Seeds of corrupt society in ignored parenting



Ignore giving moral and strength inducing education to 8 year old and the Nation pays for your stupid mistake for next 60 years till your beloved son lives.

Lack of morals and ethics -> Cunning and opportunistic youth -> Coward and delusional Adult

Destroy growth of ब्रह्मचर्य (Youth below 25) -> गृहस्थी will collapse and struggle to sustain life and in that struggle, they will become corrupt and when same गृहस्थी would turn वानप्रस्थी, he is already tired so he will remain passive वानप्रस्थी.

If all retired citizens, 60+ of age, meet and take up mission against Govt. There is nothing to lose but surely many things to win!

One must understand his/her duty in वानप्रस्थ आश्रम.

Alas! Our old age guys are busy in time pass, recalling their golden time, old time movies and all… or they are too weak and powerlees in old age homes…or they have not yet retired and harassing their children in their businesses…

Parents’ teen age secures child’s future



Old note on parenting for teen age:

Right Age, Right Actions : No? Yes to Cervical cancer

This life is continuous uninterrupted journey. All our actions are recorded secretly (चित्रगुप्त या गुप्त चित्र) and passed on to next generation! Only selfish generation with think for self and never care about the future generations. Nothing but civilization blunder & societal suicide.

We are nothing but a link between past and future! Perform your duty well. Nurture your kids well so that they too can play their role efficiently.

Most important section of childhood is teen-age. Time when a kid is mature enough to know many things, developing layer upon layer on Ego in absence of right life-oriented education and a guide. This will turn them into yet another adult ready to be slave of master-slave system prevailing in the world.

We must act to break this chain. Read this research to realize importance of teen-parenting, role of resident Guru-centered schooling during teen age and


Adolescence and the next generation

Adolescent growth and social development shape the early development of offspring from preconception through to the post-partum period through distinct processes in males and females. At a time of great change in the forces shaping adolescence, including the timing of parenthood, investments in today’s adolescents, the largest cohort in human history, will yield great dividends for future generations.

Puberty marks a transition to adolescence and a life phase during which girls and boys acquire resources that are essential for becoming parents of the next generation. It also marks the beginning of reproductive life with a transition to functional gamete production. The preconceptional phase (that is, adolescence) varies markedly in length carrying implications for the acquisition of the social, financial and educational assets and nutritional, health and interpersonal risks that underlie intergenerational processes. The three months before conception is a time of male and female gamete maturation when parental exposures, including nutrition, obesity, substance use, stress, endocrine disruptors and physical activity may influence gamete structure and function. Periconception includes fertilization of the maternal and paternal gametes as well as the zygote and embryonic phases that are sensitive to the maternal nutritional and hormonal environment. There continue to be direct maternal effects antenatally mediated through the in utero environment and postnatally through nutrition (for example, breastfeeding) and the maternal–infant relationship. Direct paternal influences grow in the postnatal phase through the paternal–infant relationship and potentially through risk exposures, such as paternal tobacco use. Maternal and paternal health, behaviour as well as social and economic circumstances continue to have an indirect effect on offspring development in both antenatal and postnatal phases.


Father, Oxytocin and Parenting


Fathers are now industrial slaves. They are also entertainment and personal gratification slaves. Hardly get time to gel with kids. Forget about bonding. So oxytocin is always in scarce in blood.

For men, oxytocin function is less important, but it does have a role to play in moving sperm. It also appears to affect the production of testosterone in the testes.
A recent oxytocin study found that it is an important chemical messenger that controls some human behaviors and social interaction. It is oxytocin that triggers the bond between a mother and an infant, and it may also play a role in recognition, sexual arousal, trust and anxiety. Some research shows that the hormone may affect addiction and stress as well.

No wonder why so many teens now display anti-social behaviour. Autism or autism like symptoms are rampant.

First 5-7 years are very critical. If you want your child to grow as sensible citizen, shower your love, as much as possible.


Intranasal oxytocin, but not vasopressin, augments neural responses to toddlers in human fathers

Fathers given boosts of the hormone oxytocin show increased activity in brain regions associated with reward and empathy when viewing photos of their toddlers, an Emory University study finds.

“Our findings add to the evidence that fathers, and not just mothers, undergo hormonal changes that are likely to facilitate increased empathy and motivation to care for their children,” says lead author James Rilling, an Emory anthropologist and director of the Laboratory for Darwinian Neuroscience. “They also suggest that oxytocin, known to play a role in social bonding, might someday be used to normalize deficits in paternal motivation, such as in men suffering from post-partum depression.”

The journal Hormones and Behavior published the results of the study, the first to look at the influence of both oxytocin and vasopressin — another hormone linked to social bonding — on brain function in human fathers.

