Child Development

Child Development

Your kid is not your machine




Your kid is not your phone or robot that it will work same as your friend’s phone or robot. Did you give birth to kid to mold him/her as robot? Why wasted so much biological energy then? You could have bought robot from market. There is no factory settings for kids that you can reset. Once you inject trauma by showing him/her inferior to others, it is imprinted. You restrict their growth! They are here to realize their own fate. Do not interrupt with your crazy idea to mold him as some ideal.

Psychological trauma generated by comparison is very difficult to soothe. And is permanent loss of child’s opportunity to grow uniquely.

Not only parents, school teachers often engage in same nasty mistake. Keep an eye on school teachers too. Stop them comparing your precious jewel with other jewels. No two diamonds can be of same size and shape.

World ahead is tough. Those who are like sheep (which will happen if you want your kid like others’ kids) will be wiped out by the challenges of the world. Make sure your kid grow as unique person and not copycat of someone’s kid. And yet he or she is wise enough to participate in community living.

Take care!

Liberating Education


What exactly school curriculum in India inject in growing mind?


1) traditional societies have been steeped in ignorance and superstitions for thousands of years;

2) they are living a life of abject poverty; and that this poverty has been caused by extreme forms of social discrimination and exploitative socio-political systems. And, perhaps most devastatingly, that modern education is the most potent instrument of deliverance from this ignorance, superstition, social injustices and poverty.

I am not surprised by the outcome, the brainwashed product of modern Indian education. I see them all around. Daily. Everywhere.

No, I am not talking about glorification of past or fanatic religious views in school curriculum. But fact based preview of the past and re-learn from it for the better future.

Contrary to the popular understanding among the educated classes of India, large part of the country did have a fairly good system of governance, finance and revenue, and a working education system, as late as even the early 19th century.

Awareness of these systems, of the prevailing conditions which supported their sustainability, and of the processes/strategies employed to destroy them, would help us when thinking of new strategies for building a learning society for all.

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Life is a Child’s play



The child puts things in his mouth, not because he wants to eat them, but because that’s his most developed sense, and that is how he learn to identify the vast objective world. It shows that we learn from going back to what we know. Initial years of childhood is the time of play, and as mammals, we are actually designed to learn through play, which is how we gather information. Let your child enjoy care-free world of learning. School is secondary, learning is primary. If he or she does not like school, let it be! Do not force! Do not plan a plot of dumb driven cattle! Einstein said that he would rather have imagination than intellect. It is imagination that forms the basis for our later intelligence.

Play, life is a play. Play, no hassles of intellectual pressures in early age, just play, period. Abundance of free-style learning! Irrespective of age, this is divine concept taught by Krishna in Bhagwad Gita to us –> Life is play, play it effortlessly!

The disease of being busy



How did we end up living like this? Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we do this to our children? When did we forget that we are human beings, not human doings?

Whatever happened to a world in which kids get muddy, get dirty, get messy, and heavens, get bored? Do we have to love our children so much that we over-schedule them, making them stressed and busy — just like us?


I see more and more kids becoming adults very early. Reaching their puberty age early. Due to this unnatural change, most adults are trapped with childish mind. And being-busy bug is realized very late in 40s or 50s…by the time life is waiting at funeral pyre. 🙂

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Spare time for self. For family. For kids. For Society. For City. For Mother Nature. For…self.


After we settled in, we went to one of the friendly neighbors, asking if their daughter and our daughter could get together and play. The mother, a really lovely person, reached for her phone and pulled out the calendar function. She scrolled… and scrolled… and scrolled. She finally said: “She has a 45-minute opening two and half weeks from now. The rest of the time it’s gymnastics, piano, and voice lessons. She’s just…. so busy.”

