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Grey Matter Regulation : Why Brahmcharya for Adolescent age?

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ADdicted Teens

If I or any well-wisher of Bharat-Bhumi prescribes Brahmcharya to young generation, not only targeted teens, their parents, media and all, will laugh and mock. That is what happens when society act as zombie and react as zombie! We really no more live sensible life where there is high respect for body and mind. We only believe in exploiting  body and mind for short term gratification.

Let us discuss relation between Gray matter and conspicuous consumption of senses.

What Grey Matter?

Grey matter contains most of the brain’s neuronal cell bodies. The grey matter includes regions of the brain involved in muscle control, and sensory perception such as seeing and hearing, memory, emotions, speech, decision making, and self-control.[1]

When your teens are brainwashed by free-sex propaganda…

Researchers found less grey matter in the brains of men who watched large amounts of sexually explicit material, according to a new study.[2]

“Individuals with lower striatum volume may need more external stimulation to experience pleasure and might therefore experience pornography consumption as more rewarding, which may in turn lead to” more porn watching, said the authors, concluding that more study is needed.

More porn and/or more sex => Less grey matter => dying neural pathways => Inability to perform simple tasks without motivation

Brahmcharya? Ever heard about it? Follow it or perish/become zombie!

“Just as when you remove the internet connection to your computer you won’t get your email anymore, there are white matter pathways which result in large scale communication failures in the brain when damaged,” Van Horn said.
When white matter pathways are damaged, brain areas served by those connections may wither or have their functions taken over by other brain regions, the researchers explain. Irimia and Van Horn’s research on core white matter connections is part of a worldwide scientific effort to map the 100 billion neurons and 1,000 trillion connections in the living human brain, led by the Human Connectome Project and the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at USC.”

Imagine teens of 2018 – even moderately, without exposure to internet porn, they are being bombarded daily with Sunny Leone and ilk like her.

When teens of 2018 will become adults of 2020, we will have more mentally challenged citizens than ever in past. More suicides, more violence against women and more crimes. Mark my words.

Bloody nonsense condom ads making youth सत्वविहीन, ओजसविहीन – good for nothing weak breed.

Foolish doctors write in articles that sperms are auto-generated daily. Have sex as many times you want! Morons, who will compensate सत्व,ओजस & white matter in brain!

And sick intellectuals compare porn with Khajuraho & Kamasutra!

Days are not far when modern medical science will start accepting पञ्चकोशीय शरीर विज्ञान

What is solution? Is there any way we can bring back addicted-teens to normalcy?

Here is the way to increase gray matter : Meditation

Any doubt why in ancient Gurukul education, Yoga and meditation was de-facto standard?

Mindfulness practice leads to increases in regional brain gray matter density [3]

Therapeutic interventions that incorporate training in mindfulness meditation have become increasingly popular, but to date, little is known about neural mechanisms associated with these interventions. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), one of the most widely used mindfulness training programs, has been reported to produce positive effects on psychological well-being and to ameliorate symptoms of a number of disorders. Here, we report a controlled longitudinal study to investigate pre-post changes in brain gray matter concentration attributable to participation in an MBSR program. Anatomical MRI images from sixteen healthy, meditation-naïve participants were obtained before and after they underwent the eight-week program. Changes in gray matter concentration were investigated using voxel-based morphometry, and compared to a wait-list control group of 17 individuals. Analyses in a priori regions of interest confirmed increases in gray matter concentration within the left hippocampus. Whole brain analyses identified increases in the posterior cingulate cortex, the temporo-parietal junction, and the cerebellum in the MBSR group compared to the controls. The results suggest that participation in MBSR is associated with changes in gray matter concentration in brain regions involved in learning and memory processes, emotion regulation, self-referential processing, and perspective taking.