A growing body of literature shows that paternal involvement plays a role in reducing child mortality and morbidity, and improving social, psychological and educational outcomes. But not every father takes a “hands-on” approach to caring for his children.

Parental Obsession : Physical Growth (Height and Weight) Worry


Krishna Fighting

I am a parent. New and learning. I meet parents in my league to discuss and observe their issues and try to find solution for my confusions and doubts.

One worry that bites almost all parents is about height and weight of the kid. They put so much attention on vital figures related to height and weight, that pediatricians surrender and prescribe weight gain feeding formulas.

Parents see result. Now their kid is growing fast after starting feeding formula.

What they forget it, by adding supplements in diet, kid will start ignoring real food. This may lead to malnutrition as feeding formula does not come with all necessary nutrients. Also, it is dead food. It is artificial composition. Kid may not digest it fully. Kid can digest best what her feeding mother can or his/her extended family can.

Malnutrition leads to mineral and vitamin deficiency. You are all educated and understand mineral and vitamin deficiency very well.

My point is: Your concern is valid but do not be paranoid about it. Focus on balanced diet. Have patience. Kid’s body is working hard to gel with environment by activating and de-activating genes combination. Feeding formula is not the answer. Mother’s breast-feed up to 2 years will give them immunity boosters. Mother’s breast-feed will give them antibody markers.

If you really want to improve things,

Try to find out organically grown food.
Try to find out ethically procured desi gau milk.
Try to include variety of grains in diet.
Rely on local food.

At the end, look at this picture associated with the post. Those who look strong in outer look are not the strongest always. 🙂 I hope you got the message. Focus on building real stuff in them. Stronger mind, strong values and balanced diet.

Cook for Kids, cook for God : Most Sacred Duty



One friend said in private message after reading this post(

“you said right that fast food is dangerous but do we really have alternative? Kids go to school and learn new food habits. We simply cannot control it.”


Well then what we parents are for? If schools spoil the habits, take actions. Be part of parenting fraternity. Awake fellow parents. Take seminars on fast food in schools. Awake fellow students of your kids. There is no free lunch. You have to pay the price for your lethargy being a parent. Don’t be so helpless. If kid is picking bad habits from some source, work on it. That is your duty as a parents.

And about alternative, we have many homemade food to replace filthy fast food. Yes, you will have to spend some time in kitchen for it. Do it. Sacrifice your cricket match, movie and weekend getaway and spend time in kitchen. Best if you can involve kids.

For example: Sukhadi. It is best alternative for both chocolates and biscuits. Rich in nutrients and delicious! Enough for growing kids never ending energy needs.

Our cultural diversity is rich enough for finding alternatives. Put some efforts. Be an active parent. (I am also trying to be one).

If there is a will, there is a way. Experiment instead surrendering to the environment. (Y)

Faulty Parenting leads to addictive tendency


Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.[1]


• Nuclear family structure,
• Frequently changing job locations and hence frequently changing neighborhoods,
• Lack of empathic teachers
• Lack of attachment with local culture, mother tongue
• Constant struggle between parents
• Parents – more attention for individual self-interest than child-interest or family-interest

All above contributes largely in lack of emotions and love relations for growing child


Addiction and abuse.
Pause. Go back to your roots. Joint family. Stability over career growth. Time spent in searching quality food over time spent on entertainment.
Lot more to learn from your dead grandparents. Sooner, better.

Moment a thought process for child planning start to child’s upanayan samskar (age 6 to 12 – depending upon child’s capacity), all parents should aim for stability over personal achievements. At least, we can do this in our chaotic times




Oxytocin in learning and addiction: From early discoveries to the present


Oxytocin (OXT) has a plethora of effects on brain function. This review provides a historical overview of the development of research on OXT and drug addiction. By focusing on research that has emerged from our laboratories, we describe how early discoveries of the influence of OXT on learning and memory processes and the emerging conceptualization of addiction as ‘pathological learning’ have contributed to the demonstration that OXT effectively attenuates long-term neuroadaptation related to opiate and psychostimulant addiction. Through integrating earlier evidence with recent discoveries of the social/affiliative role of OXT, we propose that OXT may interfere with reward and addiction by influencing neurobiological processes involved in stress, learning and memory and social/affiliative behavior.

Can ‘love hormone’ protect against addiction?

Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.

The groundbreaking idea has resulted from a review of worldwide research into oxytocin, known as the “love hormone” or “bonding drug” because of its important role in enhancing social interactions, maternal behaviour and partnership.

This month’s special edition of the international journal Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior deals with the current state of research linking oxytocin and addiction, and has been guest edited by Dr Femke Buisman-Pijlman from the University of Adelaide’s School of Medical Sciences.

