Parenting

Parenting

Cook for Kids, cook for God : Most Sacred Duty

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CookForKids

One friend said in private message after reading this post(https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10153519016694762):

“you said right that fast food is dangerous but do we really have alternative? Kids go to school and learn new food habits. We simply cannot control it.”

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Well then what we parents are for? If schools spoil the habits, take actions. Be part of parenting fraternity. Awake fellow parents. Take seminars on fast food in schools. Awake fellow students of your kids. There is no free lunch. You have to pay the price for your lethargy being a parent. Don’t be so helpless. If kid is picking bad habits from some source, work on it. That is your duty as a parents.

And about alternative, we have many homemade food to replace filthy fast food. Yes, you will have to spend some time in kitchen for it. Do it. Sacrifice your cricket match, movie and weekend getaway and spend time in kitchen. Best if you can involve kids.

For example: Sukhadi. It is best alternative for both chocolates and biscuits. Rich in nutrients and delicious! Enough for growing kids never ending energy needs.

Our cultural diversity is rich enough for finding alternatives. Put some efforts. Be an active parent. (I am also trying to be one).

If there is a will, there is a way. Experiment instead surrendering to the environment. (Y)

Role of Eye contacts in parenting

Most parents in this era are occupied , even when they are at home. They hooked to either laptop or mobile or TV. While they are hooked to gadgets, they continue doing conversations with family members, including kids. And then they claim spending good amount of time with family and kids.

When the adult and infant are looking at each other, they are signalling their availability and intention to communicate with each other

Really?What is missing here? Is it quality time?

Eye contact is missing. It is reduced. Major flaw in imparting संस्कार! There is no brain to brain connection! There is no mind-mind connection! Shallow conversations don’t transfer

 

Eye gazing


Research


 

Eye contact with your baby helps synchronise your brainwaves

http://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/eye-contact-with-your-baby-helps-synchronise-your-brainwaves

When a parent and infant interact, various aspects of their behaviour can synchronise, including their gaze, emotions and heartrate, but little is known about whether their brain activity also synchronises – and what the consequences of this might be.

Brainwaves reflect the group-level activity of millions of neurons and are involved in information transfer between brain regions. Previous studies have shown that when two adults are talking to each other, communication is more successful if their brainwaves are in synchrony.

Researchers at the Baby-LINC Lab at the University of Cambridge carried out a study to explore whether infants can synchronise their brainwaves to adults too – and whether eye contact might influence this. Their results are published today in the Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences (PNAS).

The team examined the brainwave patterns of 36 infants (17 in the first experiment and 19 in the second) using electroencephalography (EEG), which measures patterns of brain electrical activity via electrodes in a skull cap worn by the participants. They compared the infants’ brain activity to that of the adult who was singing nursery rhymes to the infant.

In the first of two experiments, the infant watched a video of an adult as she sang nursery rhymes. First, the adult – whose brainwave patterns had already been recorded – was looking directly at the infant. Then, she turned her head to avert her gaze, while still singing nursery rhymes. Finally, she turned her head away, but her eyes looked directly back at the infant.

As anticipated, the researchers found that infants’ brainwaves were more synchronised to the adults’ when the adult’s gaze met the infant’s, as compared to when her gaze was averted Interestingly, the greatest synchronising effect occurred when the adults’ head was turned away but her eyes still looked directly at the infant. The researchers say this may be because such a gaze appears highly deliberate, and so provides a stronger signal to the infant that the adult intends to communicate with her.

In the second experiment, a real adult replaced the video. She only looked either directly at the infant or averted her gaze while singing nursery rhymes. This time, however, her brainwaves could be monitored live to see whether her brainwave patterns were being influenced by the infant’s as well as the other way round.

This time, both infants and adults became more synchronised to each other’s brain activity when mutual eye contact was established. This occurred even though the adult could see the infant at all times, and infants were equally interested in looking at the adult even when she looked away. The researchers say that this shows that brainwave synchronisation isn’t just due to seeing a face or finding something interesting, but about sharing an intention to communicate.

To measure infants’ intention to communicate, the researcher measured how many ‘vocalisations’ infants made to the experimenter. As predicted, infants made a greater effort to communicate, making more ‘vocalisations’, when the adult made direct eye contact – and individual infants who made longer vocalisations also had higher brainwave synchrony with the adult.

