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Never Ignore Roots : Pregnancy, Mother’s attitude and Child Development Impact

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Recently, due to some family emergency, I visited near by hospital. There, I saw expectant mothers waiting for their sonography round! While waiting, all of them were engaged in super critical talk on whatsapp! 🙁

Yes, it may be difficult to spend time but then who stops mothers to divert mind in productive activities like reading Ramayana to the child? If not that, why not learn knitting or other activities related to child?

Child neglect starts very early in life. All in the womb! Modern mothers have hardly any time left to think about the womb. Talk with the child. Conversations! Instead of talking with child in womb, she is driven by entertainment! TV to whatsapp and whatsapp to HotStar! As if, chatting on whatsapp is more important than talking with kid!

No Garbha Sanskar music or seminar or super food will help if you can’t connect and communicate with your kid inside!!

I have written in past, how neglect will cause damage to brain. Read them here:

Never compromise motherhood! Be with your child!

Your Child Demands Yashoda Care : Neuroscience of parenting

Now, read this latest research


Research


Mothers who ‘connect’ with their baby during pregnancy are more likely to interact in a more positive way with their infant after it is born, according to a study carried out at the University of Cambridge. Interaction is important for helping infants learn and develop.

Researchers at the Centre for Family Research carried out a meta-analysis, reviewing all published studies in the field, in an attempt to demonstrate conclusively whether there was a link with the way parents think about their child during pregnancy and their behaviour towards them postnatally.

The results of their work, which draws data from 14 studies involving 1,862 mothers and fathers, are published in the journal Developmental Review.

Studies included in the meta-analysis examined parents’ thoughts and feelings about their child during pregnancy through interviews and questionnaires. For example, in interviews expectant parents were considered to have a ‘balanced’ representation of their child if they showed positive anticipation of their relationship with the child or showed ‘mind-mindedness’ – a propensity to see their child as an individual, with its own thoughts and feelings. This was contrasted by parents who had a ‘distorted’ representation of their child, with a narrow, idealised description of their child, and incomplete or inconsistent descriptions of them.

Once the child had been born, researchers in these studies would observe the interactions between parent and child. One measure they were looking for was ‘sensitivity’ – the ability to notice, interpret and respond in a  timely and appropriate manner to children’s signals, for example if the baby was upset.

Combining the results from all 14 studies, the Cambridge team showed a modest association between positive thoughts and feelings about the infant during pregnancy and later interaction with the infant, but only in mothers.

“Studies have shown that parent-child interaction is crucial for a child’s development and learning, so we wanted to understand if there were prenatal signs that might predict a parent’s behaviour,” says Dr Sarah Foley, the study’s first author, who carried out the research as part of her PhD.

“Although we found a relationship between a mother’s attitude towards her baby during pregnancy and her later interactions, this link was only modest. This suggests it is likely to be a part of the jigsaw, rather than the whole story.”

Research has also shown that increased awareness of the baby during pregnancy is associated with healthy behaviours during pregnancy, such as giving up smoking or attending antenatal appointments.

While more work is needed to determine what form such interventions might take, options might include the midwife encouraging the mother to think about what her baby may be like, or asking the mother to imagine activities they think she and her baby might like to do together.

“This is a relatively new area of research, but could have important implications for children’s development,” adds Dr Foley. “We need more research in this area, but hope it will inform new interventions that could help new mothers engage more with their children.”

http://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/mothers-attitude-towards-baby-during-pregnancy-may-have-implications-for-childs-development

 

Fear-led supplements vs Life-loving wholesome food

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There are 3 ways ahead if you are nutrient deficient.
 
1) Local wholesome food
2) Exotic non-local food (non-veg in grassland)
3) Supplements
 
Only first one is non-destructive, self-sustaining, totally healthy.
 
In second model, there is a chance of contraindications as it is not your native food. If not short term, surely long term old-age issues.
 
Third one is mere placebo. You spend money and get no real benefits except few cases like folic acid. You also create digestive track torture due to extra digestion of chemicals!