The Disease of Being Busy



Climbing A Tree(Risky Outdoors) positively impacts Children’s health



We really do not need research to prove that outdoor activities help children in maintaining health and encourages creativity, social skills and resilience. 😀
Irony is, despite knowing this, most parents engage their kids to Television, Mobile, Video game.
Every second is critical for children, for helping them to emerge as bold and fearless world citizen. Why waste behind idiot box? They have enough adult life to watch TV.
Playgrounds that offer natural elements such as trees and plants, changes in height, and freedom for children to engage in activities of their own choosing, have positive impacts on health, behaviour and social development.
It is unfortunate for those children whose parents encourage indoor entertainment over outdoor adventures.
Instead of helping kids to become real super heroes, they make them addicts of chota Bhim :(. Cartoon exposure only gifts cartoon traits to your kids. Avoid! Educate parents in your group so we can reduce societal influence of TV on our kids. (I am doing it here as my duty and with selfish interest of my son getting positive environment 🙂 )
“These spaces give children a chance to learn about risk and learn about their own limits,”
My son is our family police. He saves us from addictions. If by chance we are on mobile or TV, he comes and close it, He really don’t like watching TV or playing mobile. I did not do anything extra. As he was growing, we played with him all the time during waking hours. So now (at age 2.25, with more developed senses) when TV or mobile snatches his outdoor time, he does not like. 🙂

Sharing some great pics I found by google search. I wish all children develop such level of competency!

Girl Hanging Upside Down
Girl Hanging Upside Down



Develop risk taking behavior and your kid will indeed develop fearless effortless agile body like Bhagwan Krishna or like what you see in Bahubali 2 🙂






Risky outdoor play positively impacts children’s health: UBC study

Risky outdoor play positively impacts children’s health: UBC study

“We found that play environments where children could take risks promoted increased play time, social interactions, creativity and resilience,” said Mariana Brussoni, lead author of the study, and assistant professor in UBC’s School of Population and Public Health and Department of Pediatrics. “These positive results reflect the importance of supporting children’s risky outdoor play opportunities as a means of promoting children’s health and active lifestyles.”

Playgrounds that offer natural elements such as trees and plants, changes in height, and freedom for children to engage in activities of their own choosing, have positive impacts on health, behaviour and social development.

“These spaces give children a chance to learn about risk and learn about their own limits,” said Brussoni, also a scientist in the British Columbia Injury Research & Prevention Unit at the Child & Family Research Institute at BC Children’s Hospital.

Safety concerns, such as injury, were seen as the main reason for limiting risky outdoor play. Researchers found that playground safety standards and too much supervision prevented children from engaging in risky activities.

“Monitoring children’s activities may be a more appropriate approach than active supervision, particularly for older children,” said Brussoni. “We recommend considering policy, practice and built environment approaches to risky outdoor play that balance safety with children’s other health outcomes.”

Home-use insecticide and Child Cognitive Development


I did not use any type of branded shampoo for my son so far. We sometimes use herbal shampoo once in a while. No Johnson and Johnson type nonsense at our home. No powder, no special soap, no special oil. I admit, sometimes, we had to use when travelling to relatives places.

Now, I will be more strict. This research paper says that lice shampoos and other insecticides used at home are actually hampering cognitive development of kids. And degenerate Adults’ cognitive abilities.

Didn’t we discuss many times that we have turned our home into graveyard of chemicals. And our body goes through intense stress while combating all chemicals. From floor cleaners to shampoo to antibiotics. 🙁

Read this:


Impact of environmental exposure to insecticides on the cognitive development of 6 year old children

Pyrethroids constitute a family of insecticides widely used in a variety of sectors: agriculture (various crops), veterinary (antiparasitics) and domestic (lice shampoo, mosquito products). Their mode of action involves blocking neurotransmission in insects, leading to paralysis. Because of their efficacy and relative safety for humans and mammals, they have replaced older compounds (organochorides, organophosphates, carbamate) considered more toxic.

Exposure of children to pyrethroids is common. It is different to adult exposure, due to the closer proximity of children to ground-level dust (which stores pollutants), more frequent hand-to-mouth contact, lice shampoos, etc. In children, pyrethroids are mainly absorbed via the digestive system, but are also absorbed through the skin. They are rapidly metabolised in the liver, and mainly eliminated in the urine as metabolites within 48 hours.

Given these elements and the mode of action (neurotoxicity) of pyrethroid insecticides, the researchers proposed the hypothesis of a possible effect of these contaminants on the nervous system and its development in children.