Speaker gaze increases information coupling between infant and adult brains

https://www.biorxiv.org/content/early/2017/11/24/108878

Abstract

When infants and adults communicate, they exchange social signals of availability and communicative intention such as eye gaze. Previous research indicates that when communication is successful, close temporal dependencies arise between adult speakers’ and listeners’ neural activity. However, it is not known whether similar neural contingencies exist within adult-infant dyads. Here, we used dual-electroencephalography to assess whether direct gaze increases neural coupling between adults and infants during screen-based and live interactions. In Experiment 1 (N=17), infants viewed videos of an adult who was singing nursery rhymes with (a) Direct gaze (looking forward); (b) Indirect gaze (head and eyes averted by 20 degrees); or (c) Direct-Oblique gaze (head averted but eyes orientated forward). In Experiment 2 (N=19), infants viewed the same adult in a live context, singing with Direct or Indirect gaze. Gaze-related changes in adult-infant neural network connectivity were measured using Partial Directed Coherence. Across both experiments, the adult had a significant (Granger)-causal influence on infants’ neural activity, which was stronger during Direct and Direct-Oblique gaze relative to Indirect gaze. During live interactions, infants also influenced the adult more during Direct than Indirect gaze. Further, infants vocalised more frequently during live Direct gaze, and individual infants who vocalized longer also elicited stronger synchronisation from the adult. These results demonstrate that direct gaze strengthens bi-directional adult-infant neural connectivity during communication. Thus, ostensive social signals could act to bring brains into mutual temporal alignment, creating a joint-networked state that is structured to facilitate information transfer during early communication and learning.

Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood

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Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood
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When a child need parents most, parents are busy with career growth, promotions, material wealth accumulation and petty Cricket and Bollywood type passive armchair entertainment!

Obviously, it impacts growing minds in family.

And then, the pill generation rely upon pills as solution for mental disorders!

Many children of 21st century suffer from poor concentration, hyperactivity, and learning difficulties. Modern medicine declare it as disorder! Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder! ADHD! 🙂

These all symptoms are more related to mind than body. Food also play role but supporting role. Problem is with environment children receive as legacy. Stressed parents, family infighting, toxic food, polluted air, polluted homes, lack of love reciprocated by parents and over-use of technology and screens at home – these are some root causes I found around.

And as you read root causes, solutions are very simple.
But what do children get from doctors?

More chemicals! Ritalin is a popular name of this neurotic drug!
Read the side-effects! Avoid it! Save your kid from further mental trauma! Provide better environment and see the magic!

Read this to realize side effects of CNS stimulant!!


Research


Ritalin Side effects

https://www.drugs.com/sfx/ritalin-side-effects.html

 

Parental Obsession : Physical Growth (Height and Weight) Worry

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Krishna Fighting

I am a parent. New and learning. I meet parents in my league to discuss and observe their issues and try to find solution for my confusions and doubts.

One worry that bites almost all parents is about height and weight of the kid. They put so much attention on vital figures related to height and weight, that pediatricians surrender and prescribe weight gain feeding formulas.

Parents see result. Now their kid is growing fast after starting feeding formula.

What they forget it, by adding supplements in diet, kid will start ignoring real food. This may lead to malnutrition as feeding formula does not come with all necessary nutrients. Also, it is dead food. It is artificial composition. Kid may not digest it fully. Kid can digest best what her feeding mother can or his/her extended family can.

Malnutrition leads to mineral and vitamin deficiency. You are all educated and understand mineral and vitamin deficiency very well.

My point is: Your concern is valid but do not be paranoid about it. Focus on balanced diet. Have patience. Kid’s body is working hard to gel with environment by activating and de-activating genes combination. Feeding formula is not the answer. Mother’s breast-feed up to 2 years will give them immunity boosters. Mother’s breast-feed will give them antibody markers.

If you really want to improve things,

Try to find out organically grown food.
Try to find out ethically procured desi gau milk.
Try to include variety of grains in diet.
Rely on local food.

At the end, look at this picture associated with the post. Those who look strong in outer look are not the strongest always. 🙂 I hope you got the message. Focus on building real stuff in them. Stronger mind, strong values and balanced diet.

Unstable Mind and Uncontrolled Vak : Parenting Disaster

ParentingDisaster

All your thoughts, feelings and actions influence the unconscious mind of your child. I said, all. Whatever you present before your children, even when they are infants, makes its impression. Younger they are, long lasting impression is! In fact, the child begins to learn even before it is born. All the thoughts that enter the mind of the mother while the child is still growing within her womb, impinge upon the mind of the child.

Thus it is great responsibility for a married couple to bring forth souls, to provide what is needed for their physical and mental well-being, to prepare them for the society, and to encourage their spiritual evolution. These are mandatory duties of marriage parents.