References:

[1] VARIATION WITH AGE IN THE VOLUMES OF GREY AND WHITE MATTER IN THE CEREBRAL HEMISPHERES OF MAN: MEASUREMENTS WITH AN IMAGE ANALYSER

The total volumes and relative quantities of grey and white matter have been measured in sixty‐five normal male and sixty‐five normal female cerebral hemispheres. Fixed hemisphere volume was found to fall linearly at 35% per decade for men from 641 ml at the age of 20 to 463 ml at the age of 100. For women the decrease was 1–9% per decade from 531 ml at 20 years to 462 ml at 100 years. After correction for the effects of fixation and for the secular increase in brain size, it was concluded that mean hemisphere volume remained roughly constant between the ages of 20 and 50 years (558 ml for men, 474 ml for women). After the age of 50 the mean volume in both sexes fell at about 2% per decade. The ratio of the volumes of grey to white matter was the same for the two sexes at all ages. Its mean value was 1–3 at the age of 20, falling to 11 at the age of 50, then rising steadily to over 1–5 at 100 years. It is impossible in practice to correct these measurements for the effects of fixation or secular change. Fourteen hemispheres from thirteen elderly female dements were also measured. The total volume was 18% lower than for an age‐matched group of normals, but the ratio of grey to white matter was identical.”

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2990.1980.tb00283.x

[2] https://luxtimes.lu/archives/16991-does-porn-affect-the-brain-scientists-urge-more-study

[3] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004979/

Drone Parenting (Modern Psychology) vs (Sutra) Chanakya’s Child Psychology

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Who decides what level documentation one should do?

अल्पाक्षरमसंदिग्धं सारवद्विश्वतो मुखम् ।
अस्तोभमनवद्यं च सूत्रं सूत्रविदो विदुः ॥

अल्पाक्षरता, असंदिग्धता, साररुप, सामान्य सिद्धांत, निरर्थक शब्द का अभाव, और दोषरहितत्व – ये छे ‘सूत्र’ के लक्षण कहे गये हैं ।

We believe in सूत्र level of documentation. If I really want my student to आत्मसात the subject, I will set him free by giving सूत्र | The real वीर will walk on the guided path (सूत्र) and derive his/her own conclusions based on स्थल, देश, काल!

so for parenting, very powerful sutra is given.

लालयेत् पंच वर्षाणि दश वर्षाणि ताडयेत्।
प्राप्ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रे मित्रवदाचरेत्।।

अर्थात- पाँच वर्ष की अवस्था तक पुत्र को लाड़ करना चाहिए, दस वर्ष की अवस्था तक (उसी की भलाई के लिए) उसे ताड़ना देना चाहिए और उसके सोलह वर्ष की अवस्था प्राप्त कर लेने पर उससे मित्रवत व्यवहार करना चाहिए।

We don’t care about the cultural legacy given as free gift and then run after half-baked western psychology. Take for example this concept of helicopter parenting!

It is not that easy to make 2 years set free. And at the same time, it is foolish to continuously observe 12 years old like a drone!


Research


http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2018/06/helicopter-parenting.aspx

Helicopter Parenting May Negatively Affect Children’s Emotional Well-Being, Behavior

It’s natural for parents to do whatever they can to keep their children safe and healthy, but children need space to learn and grow on their own, without Mom or Dad hovering over them, according to new research published by the American Psychological Association. The study, published in the journal Developmental Psychology®, found that overcontrolling parenting can negatively affect a child’s ability to manage his or her emotions and behavior.

“Our research showed that children with helicopter parents may be less able to deal with the challenging demands of growing up, especially with navigating the complex school environment,” said Nicole B. Perry, PhD, from the University of Minnesota, and lead author of the study. “Children who cannot regulate their emotions and behavior effectively are more likely to act out in the classroom, to have a harder time making friends and to struggle in school.”

Pregnancy and Parenting

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गर्भे षष्ठे मासे बुद्धि |
Ideally, the intellect comes at 6th month of gestation. When all ideal conditions are provided to mother.

When child comes to the world, it expects same womb like feeling. Instead of giving it all comforts it has in mother’s womb, we bombard selfie camera flash, noise and unnecessary touch!

Maintain sacredness between child and mother. Leave them alone for first 3-4 months. No relatives, no noise, no touching! Womb-like! Mother-child!

Story does not end when the child is delivered. We just switch the womb. In not so ideal conditions, like most of us are in, बुध्धि comes much later in life. This world,the macro-womb, helps us to gain level-headedness essential for self-realization.

Unfortunately, we lack द्रष्टि to realize mother’s womb. And fail to learn from all her vital hints. Instead, we perform suicidal acts and invite premature death. And the cycle goes on forever…the birth and death cycle…

There is nothing called ‘wasted life’. Just a wasted cycle.