In a well-nourished child with a properly functioning immune system, viral infections are typically subclinical or exceedingly mild. Malnourishment, in particular vitamin A deficiency, is a primary cause of poor outcomes. One of the most effective ways to ensure that a viral illness runs a mild or benign course is to provide children with adequate stores of vitamin A prior to exposure.

Instead of putting efforts in providing our children, future citizens, proper diet, we either submit lives to FEAR (Vaccines) or EGO (Post-viral-attack medicines).

Learn to set priorities right and save unnecessary hurdles in life.

Infection prone monsoon comes only after we have had enough Vitamin A rich mangoes 🙂

Mother nature is very kind. She always want to see her kids flourishing, achieving life-goals.

Grey Matter Regulation : Why Brahmcharya for Adolescent age?

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ADdicted Teens

If I or any well-wisher of Bharat-Bhumi prescribes Brahmcharya to young generation, not only targeted teens, their parents, media and all, will laugh and mock. That is what happens when society act as zombie and react as zombie! We really no more live sensible life where there is high respect for body and mind. We only believe in exploiting  body and mind for short term gratification.

Let us discuss relation between Gray matter and conspicuous consumption of senses.

What Grey Matter?

Grey matter contains most of the brain’s neuronal cell bodies. The grey matter includes regions of the brain involved in muscle control, and sensory perception such as seeing and hearing, memory, emotions, speech, decision making, and self-control.[1]

When your teens are brainwashed by free-sex propaganda…

Researchers found less grey matter in the brains of men who watched large amounts of sexually explicit material, according to a new study.[2]

“Individuals with lower striatum volume may need more external stimulation to experience pleasure and might therefore experience pornography consumption as more rewarding, which may in turn lead to” more porn watching, said the authors, concluding that more study is needed.

More porn and/or more sex => Less grey matter => dying neural pathways => Inability to perform simple tasks without motivation

Brahmcharya? Ever heard about it? Follow it or perish/become zombie!

“Just as when you remove the internet connection to your computer you won’t get your email anymore, there are white matter pathways which result in large scale communication failures in the brain when damaged,” Van Horn said.
When white matter pathways are damaged, brain areas served by those connections may wither or have their functions taken over by other brain regions, the researchers explain. Irimia and Van Horn’s research on core white matter connections is part of a worldwide scientific effort to map the 100 billion neurons and 1,000 trillion connections in the living human brain, led by the Human Connectome Project and the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at USC.”

Imagine teens of 2018 – even moderately, without exposure to internet porn, they are being bombarded daily with Sunny Leone and ilk like her.

When teens of 2018 will become adults of 2020, we will have more mentally challenged citizens than ever in past. More suicides, more violence against women and more crimes. Mark my words.

Bloody nonsense condom ads making youth सत्वविहीन, ओजसविहीन – good for nothing weak breed.

Foolish doctors write in articles that sperms are auto-generated daily. Have sex as many times you want! Morons, who will compensate सत्व,ओजस & white matter in brain!

And sick intellectuals compare porn with Khajuraho & Kamasutra!

Days are not far when modern medical science will start accepting पञ्चकोशीय शरीर विज्ञान

What is solution? Is there any way we can bring back addicted-teens to normalcy?

Here is the way to increase gray matter : Meditation

Any doubt why in ancient Gurukul education, Yoga and meditation was de-facto standard?

Mindfulness practice leads to increases in regional brain gray matter density [3]

Therapeutic interventions that incorporate training in mindfulness meditation have become increasingly popular, but to date, little is known about neural mechanisms associated with these interventions. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), one of the most widely used mindfulness training programs, has been reported to produce positive effects on psychological well-being and to ameliorate symptoms of a number of disorders. Here, we report a controlled longitudinal study to investigate pre-post changes in brain gray matter concentration attributable to participation in an MBSR program. Anatomical MRI images from sixteen healthy, meditation-naïve participants were obtained before and after they underwent the eight-week program. Changes in gray matter concentration were investigated using voxel-based morphometry, and compared to a wait-list control group of 17 individuals. Analyses in a priori regions of interest confirmed increases in gray matter concentration within the left hippocampus. Whole brain analyses identified increases in the posterior cingulate cortex, the temporo-parietal junction, and the cerebellum in the MBSR group compared to the controls. The results suggest that participation in MBSR is associated with changes in gray matter concentration in brain regions involved in learning and memory processes, emotion regulation, self-referential processing, and perspective taking.

