Child Development

Child Development

Toxic Chemicals and Your child’s brain


Toxic chemicals can affect children either (1) directly, by damaging brain cells, or (2) indirectly, either (a) through epigenetic changes (many of which occur during pregnancy) or (b) by mimicking naturally occurring hormones, and thus tipping a delicate balance.
Children are particularly vulnerable to toxic exposure for two reasons: (1) their brains are growing and changing rapidly, particularly the younger they are, and so there are many more “processes” going on daily that can be potentially altered and (2) because their bodies are small, thus the same amount of toxic chemicals equates to higher percentage of body weight, the smaller the child.
The younger the child, the greater the risk of toxic exposure, with pregnancy being a particularly critical time.

Please read more here:

Toxic Chemicals and Your Child’s Brain

August 6, 2015

STOP Fear Mongering Children



“यहाँ से चालीस-चालीस कोस दूर तक जब रात में बच्चा रोता है तो माँ कहती है बेटा सो जा नहीं तो गब्बर आ जायेगा|”
Being a parent, I often observe other parents, so to learn from them. One common thing I observed is that many parents engage in fear mongering to serve the purpose (to make the child sleep or the feed the child etc).

This is highly insensitive practice.

As per Charak Samhita (The Ayurvedic Authority Scripture)

“न ह्यस्य वित्रासनं साधु तस्मात्तस्मिन् रुदत्यभुञ्जाने वाऽन्यत्र विधेयतामगच्छति राक्षसपिशाचपूतनाद्यानां नामान्याह्वयता कुमारस्य वित्रासनार्थं नामग्रहणं न कार्यं स्यात् |” [1]

“Never ever engage in fear mongering. Even if child does not eat, cries and does mischief, do not engage in fear mongering. Never use imaginary characters like भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना etc to threaten them. Do not show them shadows as भुत, राक्षस,पिशाच,पूतना”

This practice subconsciously kills their inborn fearlessness and will lead to mild to severe mental issues in adult life. Avoid. This is the challenge of being parent. Learn creative ways to convince child and not the shortcut i.e. fear mongering or threatening. Such parenting will lead you to loss at the end. Take care.

Fear mongering (or scaremongering or scare tactics) is the use of fear to influence the opinions and actions of others towards some specific end. The feared object or subject is sometimes exaggerated, and the pattern of fear mongering is usually one of repetition, in order to continuously reinforce the intended effects of this tactic, sometimes in the form of a vicious circle.




Season Driven Pregnancy Planning

This is very critical note.


In sane dharma driven society, all activities are planned based on ऋत| All stages of life , all stages of year – they were respected while planning any new step in life.

मुहूर्त for Marriage is not mere some auspicious day but a perfect date to plan गृहस्थी! Based on innate nature of the male and female planning to marry, which is being reflected in their Kundali(s), perfect date is planned. A date that respects stages of would-be पति-पत्नी. A date that respects season of the year. A date that can help them to planned best progeny. Now this date is only used for Honeymoon planning! And sadly, most births happen by accident, without मुहूर्त, without desire to invite soul in best physical body!

The best way to reduce a child’s chances of developing asthma might be making sure Mom had enough vitamin D during the second trimester, a new study from the University of Kansas shows.

Solution? Go back to roots. Respect seasons. Identify वसंत’s love from वर्षा’s lust.

In this research, it is shown how sunlight exposure in specific trimester affects immunity of the child.

This is very easy to observe. Most pregnant mothers in higher middle class and elite class, spend their time in controlled AC home/office during pregnancy with MINIMAL exposure to the sun. In slums, it is forced non-exposure to the sun.

Auto-immune disorders are inevitable in such situations. 🙁

In short, The Sun, our प्राण-powerhouse, our father, is taking care of Mother Earth’s womb. And we must get exposure to it, to replenish our daily प्राण requirements. For pregnant mothers, it becomes critical because they are shaping one more universe in their womb.


If you don’t have asthma, maybe it’s because Mom experienced a sunny second trimester, health economist finds

The best way to reduce a child’s chances of developing asthma might be making sure Mom had enough vitamin D during the second trimester, a new study from the University of Kansas shows.

The most cost-effective way to get Mom more vitamin D could be as simple as health recommendations that consider the benefits of soaking up a little more sun, a practical and cost-effective way to get a dose of D.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 12 of us in the U.S. suffers from asthma.

“Our health system spends billions and billions treating asthma, and there’s lots and lots of opportunity costs,” said David Slusky, assistant professor of economics. “Pain and suffering, loss of productivity and premature death — asthma has all of those.”

When resources are being used inefficiently, that’s when Slusky and his fellow economists like to step in.

