Your kid is not your phone or robot that it will work same as your friend’s phone or robot. Did you give birth to kid to mold him/her as robot? Why wasted so much biological energy then? You could have bought robot from market. There is no factory settings for kids that you can reset. Once you inject trauma by showing him/her inferior to others, it is imprinted. You restrict their growth! They are here to realize their own fate. Do not interrupt with your crazy idea to mold him as some ideal.
Psychological trauma generated by comparison is very difficult to soothe. And is permanent loss of child’s opportunity to grow uniquely.
Not only parents, school teachers often engage in same nasty mistake. Keep an eye on school teachers too. Stop them comparing your precious jewel with other jewels. No two diamonds can be of same size and shape.
World ahead is tough. Those who are like sheep (which will happen if you want your kid like others’ kids) will be wiped out by the challenges of the world. Make sure your kid grow as unique person and not copycat of someone’s kid. And yet he or she is wise enough to participate in community living.