References:

[1] VARIATION WITH AGE IN THE VOLUMES OF GREY AND WHITE MATTER IN THE CEREBRAL HEMISPHERES OF MAN: MEASUREMENTS WITH AN IMAGE ANALYSER

The total volumes and relative quantities of grey and white matter have been measured in sixty‐five normal male and sixty‐five normal female cerebral hemispheres. Fixed hemisphere volume was found to fall linearly at 35% per decade for men from 641 ml at the age of 20 to 463 ml at the age of 100. For women the decrease was 1–9% per decade from 531 ml at 20 years to 462 ml at 100 years. After correction for the effects of fixation and for the secular increase in brain size, it was concluded that mean hemisphere volume remained roughly constant between the ages of 20 and 50 years (558 ml for men, 474 ml for women). After the age of 50 the mean volume in both sexes fell at about 2% per decade. The ratio of the volumes of grey to white matter was the same for the two sexes at all ages. Its mean value was 1–3 at the age of 20, falling to 11 at the age of 50, then rising steadily to over 1–5 at 100 years. It is impossible in practice to correct these measurements for the effects of fixation or secular change. Fourteen hemispheres from thirteen elderly female dements were also measured. The total volume was 18% lower than for an age‐matched group of normals, but the ratio of grey to white matter was identical.”

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2990.1980.tb00283.x

[2] https://luxtimes.lu/archives/16991-does-porn-affect-the-brain-scientists-urge-more-study

[3] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004979/

You are what your mother ate!

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I extend this research and say: you are what your 7 generations ate. Not only food, but also mental imprints, habits, conditioning and all!

So, your food habits (or all habits) in teen age or youth , are not only affecting your old age but all upcoming generations! Don’t curse them by your mindless living!

If you have teen-age boy and girl, groom them. Explain them importance of living and eating disciplined food!

Do read, learn and take care for all would-be mothers! Parenting is National duty!


Research


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You are what your mother eats

For years, pregnant mothers have questioned their nutritional habits: “Will eating more cause my baby to be overweight?”  Or, “I’m eating for two, so it won’t hurt to have an extra serving, right?”

While many factors, such as the age of the mother, overall health and genetics ultimately play a role, the correlation between a mother’s nutrition habits and metabolism has been proved to directly impact the growth of her child. And researchers at OHSU in Portland, Oregon, believe they may be one step closer to knowing why.

In a study published online in Nature Communications, the research team, led by Jae W. Lee, Ph.D., has demonstrated that two neurons key to growth and metabolism — GHRH and AgRP — are developmentally interconnected.

Located in the hypothalamus region of the brain, within a grouping of neurons known as the arcuate nucleus, GHRH, or growth hormone-release hormone, neurons orchestrate body growth and maturation. Meanwhile, AgRP, or Agouti-related peptide, neurons stimulate feeding and suppress energy usage.

https://news.ohsu.edu/2018/05/23/you-are-what-your-mother-eats

Ramayana Reciting : Ancient Womb Engineering for Healthy Fetus growth

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Ramayana recitation during pregnancy is not just about narrating story of Rama to the womb-dweller but also about providing optimum epigenetic environment for maximum pro-life DNAs to unfold!

When Ramayana is replaced by modern TV/Soaps/Magazines, there is imbalance in the mental and pranic environment provided to the womb. Imbalance brings randomness and chaos. Sometimes, physical defects too. Ofcourse, food , water and air intake too play role along with mental and energy level grooming provided during pregnancy!

Point here is: We cannot ignore critical part mother’s mind and activities play in fetus growth.

The prenatal period is a time of dramatic plasticity, when the brain is laying down the structures that control neurobiological function across life.

Molecular “switches” that regulate the way that genes are activated without changing the underlying DNA blueprint decides whether you will get male brain or female brain.

Process is called DNA methylation , an Epigenetic process.Epigenetic processes play a key role in orchestrating transcriptional regulation during development.