We all are in the womb. Nurturing lives. Here and thereafter.

Not only your child! Society’s child, Nation’s child!

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There is a fashion of putting new born child pics on social network. Parents call newborn as ‘My child’!

Dear parents,

Not only your child! Society’s child. Nation’s child. Mother Earth’s child! Don’t forget to instill National fervor, in between your selfish possessive love impulses for newborn. Train them to live selfless life.

Your friend,
Marut
=================
” Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.”

Kahlil Gibran

Parents’ teen age secures child’s future

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TeenAge

Old note on parenting for teen age:

Right Age, Right Actions : No? Yes to Cervical cancer

This life is continuous uninterrupted journey. All our actions are recorded secretly (चित्रगुप्त या गुप्त चित्र) and passed on to next generation! Only selfish generation with think for self and never care about the future generations. Nothing but civilization blunder & societal suicide.

We are nothing but a link between past and future! Perform your duty well. Nurture your kids well so that they too can play their role efficiently.

Most important section of childhood is teen-age. Time when a kid is mature enough to know many things, developing layer upon layer on Ego in absence of right life-oriented education and a guide. This will turn them into yet another adult ready to be slave of master-slave system prevailing in the world.

We must act to break this chain. Read this research to realize importance of teen-parenting, role of resident Guru-centered schooling during teen age and


Research


Adolescence and the next generation

Adolescent growth and social development shape the early development of offspring from preconception through to the post-partum period through distinct processes in males and females. At a time of great change in the forces shaping adolescence, including the timing of parenthood, investments in today’s adolescents, the largest cohort in human history, will yield great dividends for future generations.

https://media.nature.com/lw926/nature-assets/nature/journal/v554/n7693/images/nature25759-f1.jpg
https://media.nature.com/lw926/nature-assets/nature/journal/v554/n7693/images/nature25759-f1.jpg

Puberty marks a transition to adolescence and a life phase during which girls and boys acquire resources that are essential for becoming parents of the next generation. It also marks the beginning of reproductive life with a transition to functional gamete production. The preconceptional phase (that is, adolescence) varies markedly in length carrying implications for the acquisition of the social, financial and educational assets and nutritional, health and interpersonal risks that underlie intergenerational processes. The three months before conception is a time of male and female gamete maturation when parental exposures, including nutrition, obesity, substance use, stress, endocrine disruptors and physical activity may influence gamete structure and function. Periconception includes fertilization of the maternal and paternal gametes as well as the zygote and embryonic phases that are sensitive to the maternal nutritional and hormonal environment. There continue to be direct maternal effects antenatally mediated through the in utero environment and postnatally through nutrition (for example, breastfeeding) and the maternal–infant relationship. Direct paternal influences grow in the postnatal phase through the paternal–infant relationship and potentially through risk exposures, such as paternal tobacco use. Maternal and paternal health, behaviour as well as social and economic circumstances continue to have an indirect effect on offspring development in both antenatal and postnatal phases.

https://www.nature.com/articles/nature25759

 

Cartoons on TV is not Story Telling!

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Cartoon
Parents of 21st century are groomed to believe that cartoons are great way to educate. So they introduce passive, one-way cartoons to children at very early age. And parents help kids to become addicted of the TV. Once the cartoon on TV becomes norms, cartoon goes and every other junk replaces it as kids grow. So teen-age kid will not only watch cartoon but also all junk.
 
Complete waste of potential minds.
 
We Indians have rich legacy of oral education culture. Real education and learning happen face to face, in human to human narration.
 
Humans simply aren’t moved to action by “data dumps,” dense PowerPoint slides, or spreadsheets packed with figures. People are moved by emotion. Results repeatedly show that our attitudes, fears, hopes, and values are strongly influenced by story. In fact, fiction seems to be more effective at changing beliefs than writing that is specifically designed to persuade through argument and evidence.
 
The psychologists Melanie Green and Tim Brock argue that entering fictional worlds “radically alters the way information is processed.” Green and Brock’s studies shows that the more absorbed readers are in a story, the more the story changes them. Highly absorbed readers also detected significantly fewer “false notes” in stories—inaccuracies, missteps—than less transported readers. Importantly, it is not just that highly absorbed readers detected the false notes and didn’t care about them (as when we watch a pleasurably idiotic action film). They were unable to detect the false notes in the first place.
 