Dr Buisman-Pijlman, who has a background in both addiction studies and family studies, says some people’s lack of resilience to addictive behaviours may be linked to poor development of their oxytocin systems.

“We know that newborn babies already have levels of oxytocin in their bodies, and this helps to create the all-important bond between a mother and her child. But our oxytocin systems aren’t fully developed when we’re born – they don’t finish developing until the age of three, which means our systems are potentially subject to a range of influences both external and internal,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

She says the oxytocin system develops mainly based on experiences.

“The main factors that affect our oxytocin systems are genetics, gender and environment. You can’t change the genes you’re born with, but environmental factors play a substantial role in the development of the oxytocin system until our systems are fully developed,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

“Previous research has shown that there is a high degree of variability in people’s oxytocin levels. We’re interested in how and why people have such differences in oxytocin, and what we can do about it to have a beneficial impact on people’s health and wellbeing,” she says.

Sound of Mother’s voice : Aid for Fetal Brain growth


Tragedy of our times is that while mother should engage in life-enriching conversations with the womb, she has to attend conference calls, meetings, mobile games, whatsapp and all.

Imagine the frustration of the child in the womb for beginning life with such non-responsive parents?

I know few couples, who stopped using TV, mobile and all as soon as they realized to have a baby. Worth. Take care. Try it.

Even after birth, for first 2 years, dedicate your maximum time to child.

In India, grand mother prescribes pregnant females at home to read Ramayana and Mahabharata aloud. Instead, most of them now watch TV all the time :).
They suggest to sing Halarda to kids during sleeping time, but instead moms start mp3 on mobile :D.
Do you know why? Here is the hint:
“”Babies begin to hear at 25 weeks’ gestation, and they’re exposed to the mother’s voice and heartbeat,” Lahav said. “If you put them inside the incubator for five to six weeks, you’re actually depriving them of these maternal exposures to the mother’s voice. The incubator is seemingly a wonderful piece of equipment. But at the same time, it’s like a social cage.””
Even after birth, babies seek continuous hearing from mother. Her presence and voice help baby a lot in ongoing physical and mental development.
If I become Health Minister or can influence present minister, I will give full 2 years paid leaves to working mothers. 🙂

Sound of Mother’s Voice in Womb May Aid Fetal Brain Growth

Study of preemies who heard recordings from mom showed larger auditory cortex

Babies may get a brain boost in the womb when they hear the voices and heartbeats of their mothers, a new study suggests.

Researchers studying premature babies in the hospital found that the sound centers in the babies’ brains grew more quickly when they heard recordings of their mothers rather than the normal clamor of intensive care units. The recordings were manipulated to simulate sounds heard in a womb.

It’s not clear what this means in the long run, “but it shows how important it is for mothers to interact with their premature babies when they visit,” said study co-author Amir Lahav, an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School in Boston.

Babies born prematurely often suffer from hearing and language problems, Lahav explained, and the researchers wanted to know more about how they’re affected by the weeks they spend in an incubator instead of in their mother’s womb.

“Babies begin to hear at 25 weeks’ gestation, and they’re exposed to the mother’s voice and heartbeat,” Lahav said. “If you put them inside the incubator for five to six weeks, you’re actually depriving them of these maternal exposures to the mother’s voice. The incubator is seemingly a wonderful piece of equipment. But at the same time, it’s like a social cage.”

The study findings probably apply to all babies, one expert noted.

Previous research has shown that fetuses respond to the sound of the mother’s voice. At birth, babies take notice “and say, ‘Hey, that’s what I was waiting for,’ ” said Janet Werker, a psychology professor at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver.

“There’s very strong evidence that at birth, full-term babies show strong preference for the language they heard in utero and the voice of their mother over other women,” she said.

But it’s not clear if the mother’s voice is the only important one, since exposure to other voices could be just as critical, Werker added.

For this latest study, the researchers chose a group of premature babies who were born at 25 to 32 weeks. Nineteen were randomly assigned to hear the normal noises of the hospital, while 21 heard recordings of the voices and heartbeats of their mothers. The second group listened to the recordings for three hours a day.

Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood



Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood

When a child need parents most, parents are busy with career growth, promotions, material wealth accumulation and petty Cricket and Bollywood type passive armchair entertainment!

Obviously, it impacts growing minds in family.

And then, the pill generation rely upon pills as solution for mental disorders!

Many children of 21st century suffer from poor concentration, hyperactivity, and learning difficulties. Modern medicine declare it as disorder! Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder! ADHD! 🙂

These all symptoms are more related to mind than body. Food also play role but supporting role. Problem is with environment children receive as legacy. Stressed parents, family infighting, toxic food, polluted air, polluted homes, lack of love reciprocated by parents and over-use of technology and screens at home – these are some root causes I found around.