They knew about a recent medical hypothesis by Scott Weiss and Augusto Litonjua, both of whom are physicians with Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston and professors at Harvard Medical School. Weiss and Litonjua hypothesize that vitamin D levels in the second trimester of pregnancy influence the probability that a fetus will develop asthma later in life.

Slusky and colleagues Nils Wernerfelt of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and Richard Zeckhauser of Harvard’s Kennedy School put the medical hypothesis to the test using an economist’s tools, such as survey and health data.

“This is the golden age in the way that data about hospital discharges, insurance claims, birth certificates and death certificates are more and more available and more and more set up for researchers,” Slusky said. “And that allows economists to get really large sample sizes with not a lot of cost.”

Using data from hospital discharges in two states and from a national survey, Slusky and his colleagues looked at where and when asthmatics were born.

Then the economists looked at the measurements of sunlight in the birth locations when the asthmatics’ mothers would have been in their second trimesters.  Sunlight is where Americans get more than 90 percent of our vitamin D.

Ideal Mother – Vedic Perspective



Ideal mother. Check, do you fit in this ideals? If not, improve! This precious time will not return!

Modern mothers are stressful. They spend time in negative environment. They hardly have order in life. Chaos everywhere. All wrong attitudes. They strive to teach kid, how to earn more money. Ideals – they don’t care. Modern mothers are ever busy in unimportant events and activities. Modern mother cannot forget that now she is not college going teen and as a mother, she needs to alter her role in family. Modern mother wants to party all night, want go for a movie when a child is sleeping etc etc.

Ignorance and carelessness.

Subodh Kumar ji shared wonderful compilation. DO read and act.

Mother’s Role in bringing up progenyRV10.153 Child Training by Mother
ऋषि: देवजामयो देवमातरो=देवताओं को जन्म देने वाली जिन की सन्तान में इन्द्र के गुण होते हैं ऐसी माताएं । देवता: इन्द्रो । गायत्री ।
1.ईङ्खयन्तीरपस्युव इन्द्रं जातमुपासते । भेजानस: सुवीर्यम् ।। 10.153.1
आस्तिक विश्वास रखने वाली माताएं क्रियाशील स्वयं सुव्यवस्थित संयमी जीवनशैलि द्वारा ही संतान को संयमी जितेंद्रिय बना पाती हैं.
Mother having faith –positive thinking, proactive living an orderly life only are able to imbibe the right attitudes in the infant child.
2.त्वमिन्द्र बलादधि सहसो जात ओजस: । त्वं वृषन् वृषेदसि ।। 10.153.2
ऐसी माता बालक को जीवन में जितेंद्रिय हो कर बल से, ओज से, उत्साह से शक्ति सम्पन्न बनाती हैं.
Mother instills the attitudes of self confidence, self reliance and action oriented life in the child .
3.त्वमिन्द्रासि वृत्रहा व्य1न्तरिक्षमतिर: । उद् द्यामस्तभ्ना ओजसा ।। 10.153.3
जिस प्रकार आकाश में मेघ को छिन्न भिन्न करके पृथ्वी पर उत्तम जीवन स्थापित होता है उसी प्रकार माता ही बालक के मस्तिष्क को संसार में विघ्नकारी शक्तियों का विध्वंस करके उत्कृष्ट ज्ञान सम्पन्न बना कर समाज में सुख शांति स्थापित करने का व्यक्तित्व स्थापित करती है.
Mother instils the confidence to never accept defeat and develop a mind to take the wider view of in life. Defeat all negative forces to bring welfare and health for society by taking lesson from the elements how the clouds in the sky are smashed to provide life and health on earth.
4.त्वमिन्द्र सजोषसमर्कं बिभर्षि बाह्वो: । वज्रं शिशान ओजसा ।।RV 10.153.4
माता ही संतान में शारीरिक शक्ति , स्वास्थ्य और मानसिक आत्मबल की नींव डालती है.
Mother has to cultivate in the child Physical strength to provide him with an aura of strong proactive and sharp personality.
5.त्वमिन्द्राभिभूरसि विश्वा जातान्योजसा । स विश्वा भुव आभव: ।।
अपने ओज से समस्त शत्रुओं को पराभूत करता है.
He grows to achieve an incandescent aura
overcome all the negative forces by his efforts , on
earth and space.

Storytelling and Child Development


Storytelling is an art. When the subjects are children, it is extremely delicate art. The child is more likely to relate and respond to something familiar than unfamiliar. Something familiar is something experienced. The sensory experiences. Sensory experiences are directly related to the local environment. So stories of desert has more impact for children growing in desert than children growing in jungle. Even single moral story should have different regional and local shades.