Environment, Microbes and Ashthma


“We should be rolling in the dirt, gardening, wrestling with some brambles and skinning animals for supper. These are important immune system builders.”
~ Joel Salatin

“What a child is doing when he puts things in his mouth is allowing his immune response to explore his environment. Not only does this allow for ‘practice’ of immune responses, which will be necessary for protection, but it also plays a critical role in teaching the immature immune response what is best ignored.”
~ Mary Ruebush PhD
It may come as a surprise to many of us living in cities but this is the fact. Lack of healthy dirt (dirt/soil without chemicals) means lack of exposure to environment needed to nurture our immunity.
This results into Asthama.

Solution (As per my experience and observation)?

Visit Desi Cow’s Gau shala with Asthama patient. Spend time with Gobar. See the magic.
Let kids play in homely dirt.
Do not over-kill home bacteria by over-use of hand-wash, floor cleaner and all.
Children who grow up in environments that afford them a wide range of microbial exposures, such as traditional farms, are protected from childhood asthma and atopy. In previous studies, markers of microbial exposure have been inversely related to these conditions.


Exposure to Environmental Microorganisms and Childhood Asthma


Children living on farms were exposed to a wider range of microbes than were children in the reference group, and this exposure explains a substantial fraction of the inverse relation between asthma and growing up on a farm. (Funded by the Deutsche Forschungsgemeinschaft and the European Commission.)

Parental Obsession : Physical Growth (Height and Weight) Worry


Krishna Fighting

I am a parent. New and learning. I meet parents in my league to discuss and observe their issues and try to find solution for my confusions and doubts.

One worry that bites almost all parents is about height and weight of the kid. They put so much attention on vital figures related to height and weight, that pediatricians surrender and prescribe weight gain feeding formulas.

Parents see result. Now their kid is growing fast after starting feeding formula.

What they forget it, by adding supplements in diet, kid will start ignoring real food. This may lead to malnutrition as feeding formula does not come with all necessary nutrients. Also, it is dead food. It is artificial composition. Kid may not digest it fully. Kid can digest best what her feeding mother can or his/her extended family can.

Malnutrition leads to mineral and vitamin deficiency. You are all educated and understand mineral and vitamin deficiency very well.

My point is: Your concern is valid but do not be paranoid about it. Focus on balanced diet. Have patience. Kid’s body is working hard to gel with environment by activating and de-activating genes combination. Feeding formula is not the answer. Mother’s breast-feed up to 2 years will give them immunity boosters. Mother’s breast-feed will give them antibody markers.

If you really want to improve things,

Try to find out organically grown food.
Try to find out ethically procured desi gau milk.
Try to include variety of grains in diet.
Rely on local food.

At the end, look at this picture associated with the post. Those who look strong in outer look are not the strongest always. 🙂 I hope you got the message. Focus on building real stuff in them. Stronger mind, strong values and balanced diet.

Human Childhood : Special Childhood



Humans have the longest childhood of any animal on the planet. Neural circuits started forming before you were born, and so extended brain development continues during childhood.

Childhood is a time when children need love, affection, care. It is extended pregnancy for mother, helped by other family members.

If you want your kid to unveil his/her potentially fully, take care of their childhood. Take care of them like they are in womb for at least 5-6 years. Do not give them stress. Do not scold them. Whatever you want them to learn, demonstrate in your activities. They are great learners .Do not impose your mentality on them. Give them free space to breathe.

Does your child respect food?


Biggest misery of life is when you are disconnected from food origin, when you do not give respect to food on plate. Eating with attention towards food is a criminal neglect. Neglect for billion+ body cells who expect you you eat proper so that they can survive.

At meals, take a moment to reflect on where your food came from. For example, if you were focusing on the wheat in a slice of roti, you could imagine it growing in the fields and being harvested, threshed, stored, ground into flour, baked into loaves, all before arriving on your plate. You can go pretty far with this in just a few seconds.

You might also imagine some of the people who helped turn this wheat into your bread, and the equipment and technology involved, as well as our ancient ancestors who slowly figured out how to domesticate wild grains.

Respect and attention for food cycle will transform entire digestion process divine. All your billion body cells sake, focus on food. Revere all who made it possible for you. Thank you all before you take first bite.

Remember, your parents still surrender food to God, Animals, plants and pitru-पितृतर्पण (forefathers) before eating it. That is the sensible way of eating.

Try it.

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