Now, modern science is in nascent stage to understand Epigenetic process. It is good that they slowly are debunking Gene dogmas. But on the other hand, they are surrendering to molecular switches. 🙂.

The real Epigenetic process does not begin in molecules outside DNA or outside cells but in mind. That is the root of the all Epigenetic processes. In womb, it is mother’s mind and how she is affected by external environment (+ past like karma of the mind under re-development in the womb).

Mind is like blueprint of execution stored on cloud. You begin from where you stopped in last birth. 🙂

Hint: Why one should recite Ramayana during pregnancy. Why one should read prescribes texts during pregnancy. Epigenetic!


Research


http://www.exeter.ac.uk/news/research/title_432742_en.html

Parenting barometer: Are you ecologically sensitive parent?

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Parenting barometer

ZERO Score: When your kid spend more time in front of screens (Mobile/Tablet/TV/Laptop) than in front of green.

ZERO Score: When your kid knows Chota Bheem more than a street dog’s daily fun tricks.

ZERO Score: When your kid demand biscuit and chocolate and packaged wafers more often than food prepared by mother or grand mother.

So, how many zeroes did you get? 🙂 Get well soon. There is never late in changing bad practices.

All living organisms except humans play their critical role in ecology. It is just we who act as arrogantly moronic consumers who knows only how to consume and never ever play active role as part of ecology.

What do we deserve? A kick on the ass and face in the mud? Well, we deserve worse than a kick and a spoiled face.

Do you grow your kids as ecologically sensitive citizens or help them become partners in crime? Does your kid bow to the mother earth daily with highest reverence? Does your kid feed Gau and other animals before taking meal? Does your kid plant a tree every year?

Well, they don’t do all of this because parents are arrogant and selfish humans who never act as part of ecology. Unfortunate kids who grow in artificial toxic selfish urban homes under the patronage of selfish helpless ignorant parents.

Cartoons on TV is not Story Telling!

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Parents of 21st century are groomed to believe that cartoons are great way to educate. So they introduce passive, one-way cartoons to children at very early age. And parents help kids to become addicted of the TV. Once the cartoon on TV becomes norms, cartoon goes and every other junk replaces it as kids grow. So teen-age kid will not only watch cartoon but also all junk.
 
Complete waste of potential minds.
 
We Indians have rich legacy of oral education culture. Real education and learning happen face to face, in human to human narration.
 
Humans simply aren’t moved to action by “data dumps,” dense PowerPoint slides, or spreadsheets packed with figures. People are moved by emotion. Results repeatedly show that our attitudes, fears, hopes, and values are strongly influenced by story. In fact, fiction seems to be more effective at changing beliefs than writing that is specifically designed to persuade through argument and evidence.
 
The psychologists Melanie Green and Tim Brock argue that entering fictional worlds “radically alters the way information is processed.” Green and Brock’s studies shows that the more absorbed readers are in a story, the more the story changes them. Highly absorbed readers also detected significantly fewer “false notes” in stories—inaccuracies, missteps—than less transported readers. Importantly, it is not just that highly absorbed readers detected the false notes and didn’t care about them (as when we watch a pleasurably idiotic action film). They were unable to detect the false notes in the first place.
 
So not only storytelling but which story you pick up is also critical. Take care.
 

Child Development in City invites future mental disorders

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I have hypothesis or say interpretation about Sita’s Agni Pariksha followed by transfer to Vashishtha Rishi’s ashram. To me, this was well-planned decision. Sita living in hermitage, in forest, giving birth to Luv and Kush, is perfect plan to me.

Child development in forest, with all sort of mother nature’s immune and intellect boosters.

Similarly, birth of Shri Krishna was in highly urbanized Mathura and grooming of Avtar is not possible in urban place. So? Arrangements were made so that Krishna can be groomed in natural environment, in vicinity of cows. Nanda’s home was perfect for it.

Key takeaways
  • Adult men who had grown up in the country with pets had a healthier immune response to stress than those who grew up pet-free in the city, a new study shows.
  • The study is the first in humans to suggest the ‘hygiene hypothesis’ applies to mental health too.
  • Exposure to beneficial microorganisms in childhood may lead to better mental health in adulthood.