Instead of creative diversity, we have one syllabus for all. 🙂
Instead of local shades in stories, we have plots based on totally alien lands. 🙂

Stories have potent ability to act as growth therapy. Therapy to help child grow naturally with ever expanding senses. And so it plays critical role in child development.

No story = Limited intellectual and mental growth.

For story to act as therapy, the story itself—the characters, events, and settings—must speak to the common life experience of those listening, and it must do so in language that is familiar.

Roots, Connected, effective
Roots, Connected, effective
Unknown, forceful connect
Unknown, forceful connect

I really doubt impact and therapeutic effectiveness of stories based on alien setup and foreign language. So much stress and confusion for a child!

Local stories + Foreign language = English Ramayana => No
Foreign stories + Mother tongue => Not a best option. Doable if the plot is changed based on local environment.

Stories in mother tongue with familiar plots based on local environment, rituals and living standards – best therapeutic impact!

We don’t have one Ramayana. There are at least 300 versions of Ramayana. 🙂 And countless local language versions! 🙂

Now we have only version: Ramanand Sagar’s version 😉

Children, Food Selection and Convoluted Logic


There was a comment on my post on industrial meat and brain infection relation. It was like this:

Though I am a vegetarian, I feel bad when I see my non-veg eating friends who are more fit and comparatively more disease free. They do no have Vitamin B12 deficiency issues. Few proudly say:

“I am eating food (veg/non-veg) in hotels from last 15 years, I am perfectly healthy”.

“I eat and drink everything without thinking much about it, I have no health problem”

This article and my observations are not matching. There are several times I feel that I should start having meat.

I also receive same comments from many of my real life friends and relatives. One rational and so called liberal friend argued with me last night: ” I eat all kinds of food all the time for more than a decade. I am healthy so will be my child. I want my child to be fearless and eat anything and prepare body.”

🙂 This is I recognize as Convoluted logic to defend personal weaknesses.

First of all: Do we live life to eat or eat to live? Think about it.

Second: I really am not positive for adults past-25 age changing their habits. It hardly happens until they reach 40 and body stops supporting their habits. I prefer not to convince them.

What I am worried about and expect change is about our children. Future of Bharat. If we can guide children and provide them environment for healthy habits, we can envision much stronger generation than what we have at present. That is the opportunity we should focus on.

My response to this friend:

“Children eat and drink more than adults in relation to their body weight, and so take in relatively more residues.US figures show that, generally, children in the first six months of life consume seven times more water per kg of body weight than does the average adult.

Include artificial fruit juices, baby foods and all range of so called healthy but processed foods! 🙂

So who is more susceptible to toxins in processed and chemically grown food? We or our kids?

Take care. In your false arrogance and careless attitude towards food selection, you are doing injustice to growing possibilities in your child.”

So, it is idiotic and monstrous when you force your kid to eat same filthy restaurant food. Just because you don’t like cooking or have tongue-lust, your kid will suffer! I remember, I never eat outside food until I joined engineering college away from home. And I never felt the needed because my beloved mother cooked all superb food for us 🙂


Infants and young children have specific nutritional needs. They need up to 7 times more nutrients than an adult (per kg body weight). Therefore, with every spoon, a child has to eat significantly more nutrients than an adult.

Read this to realize and stop treating your kid as adult, for their food, entertainment and other needs!

Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant

Don’t Mimic Fatherless America!



Have you ever thought why media is paid so heavily to spread perversion in society? Be it TV serial or news, there is unlimited sell of affairs, perversion and sex.

here is this program on Life Ok which telecast sleazy scenes and stories for 24×7. Especially when the home-makers are idle at in middle class homes i.e. afternoon and late evening.

There are cases reported where teens took inspiration from this show and performed brutal murders of family members.

Do you know why all of this?

Breaking India.


Break family institution.

कुलक्षये प्रणश्यन्ति कुलधर्मा: सनातना:।
धर्मे नष्टे कुलं कृत्स्नमधर्मोऽभिभवत्युत ।।१.४०।।

कुल के नाश से सनातन कुलधर्म नष्ट हो जाते हैं, धर्म के नाश हो जाने पर सम्पूर्ण कुल में पाप भी बहुत फैल जाता है |

Development of civilization pays high tribute to virtue of family system कुल-धर्मं. Lack of कुल-धर्मं/Family system promotes अधर्म. Resulting danger to society and civilization is troublesome. Hope, people understand this by keeping their modernism and wantonly living.

Due to proliferation of delusional properties about self-centered living imported from west, Indian family system is passing through worst time ever. Increase in break-ups, divorces, old-age homes, orphanages, need based marriages, misuse of laws show surely that it is not a good situation. When families are destroyed, Nation suffers.

Take care. Save family from collapse.