So not only storytelling but which story you pick up is also critical. Take care.
 

Your kid, Mobile Screens and Delayed Motor skills development

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What will your kid do with Lego kit when he or she lacks primary motor skills?

This is alarming warning for parents who expose gadgets to kids in very early age (As early as 6 months!)

“Rising numbers of infants lack the motor skills needed to play with building blocks because of an “addiction” to tablet computers and smartphones, according to teachers.”

Your kids need maximum exposure to nature and not virtual farm. Understand this, sooner the better.

New link : https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationnews/10767878/Infants-unable-to-use-toy-building-blocks-due-to-iPad-addiction.html

Infants ‘unable to use toy building blocks’ due to iPad addiction

The Association of Teachers and Lecturers warn that rising numbers of children are unable to perform simple tasks such as using building blocks because of overexposure to iPads

Those who sell technology to us, keep their children away from technology!

News link: https://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/23/technology/at-waldorf-school-in-silicon-valley-technology-can-wait.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

A Silicon Valley School That Doesn’t Compute

The chief technology officer of eBay sends his children to a nine-classroom school here. So do employees of Silicon Valley giants like Google, Apple, Yahoo and Hewlett-Packard.

But the school’s chief teaching tools are anything but high-tech: pens and paper, knitting needles and, occasionally, mud. Not a computer to be found. No screens at all. They are not allowed in the classroom, and the school even frowns on their use at home.

Schools nationwide have rushed to supply their classrooms with computers, and many policy makers say it is foolish to do otherwise. But the contrarian point of view can be found at the epicenter of the tech economy, where some parents and educators have a message: computers and schools don’t mix.

Digital Family Time : Weapon to kill great future

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We watch TV while child is sleeping in another room. We continue with our activities even when child is crying and seeking our attention. We are on whatsapp when child’s eyes seek our attention for their activities. All these sums up as neglect. Neglect means impaired brain development

Research shows that parents who use their smartphone to escape the stress of their child’s bad behavior may be making it worse

 

 

Do you think, this is great parenting style?

Take care! All our activities are secondary when a growing child demands attention! Not only our child, all children of near and dear ones!

I shared research here :  which concludes that Brain White Matter Changes Seen in Children Who Experience Neglect 

Here is the new research, talking more on it.


Research


Digital devices during family time could exacerbate bad behavior

Parents who spend a lot of time on their phones or watching television during family activities such as meals, playtime, and bedtime could influence their long-term relationships with their children. This is according to Brandon T. McDaniel of Illinois State University and Jenny S. Radesky of the University of Michigan Medical School, both in the US, who say so called “technoference” can lead children to show more frustration, hyperactivity, whining, sulking or tantrums. The study in the journal Pediatric Research, which is published by Springer Nature, examines the role and impact digital devices play in parenting and child behavior.

Technoference* is defined as everyday interruptions in face-to-face interactions because of technology devices. Recent studies estimate that parents use television, computers, tablets and smartphones for nine hours per day on average. A third of this time is spent on smartphones, which due to their portability are often used during family activities such as meals, playtime, and bedtime – all important times involved in shaping a child’s social-emotional wellbeing. When parents are on their devices research shows that they have fewer conversations with their children and are more hostile when their offspring try to get their attention.

In this study, 172 two-parent families (total of 337 parents) with a child age 5 years or younger answered online questionnaires as part of a research project about parenting and family relationships conducted between 2014 and 2016. Participants indicated how often per day different devices interrupted their conversations or activities with their children. Parents rated their child’s internalizing behavior such as how often they sulked or how easily their feelings were hurt, as well as their externalizing behavior, such as how angry or easily frustrated they were. The parents also reported on their own levels of stress and depression, the coparenting support they received from their partners, and their child’s screen media use.

In almost all cases, one device or more intruded in parent-child interactions at some stage during the day. Technology may serve as a refuge for parents who have to cope with difficult child behavior. However, the survey results showed that this tactic had its drawbacks. Electronic device use likely deprives parents of the opportunity to provide meaningful emotional support and positive feedback to their children which causes their offspring to revert to even more problematic behaviour such as throwing tantrums or sulking. This only added to parents’ stress levels, likely leading to more withdrawal with technology, and the cycle continues.