When you understand that nature has given you this tremendous project, and you pursue the project diligently, the rewards are great the joys are intense.

But, can this be possible in a home and family where TV occupies most of evening hours, morning starts with FM radio’s half baked dimwit comments, food is served in haste, outside eating is norm and there is least care about child’s perception management?

Children learn from parents. Unless you set an example, there is no hope.
Sacrifice your bad habits for the future of the nation i.e. your child. Until your kid reaches friendship age i.e. teen, you are no 1 role model. Be a responsible parent.

Faulty Parenting leads to addictive tendency

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Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.[1]

Parenting

• Nuclear family structure,
• Frequently changing job locations and hence frequently changing neighborhoods,
• Lack of empathic teachers
• Lack of attachment with local culture, mother tongue
• Constant struggle between parents
• Parents – more attention for individual self-interest than child-interest or family-interest

All above contributes largely in lack of emotions and love relations for growing child

Result?

Addiction and abuse.
Solution?
Pause. Go back to your roots. Joint family. Stability over career growth. Time spent in searching quality food over time spent on entertainment.
Lot more to learn from your dead grandparents. Sooner, better.

Moment a thought process for child planning start to child’s upanayan samskar (age 6 to 12 – depending upon child’s capacity), all parents should aim for stability over personal achievements. At least, we can do this in our chaotic times


Research


 

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Oxytocin in learning and addiction: From early discoveries to the present

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0091305713003183

Abstract

Oxytocin (OXT) has a plethora of effects on brain function. This review provides a historical overview of the development of research on OXT and drug addiction. By focusing on research that has emerged from our laboratories, we describe how early discoveries of the influence of OXT on learning and memory processes and the emerging conceptualization of addiction as ‘pathological learning’ have contributed to the demonstration that OXT effectively attenuates long-term neuroadaptation related to opiate and psychostimulant addiction. Through integrating earlier evidence with recent discoveries of the social/affiliative role of OXT, we propose that OXT may interfere with reward and addiction by influencing neurobiological processes involved in stress, learning and memory and social/affiliative behavior.

Can ‘love hormone’ protect against addiction?

http://www.adelaide.edu.au/news/news69442.html

Researchers at the University of Adelaide say addictive behaviour such as drug and alcohol abuse could be associated with poor development of the so-called “love hormone” system in our bodies during early childhood.

The groundbreaking idea has resulted from a review of worldwide research into oxytocin, known as the “love hormone” or “bonding drug” because of its important role in enhancing social interactions, maternal behaviour and partnership.

This month’s special edition of the international journal Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior deals with the current state of research linking oxytocin and addiction, and has been guest edited by Dr Femke Buisman-Pijlman from the University of Adelaide’s School of Medical Sciences.

Dr Buisman-Pijlman, who has a background in both addiction studies and family studies, says some people’s lack of resilience to addictive behaviours may be linked to poor development of their oxytocin systems.

“We know that newborn babies already have levels of oxytocin in their bodies, and this helps to create the all-important bond between a mother and her child. But our oxytocin systems aren’t fully developed when we’re born – they don’t finish developing until the age of three, which means our systems are potentially subject to a range of influences both external and internal,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

She says the oxytocin system develops mainly based on experiences.

“The main factors that affect our oxytocin systems are genetics, gender and environment. You can’t change the genes you’re born with, but environmental factors play a substantial role in the development of the oxytocin system until our systems are fully developed,” Dr Buisman-Pijlman says.

“Previous research has shown that there is a high degree of variability in people’s oxytocin levels. We’re interested in how and why people have such differences in oxytocin, and what we can do about it to have a beneficial impact on people’s health and wellbeing,” she says.

Sound of Mother’s voice : Aid for Fetal Brain growth

Ramayana

Tragedy of our times is that while mother should engage in life-enriching conversations with the womb, she has to attend conference calls, meetings, mobile games, whatsapp and all.

Imagine the frustration of the child in the womb for beginning life with such non-responsive parents?

I know few couples, who stopped using TV, mobile and all as soon as they realized to have a baby. Worth. Take care. Try it.


Even after birth, for first 2 years, dedicate your maximum time to child.

In India, grand mother prescribes pregnant females at home to read Ramayana and Mahabharata aloud. Instead, most of them now watch TV all the time :).
 
They suggest to sing Halarda to kids during sleeping time, but instead moms start mp3 on mobile :D.
 
