, pointing to several critical problems. More and more children are now being brought up in homes where the father is absent. Many doubt the traditional roles of fathers. Some are even asking if fathers are really necessary.

Blankenhorn has developed a typology to describe our situation. The deadbeat dad doesn’t pay his child support. He is a bad guy, a criminal who belongs in jail. The key issue here is not father absence, but money absence. His fatherhood is measured in dollars.

The visiting father is a shadow dad. He has left the home but he still stops by. He is a visitor: part father and part stranger. He pays his child support. He causes no trouble. He loves his kids. He wants to be a good father, but he’s not around. He has been, in a sense, de-fathered. The fatherhood of the sperm father is completely biological. He is a one-act dad, who leaves no footprints and casts no shadow. He never shows up. He is the perfect father for those who think “that men in families are either unnecessary or part of the problem.”1

STOP Fear Mongering Children



“यहाँ से चालीस-चालीस कोस दूर तक जब रात में बच्चा रोता है तो माँ कहती है बेटा सो जा नहीं तो गब्बर आ जायेगा|”
Being a parent, I often observe other parents, so to learn from them. One common thing I observed is that many parents engage in fear mongering to serve the purpose (to make the child sleep or the feed the child etc).

This is highly insensitive practice.

As per Charak Samhita (The Ayurvedic Authority Scripture)

“न ह्यस्य वित्रासनं साधु तस्मात्तस्मिन् रुदत्यभुञ्जाने वाऽन्यत्र विधेयतामगच्छति राक्षसपिशाचपूतनाद्यानां नामान्याह्वयता कुमारस्य वित्रासनार्थं नामग्रहणं न कार्यं स्यात् |” [1]

“Never ever engage in fear mongering. Even if child does not eat, cries and does mischief, do not engage in fear mongering. Never use imaginary characters like भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना etc to threaten them. Do not show them shadows as भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना”

This practice subconsciously kills their inborn fearlessness and will lead to mild to severe mental issues in adult life. Avoid. This is the challenge of being parent. Learn creative ways to convince child and not the shortcut i.e. fear mongering or threatening. Such parenting will lead you to loss at the end. Take care.

Fear mongering (or scaremongering or scare tactics) is the use of fear to influence the opinions and actions of others towards some specific end. The feared object or subject is sometimes exaggerated, and the pattern of fear mongering is usually one of repetition, in order to continuously reinforce the intended effects of this tactic, sometimes in the form of a vicious circle.




Maternal Stress and Baby’s GUT-Brain disturbances

This is the reason we have सीमन्तोन्नयन Samskar. Once the pregnant lady crosses 6th or 7th month, she becomes अगृहिणी (Temporary relief from household chores) and stops worrying about her duties towards family. No one then gives her any responsibility.

Stress-free life -> Rich Gut bacteria -> Rich brain formation for fetus

Up to सीमन्तोन्नयन Samskar, pregnant mother lives routine life as गृहिणी and she takes care home as head of the family. After सीमन्तोन्नयन samskar, mother becomes अगृहिणी and relieves from daily chores. Generally, this samskar is performed around 6 or 7th month. Last 2-3 months are critical for brain and mind development. This is the time when pregnant mother must live stress-free life.

Stress-free life -> Rich Gut bacteria -> Rich brain formation for fetus
Now slap all dumb driven cattle who debate with you that dharmic rituals are useless.

Becoming अगृहिणी plays CRITICAL role in development of healthy brain and gut for newborn.
Same role is played by breast-feeding.
For reference, read article shared in comment.

Hint: Ideal stress-free life is possible when you live with mother i.e. Pregnant’s mother and/or mother nature. Farm life. Jungle life. Mother’s home.

If you are pregnant or expecting soon, take care! No stress of whatsoever!! Even if a building collapses in front of you, smile! 🙂 Develop that level of intolerance towards stress. 🙂



Pregnant mother’s stress affects baby’s gut and brain

Pregnant women may pass on the effects of stress to their fetus by way of bacterial changes in their vagina, suggests a study in mice. It may affect how well their baby’s brain is equipped to deal with stress in adulthood.

The bacteria in our body outnumber our own cells by about 10 to 1, with most of them found in our gut. Over the last few years, it has become clear that the bacterial ecosystem in our body – our microbiome – is essential for developing and maintaining a healthy immune system.

Our gut bugs also help to prevent germs from invading our bodies, and help to absorb nutrients from food.

A baby gets its first major dose of bacteria in life as it passes through its mother’s birth canal. En route, the baby ingests the mother’s vaginal microbes, which begin to colonise the newborn’s gut.

Chris Howerton, then at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, and his colleagues wanted to know if this initial population of bacteria is important in shaping a baby’s neurological development, and whether that population is influenced by stress during pregnancy.

Stressful pregnancy

The first step was to figure out what features of the mother’s vaginal microbiome might be altered by stress, and then see if any of those changes were transmitted to the offspring’s gut.

To do this, the team exposed 10 pregnant mice to a different psychologically stressful experience, such as exposing them to fox odour, keeping their cages lit at night, or temporarily restraining them every day for what would be the equivalent of the first trimester of their pregnancy. Another 10 pregnant mice were housed normally during the same time.

The team took samples of their vaginal bacteria throughout the pregnancy and again just after the mice had given birth. These samples were genetically sequenced to see what types of bacteria were present.

The microbiomes of the stressed mice were remarkably different to those of the unstressed mice after they had each given birth. There were more types of bacteria present, and the proportion of one common gut bacteria, Lactobacillus, was significantly reduced.


Father or First Guru : Extinct Relation

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Father-Child Relation
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लालयेत पंच वर्षांणि, दश वर्षांणि ताडयेत | प्राप्ते तु षोडशे वर्षे, पुत्रं मित्रं वदाचरेत |

Once a child reaches age 5, father’s job become critical. It is father who is first teacher before child is enrolled to Gurukul/school.

Problem with west is that they don’t have vision of Guru-pita. Pitatulya Guru! Once a child is enrolled to the Gurukul, it is fatherly Guru who takes care of them!! Imagine how mighty generation we can produce when society is blessed by fatherly Guru(s) and Gurukul(s).

Do you have time-luxury or you are done providing material luxury to your children?

As per one study, Children who spend time with their fathers have a higher IQ[1] ! What about those unfortunate urban children whose dads are always busy in career pursuits? Dad leave for the job when children are sleeping and dad return home in night when again children are sleeping! No school or teacher or nanny or toys or games can fill in this vital gap of father’s presence! And same applies to mothers! Do not escape by buying some toy for your children. Spend time as they want more of your presence!

Take care. Spend as much possible time with your children! You are what you are because your parents cared so much of you!

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Children who spend large amounts of time with their fathers have higher IQs, according to a new study.

Strong fatherly involvement in their early life can also improve a child’s future career prospects, the research shows.

The researchers warned that it was not enough for parents to live together, but that a father should be actively involved in a child’s life to benefit their development.

The study looked at more than 11,000 British men and women, born in 1958.

The more effort a father invests in his children, the smarter they are as kids and more successful as adults, new research shows. And highly educated fathers make even more of a difference than less educated dads, all things being equal.

“It’s not [just] about having dad around, it’s about what kind of dad he is,” says Daniel Nettle, a psychologist at the University of Newcastle, UK, who led the new analysis, based on surveys of more than 10,000 children over half a century.

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