“These results support the idea that relationships between parent technoference and child externalizing behavior are transactional and influence each other over time,” says McDaniel. “In other words, parents who have children with more externalizing problems become more stressed, which may lead to their greater withdrawal with technology, which in turn may contribute to more child externalizing problems.”

https://www.springer.com/gp/about-springer/media/research-news/all-english-research-news/digital-devices-during-family-time-could-exacerbate-bad-behavior/15838792

Faulty Parenting leads to addictive tendency

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Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.[1]

Parenting

• Nuclear family structure,
• Frequently changing job locations and hence frequently changing neighborhoods,
• Lack of empathic teachers
• Lack of attachment with local culture, mother tongue
• Constant struggle between parents
• Parents – more attention for individual self-interest than child-interest or family-interest

All above contributes largely in lack of emotions and love relations for growing child

Result?

Addiction and abuse.
Solution?
Pause. Go back to your roots. Joint family. Stability over career growth. Time spent in searching quality food over time spent on entertainment.
Lot more to learn from your dead grandparents. Sooner, better.

Moment a thought process for child planning start to child’s upanayan samskar (age 6 to 12 – depending upon child’s capacity), all parents should aim for stability over personal achievements. At least, we can do this in our chaotic times


Research


 

[1]

Oxytocin in learning and addiction: From early discoveries to the present

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0091305713003183

Abstract

Oxytocin (OXT) has a plethora of effects on brain function. This review provides a historical overview of the development of research on OXT and drug addiction. By focusing on research that has emerged from our laboratories, we describe how early discoveries of the influence of OXT on learning and memory processes and the emerging conceptualization of addiction as ‘pathological learning’ have contributed to the demonstration that OXT effectively attenuates long-term neuroadaptation related to opiate and psychostimulant addiction. Through integrating earlier evidence with recent discoveries of the social/affiliative role of OXT, we propose that OXT may interfere with reward and addiction by influencing neurobiological processes involved in stress, learning and memory and social/affiliative behavior.

Can ‘love hormone’ protect against addiction?

http://www.adelaide.edu.au/news/news69442.html

Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.

The groundbreaking idea has resulted from a review of worldwide research into oxytocin, known as the “love hormone” or “bonding drug” because of its important role in enhancing social interactions, maternal behaviour and partnership.

This month’s special edition of the international journal Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior deals with the current state of research linking oxytocin and addiction, and has been guest edited by Dr Femke Buisman-Pijlman from the University of Adelaide’s School of Medical Sciences.

Dr Buisman-Pijlman, who has a background in both addiction studies and family studies, says some people’s lack of resilience to addictive behaviours may be linked to poor development of their oxytocin systems.

“We know that newborn babies already have levels of oxytocin in their bodies, and this helps to create the all-important bond between a mother and her child. But our oxytocin systems aren’t fully developed when we’re born – they don’t finish developing until the age of three, which means our systems are potentially subject to a range of influences both external and internal,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

She says the oxytocin system develops mainly based on experiences.

“The main factors that affect our oxytocin systems are genetics, gender and environment. You can’t change the genes you’re born with, but environmental factors play a substantial role in the development of the oxytocin system until our systems are fully developed,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

“Previous research has shown that there is a high degree of variability in people’s oxytocin levels. We’re interested in how and why people have such differences in oxytocin, and what we can do about it to have a beneficial impact on people’s health and wellbeing,” she says.

Most Dangerous Ads : By children, for children

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Flipkart ads

Any Ad that exploit children is sick and eunuch effort to sell products. TATA Sky’s new Ad series is such example. It is instigating children against parents (मम्मी कहतीहै टीवी मत देखो…see how fool my mom is)

What TV can teach, you can easily demonstrate. Benefit of you replacing TV is: You interact with child for more time. More time your spend with your kid, better brain growth happens. This is biological truth. If you do not agree with this, all the best 🙂.

In some homes, Kids love TV more than spending time with parents. I can sense the reason behind it: Parents are disinterested spending time with kids and are more interested in their own entertainment. Before this repeat with your family, take care. If you see loss of affection for you from kids, you have difficult old age 🙂 😉. And you deserve difficult old age! 😛

 

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