Do you know why? Here is the hint:
 
“”Babies begin to hear at 25 weeks’ gestation, and they’re exposed to the mother’s voice and heartbeat,” Lahav said. “If you put them inside the incubator for five to six weeks, you’re actually depriving them of these maternal exposures to the mother’s voice. The incubator is seemingly a wonderful piece of equipment. But at the same time, it’s like a social cage.””
 
Even after birth, babies seek continuous hearing from mother. Her presence and voice help baby a lot in ongoing physical and mental development.
 
If I become Health Minister or can influence present minister, I will give full 2 years paid leaves to working mothers. 🙂
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Research
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Sound of Mother’s Voice in Womb May Aid Fetal Brain Growth

Study of preemies who heard recordings from mom showed larger auditory cortex

Babies may get a brain boost in the womb when they hear the voices and heartbeats of their mothers, a new study suggests.

Researchers studying premature babies in the hospital found that the sound centers in the babies’ brains grew more quickly when they heard recordings of their mothers rather than the normal clamor of intensive care units. The recordings were manipulated to simulate sounds heard in a womb.

It’s not clear what this means in the long run, “but it shows how important it is for mothers to interact with their premature babies when they visit,” said study co-author Amir Lahav, an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School in Boston.

Babies born prematurely often suffer from hearing and language problems, Lahav explained, and the researchers wanted to know more about how they’re affected by the weeks they spend in an incubator instead of in their mother’s womb.

“Babies begin to hear at 25 weeks’ gestation, and they’re exposed to the mother’s voice and heartbeat,” Lahav said. “If you put them inside the incubator for five to six weeks, you’re actually depriving them of these maternal exposures to the mother’s voice. The incubator is seemingly a wonderful piece of equipment. But at the same time, it’s like a social cage.”

The study findings probably apply to all babies, one expert noted.

Previous research has shown that fetuses respond to the sound of the mother’s voice. At birth, babies take notice “and say, ‘Hey, that’s what I was waiting for,’ ” said Janet Werker, a psychology professor at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver.

“There’s very strong evidence that at birth, full-term babies show strong preference for the language they heard in utero and the voice of their mother over other women,” she said.

But it’s not clear if the mother’s voice is the only important one, since exposure to other voices could be just as critical, Werker added.

For this latest study, the researchers chose a group of premature babies who were born at 25 to 32 weeks. Nineteen were randomly assigned to hear the normal noises of the hospital, while 21 heard recordings of the voices and heartbeats of their mothers. The second group listened to the recordings for three hours a day.

http://consumer.healthday.com/cognitive-health-information-26/brain-health-news-80/mother-s-voice-may-help-hearing-centers-in-babies-brains-grow-696746.html

Sperm carries information about dad’s weight

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More and more evidences are noted in recent times for common sense we all have that we give significant legacy to next generation. And that is not limited to genes. The local environment with sperm (epegenetic factors) and global environment (home, air, water, food, work profession etc) too play role.

So essentially, we don’t live for us but for future.

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Turns out dads are also eating for two. A study published December 3 in Cell Metabolism reveals that a man’s weight affects the heritable information contained in sperm. The sperm cells of lean and obese men possess different epigenetic marks, notable at gene regions associated with the control of appetite. The comparisons, which included 13 lean men and 10 obese men, offer one biological explanation for why children of obese fathers are themselves more predisposed to obesity.

Live your young age sensibly. Guide teens and educate them about disastrous impact of their addictions and obsessions.

Don’t be selfish.


Research


Obesity and Bariatric Surgery Drive Epigenetic Variation of Spermatozoa in Humans

Obesity is a heritable disorder, with children of obese fathers at higher risk of developing obesity. Environmental factors epigenetically influence somatic tissues, but the contribution of these factors to the establishment of epigenetic patterns in human gametes is unknown. Here, we hypothesized that weight loss remodels the epigenetic signature of spermatozoa in human obesity. Comprehensive profiling of the epigenome of sperm from lean and obese men showed similar histone positioning, but small non-coding RNA expression and DNA methylation patterns were markedly different. In a separate cohort of morbidly obese men, surgery-induced weight loss was associated with a dramatic remodeling of sperm DNA methylation, notably at genetic locations implicated in the central control of appetite. Our data provide evidence that the epigenome of human spermatozoa dynamically changes under environmental pressure and offers insight into how obesity may propagate metabolic dysfunction to the next generation.

http://www.cell.com/cell-metabolism/abstract/S1550-4131(15)00571-9?_returnURL=http%3A%2F%2Flinkinghub.elsevier.com%2Fretrieve%2Fpii%2FS1550413115005719%3Fshowall%3Dtrue

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