No ancient Gurukul(s) were established in cities. All of them in jungle. We are known as अरण्य संस्कृति. I have written in past that Gau-shala was inseparable part of gurukul institution. All students had primary responsibility to offer seva at Gurukul’s gau shala.

In short, from birth to end of Brahmcharya (Age 0 to age 25), it was essential for child to live in natural forest like environment with constant touch with animals and trees.

Now, read this research. They talk about pets. Dogs and cats. But cats and dogs have their own issues (and diseases). The perfect synergy is with cows.


Research


How growing up with pets, dust may boost mental health

Children raised in a rural environment, surrounded by animals and bacteria-laden dust, grow up to have more stress-resilient immune systems and might be at lower risk of mental illness than pet-free city dwellers, according to new research published this week in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS).

The study, co-authored by researchers from the University of Ulm in Germany and CU Boulder, adds to mounting evidence supporting the “hygiene hypothesis,” which posits that overly sterile environments can breed health problems.

Key takeaways
  • Adult men who had grown up in the country with pets had a healthier immune response to stress than those who grew up pet-free in the city, a new study shows.
  • The study is the first in humans to suggest the ‘hygiene hypothesis’ applies to mental health too.
  • Exposure to beneficial microorganisms in childhood may lead to better mental health in adulthood.

The research also suggests that raising kids around pets might be good for mental health—for reasons people might not expect.

Ref: https://www.colorado.edu/today/2018/04/30/how-growing-pets-dust-may-boost-mental-health

Your kid, Mobile Screens and Delayed Motor skills development

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What will your kid do with Lego kit when he or she lacks primary motor skills?

This is alarming warning for parents who expose gadgets to kids in very early age (As early as 6 months!)

“Rising numbers of infants lack the motor skills needed to play with building blocks because of an “addiction” to tablet computers and smartphones, according to teachers.”

Your kids need maximum exposure to nature and not virtual farm. Understand this, sooner the better.

New link : https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationnews/10767878/Infants-unable-to-use-toy-building-blocks-due-to-iPad-addiction.html

Infants ‘unable to use toy building blocks’ due to iPad addiction

The Association of Teachers and Lecturers warn that rising numbers of children are unable to perform simple tasks such as using building blocks because of overexposure to iPads

Those who sell technology to us, keep their children away from technology!

News link: https://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/23/technology/at-waldorf-school-in-silicon-valley-technology-can-wait.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

A Silicon Valley School That Doesn’t Compute

The chief technology officer of eBay sends his children to a nine-classroom school here. So do employees of Silicon Valley giants like Google, Apple, Yahoo and Hewlett-Packard.

But the school’s chief teaching tools are anything but high-tech: pens and paper, knitting needles and, occasionally, mud. Not a computer to be found. No screens at all. They are not allowed in the classroom, and the school even frowns on their use at home.

Schools nationwide have rushed to supply their classrooms with computers, and many policy makers say it is foolish to do otherwise. But the contrarian point of view can be found at the epicenter of the tech economy, where some parents and educators have a message: computers and schools don’t mix.

Pregnancy and Parenting

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गर्भे षष्ठे मासे बुद्धि |
Ideally, the intellect comes at 6th month of gestation. When all ideal conditions are provided to mother.

When child comes to the world, it expects same womb like feeling. Instead of giving it all comforts it has in mother’s womb, we bombard selfie camera flash, noise and unnecessary touch!

Maintain sacredness between child and mother. Leave them alone for first 3-4 months. No relatives, no noise, no touching! Womb-like! Mother-child!

Story does not end when the child is delivered. We just switch the womb. In not so ideal conditions, like most of us are in, बुध्धि comes much later in life. This world,the macro-womb, helps us to gain level-headedness essential for self-realization.

Unfortunately, we lack द्रष्टि to realize mother’s womb. And fail to learn from all her vital hints. Instead, we perform suicidal acts and invite premature death. And the cycle goes on forever…the birth and death cycle…

There is nothing called ‘wasted life’. Just a wasted cycle.

We all are in the womb. Nurturing lives. Here and thereafter.

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