And as you read root causes, solutions are very simple.
But what do children get from doctors?

More chemicals! Ritalin is a popular name of this neurotic drug!
Read the side-effects! Avoid it! Save your kid from further mental trauma! Provide better environment and see the magic!

Read this to realize side effects of CNS stimulant!!


Ritalin Side effects


Brain & Mind Development : Why Gadget-free childhood?



Mind is a process.मन or to think or ‘minding – the process of thinking’. A Process that keeps Brain on the top busy, generating billions and more currents daily. A process can never be silent. A process will always be tense; a process means a turmoil. And mind is always moving from the past to the future. The past goes on being a burden on it, so it has to move into the future. This constant movement creates another tension within you. If you become too much conscious about it, you may go mad. Society trains your capacity into an actuality, it gives you a mind. That is why a Hindu has a certain mind and a Mohammedan has a different mind. Both are men, but their minds are different. A Christian has a different mind… These minds are different because different societies have cultivated them with different purposes, different goals. And so Child development is very important Nation building activity.

There is another process that goes on in heart. It is process of bliss. You can experience it only when you can slow down process of minding. Let Bliss work at higher priority than mind and feel the difference. If you read seer-scientist Patanjali’s Yoga, he begins with the same i.e. cessation of mind. Get the hint and work upon it.

Babies’ brains need stimulation to develop their full potential. Their best learning is from being highly attuned to human stimuli—interacting with your face, voice, and touch. Singing, talking, and reading to babies are all ideal ways of stimulating their senses.

Human stimuli without humans is not possible.

And what do parents and teachers do?

1) Video games, mobiles, tablets, laptops and TV consumes most of the productive time
2) Schools introduce digital mediums for teaching

Period of brain development is limited. Senses develop within first 10-12 years. Do not limit your kid’s potential. Keep them away from media and digital mediums. Educate their school management about neuroscience and ask them to get rid of tablet teaching asap. It is foolish technological fad, that’s it. No real long term benefits. Do not surrender to system for the better future of your kids and their society in future. 🙂 Take care.

Making of Zombies : Why media spreads objectification of woman?



He or she is not human who lacks empathy and community sentiments. Living life of each other is the Vedic principle. We see life as universal sacrifice, helping others. Our motto is “इदं न मम” (This is not mine. This life, this action. Nothing is mine! Nothing is for me! My life is for the world! Rest of the universe!)

This way of life, backed and relied upon Vedic dharmic principles is dangerous for power centers of the world. When world runs like this, they cannot rule the world forever!

So, what is the weapon?

  1. Modern media as mediums
  2. To spread the objectification of gender


  • Making of zombie who lives life for extremely narrow-minded self-interest and lacks empathy towards the rest.

One one hand, media sells sex to young girls, making them obsessed of self, body and external appearance. Spreading a meme that, it is perfectly ok to be object in front of rest.

On the other hand, media sell extreme objectification of females. This turns most media content recipients into zombies who lack empathy! The collective feeling! For them, opposite gender is mere object to be consumed!

Please read old note on same topic:

Hyper-sexual Media and Child Development

New research shows that in hyper sexulized world, we are being hardwired to lose empathy networks in brain!


Reduced empathic responses for sexually objectified women: An fMRI investigation

Sexual objectification is a widespread phenomenon characterized by a focus on the individual’s physical appearance over his/her mental state. This has been associated with negative social consequences, as objectified individuals are judged to be less human, competent, and moral. Moreover, behavioral responses toward the person change as a function of the degree of the perceived sexual objectification. In the present study, we investigated how behavioral and neural representations of other social pain are modulated by the degree of sexual objectification of the target. Using a within-subject fMRI design, we found reduced empathic feelings for positive (but not negative) emotions toward sexually objectified women as compared to non-objectified (personalized) women when witnessing their participation to a ball-tossing game. At the brain level, empathy for social exclusion of personalized women recruited areas coding the affective component of pain (i.e., anterior insula and cingulate cortex), the somatosensory components of pain (i.e., posterior insula and secondary somatosensory cortex) together with the mentalizing network (i.e., middle frontal cortex) to a greater extent than for the sexually objectified women. This diminished empathy is discussed in light of the gender-based violence that is afflicting the modern society.

Stop acting like a consumption machines. Teach this bloody Ad industry tight slap lesson. Boycott their medium for 5 years. You, you family, your friends – complete boycott of all TV channels showing Ads with objectification of Mahila.

Can you do it in National interest? I hear lot of noise like ‘Nation First’. Here is simple step to contribute your efforts without hampering daily life routine.



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