Below is must read Essay. Remember one thing – once the family-fabric is broken, it is very easy to control the society.

And for some of us who see American Society as ideal, rethink.

We must not walk on their path blindly.

Article Showcase

Fatherless America by David Blankenhorn

Fatherhood in America is in trouble. David Blankenhorn, in his book, Fatherless America, has dissected the crisis, pointing to several critical problems. More and more children are now being brought up in homes where the father is absent. Many doubt the traditional roles of fathers. Some are even asking if fathers are really necessary.

Blankenhorn has developed a typology to describe our situation. The deadbeat dad doesn’t pay his child support. He is a bad guy, a criminal who belongs in jail. The key issue here is not father absence, but money absence. His fatherhood is measured in dollars.

The visiting father is a shadow dad. He has left the home but he still stops by. He is a visitor: part father and part stranger. He pays his child support. He causes no trouble. He loves his kids. He wants to be a good father, but he’s not around. He has been, in a sense, de-fathered. The fatherhood of the sperm father is completely biological. He is a one-act dad, who leaves no footprints and casts no shadow. He never shows up. He is the perfect father for those who think “that men in families are either unnecessary or part of the problem.”1

Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood



Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood

When a child need parents most, parents are busy with career growth, promotions, material wealth accumulation and petty Cricket and Bollywood type passive armchair entertainment!

Obviously, it impacts growing minds in family.

And then, the pill generation rely upon pills as solution for mental disorders!

Many children of 21st century suffer from poor concentration, hyperactivity, and learning difficulties. Modern medicine declare it as disorder! Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder! ADHD! 🙂

These all symptoms are more related to mind than body. Food also play role but supporting role. Problem is with environment children receive as legacy. Stressed parents, family infighting, toxic food, polluted air, polluted homes, lack of love reciprocated by parents and over-use of technology and screens at home – these are some root causes I found around.

And as you read root causes, solutions are very simple.
But what do children get from doctors?

More chemicals! Ritalin is a popular name of this neurotic drug!
Read the side-effects! Avoid it! Save your kid from further mental trauma! Provide better environment and see the magic!

Read this to realize side effects of CNS stimulant!!


Ritalin Side effects


Sleep and Rest : Critical Role


SLEEP IS CRITICAL in child development. Sleep deprived children face difficulties in learning.

Babies and young children make giant developmental leaps all of the time. Sometimes, it seems, even overnight they figure out how to recognize certain shapes or what the word “no” means no matter who says it.

But wait! Our parents are selfish. They want their late night entertainment – cricket, movies and talks! So children too develop habit of sleeping at late night.


Sleep deprivation! And all unfortunate learning delays!

Take care of sleep!



From Learning in Infancy to Planning Ahead in Adulthood: Sleep’s Vital Role for Memory

Babies and young children make giant developmental leaps all of the time. Sometimes, it seems, even overnight they figure out how to recognize certain shapes or what the word “no” means no matter who says it. It turns out that making those leaps could be a nap away: New research finds that infants who nap are better able to apply lessons learned to new skills, while preschoolers are better able to retain learned knowledge after napping.

“Sleep plays a crucial role in learning from early in development,” says Rebecca Gómez of the University of Arizona. She will be presenting her new work, which looks specifically at how sleep enables babies and young children to learn language over time, at the Cognitive Neuroscience Society (CNS) annual meeting in Boston today, as part of a symposium on sleep and memory.

“We want to show that sleep is not just a necessary evil for the organism to stay functional,” says Susanne Diekelmann of the University of Tübingen in Germany who is chairing the symposium. “Sleep is an active state that is essential for the formation of lasting memories.”

A growing body of research shows how memories become reactivated during sleep, and new work is shedding light on exactly when and how memories get stored and reactivated. “Sleep is a highly selective state that preferentially strengthens memories that are relevant for our future behavior,” Diekelmann says. “Sleep can also abstract general rules from single experiences, which helps us to deal more efficiently with similar situations in the future.”

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Healthy kid Delusion



Lean means lack of excess flesh. Clinically thin means lack of flesh due to deficiency.

Most pediatricians are not taught this difference. Forget about parents, they are brainwashed by media. For parents, fat or excess flesh is sign of health.

As per my observations, lean but active, with no visible sign of any type of deficiency are children with high emotional and intellectual capacity. 
When parents of such kids approach me, I suggest them no food advices but prescribe to spend more time with Mother Nature so that kids Sattva is nurtured. Naturally lean spend more energy at brain then fat conversion.

But not all kids are fortunate. They are prescribed feeding formulas. Extra digestion burden. Some of them lose nature’s gift. Like Hanuman’s amnesia, they too forget their real potential due to parental and doctor’s ignorance.

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