Child Development

Child Development

Children: Language learning and social activities


Parents must not use shortcuts. Stories on tablets, cartoons on TV are not useful. If you want your kid to learn and excel in multiple languages, let there be more opportunities for social interactions. Your babies demand your time. Human interactions. Even if they cannot speak full words and sentences, speak with them! Communicate! Gestures, expressions and surprises! Tablet and TV cannot give gestures and expressions!

“We found that the degree to which infants visually tracked the tutors and the toys they held was linked to brain measures of infant learning, showing that social behaviors give helpful information to babies in a complex natural language learning situation,” Kuhl said.

“Our findings show that young babies’ social engagement contributes to their own language learning – they’re not just passive listeners of language,” Brooks said. “They’re paying attention, and showing parents they’re ready to learn when they’re looking back and forth. That’s when the most learning happens.”

Babies’ brains show that social skills linked to second language learning

Study reveals 1 in 3 babies has used a smartphone or tablet before their first birthday

Study reveals 1 in 3 babies has used a smartphone or tablet before their first birthday

Child Development is an essential social forestry (सामाजिक वनीकरण)

Child Development - Social responsibility
Child Development – Social responsibility

There are 100 families in one urban residential area. All of them decided to grow mango tree. 25 families believed that…mango tree should be exposed to all natural/man-made conditions so they decided to take no care of mango trees. Out of 25 orphan trees, 10 trees grew well and 15 died premature death after 3 months.

10 families were happy: “See, we told you. You don’t need to over conscious about trees. Let them grow as is and they will be fine. You unnecessary worry about mango trees. We just need to grow them and they will grow by learning from us and others. No extra care is required.”

So why did 10 orphan trees could survive and 15 died?
Three factors play role in growth of any organism
1) Seed quality 2) Environment 3) Eco-system

25 trees were lacking environmental help in terms of their caretaker so their chances of survival was reduced to 66%. Some of them were near trees who were taken care and had superior quality of seed so 10 trees could survive. 15 were unfortunate – they either lacked seed quality or eco-support (Support from other mango trees and their caretakers) or both.

Child development is like growing and nurturing mango tree. If you are carefree and firm believer that…let the child exposed to everything…and still your child is growing as expected, you and your kid are lucky ! Despite your carelessness, his/her eco-support (good teacher, good friends, good parents of their friends etc) and inherent seed quality or both helped him/her.
But still, your duty is compromised so there will be some compromise with development.

Seed quality of child development : Healthy food before and during pregnancy. Healthy habits. Stress-free home and work environment.

Environment: Food, Water, Air

Eco-System : Family, friends, neighbours

Growing child need all! He or she can grow without all luxuries you provide but not without healthy communities.

African Proverb
African Proverb

Children, Air pollution and common sense

Children and Air pollution
Children and Air pollution

The breathing rate over the first 12 years of life is about double that of adult breathing rate. So good air or bad air, children consume more.

For your healthy lungs, thank pre-1991 (Before Manmohan era of mindless development) Indians who were not as mindless as we are. Imagine what we gift to millions of children by rampant urban air pollution.

Greatest gift we give to our children: Suffocating air. 🙁 Yes, I am also partner in crime, like you all. 🙁

Although this is not a solution, I suggest you to have Fresh-Air-Sundays with kids. Away from urban crowd, in the laps of the nature, for weekly fresh air quota. (Y)

Children, Food Selection and Convoluted Logic


There was a comment on my post on industrial meat and brain infection relation. It was like this:

Though I am a vegetarian, I feel bad when I see my non-veg eating friends who are more fit and comparatively more disease free. They do no have Vitamin B12 deficiency issues. Few proudly say:

“I am eating food (veg/non-veg) in hotels from last 15 years, I am perfectly healthy”.

“I eat and drink everything without thinking much about it, I have no health problem”

This article and my observations are not matching. There are several times I feel that I should start having meat.

I also receive same comments from many of my real life friends and relatives. One rational and so called liberal friend argued with me last night: ” I eat all kinds of food all the time for more than a decade. I am healthy so will be my child. I want my child to be fearless and eat anything and prepare body.”

🙂 This is I recognize as Convoluted logic to defend personal weaknesses.

First of all: Do we live life to eat or eat to live? Think about it.

Second: I really am not positive for adults past-25 age changing their habits. It hardly happens until they reach 40 and body stops supporting their habits. I prefer not to convince them.

What I am worried about and expect change is about our children. Future of Bharat. If we can guide children and provide them environment for healthy habits, we can envision much stronger generation than what we have at present. That is the opportunity we should focus on.

My response to this friend:

“Children eat and drink more than adults in relation to their body weight, and so take in relatively more residues.US figures show that, generally, children in the first six months of life consume seven times more water per kg of body weight than does the average adult.

Include artificial fruit juices, baby foods and all range of so called healthy but processed foods! 🙂

So who is more susceptible to toxins in processed and chemically grown food? We or our kids?

Take care. In your false arrogance and careless attitude towards food selection, you are doing injustice to growing possibilities in your child.”

So, it is idiotic and monstrous when you force your kid to eat same filthy restaurant food. Just because you don’t like cooking or have tongue-lust, your kid will suffer! I remember, I never eat outside food until I joined engineering college away from home. And I never felt the needed because my beloved mother cooked all superb food for us 🙂


Infants and young children have specific nutritional needs. They need up to 7 times more nutrients than an adult (per kg body weight). Therefore, with every spoon, a child has to eat significantly more nutrients than an adult.

Read this to realize and stop treating your kid as adult, for their food, entertainment and other needs!

Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant
Adult vs Infant

Generation in jeopardy : How pesticides ruin our children

Go to any school. You will find more and more aggression, attention deficit, anti-social patterns. Sadly, teachers and parents accept this as new normal. 🙁

Can your 6 figure salary, all luxury provided to kid avoid this? And there is no magic wand that you can apply to development derailment of growing generation. Only right food, right emotions and your ample time can save them!

Time is running fast. Get back control over your food chain. Demand more and more organic food. Cook fresh food for children. No more processed food.

Before earning for family, I think it is now critical for any parents to find fresh, chemical-free food for kids. What is the use of our earning when we buy chemicals as food for our kids?

Generation in jeopardy
Generation in jeopardy
Generation in jeopardy
Generation in jeopardy

Learning disabilities, childhood cancer and asthma are on the rise in the United States. A new report out today points to pesticides – with over 1 billion pounds applied on farms and homes annually in the US– as a critical contributor to these health harms in children. In Los Angeles alone,nearly 2 million pounds of pesticides are applied annually.

This is situation of the land where we think rules are followed. Imagine the situation here where there is free-flow usage of chemicals. On top of it, chemicals used to process the food.

“We have waited much, much too long to make the health of our children a national priority,” said Martha Dina Argüello of Physicians for Social Responsibility- Los Angeles. “This report shines a light on a completely preventable tragedy – that a generation of children will not reach their full potential. This represents a truly staggering loss we can no longer ignore.”

Pesticides impact on children
Pesticides impact on children
Pesticides impact on children
Pesticides impact on children

“Pesticides have unique and profound impacts on the developing child, even in very small amounts. The growing body of research tells us that pesticides, in combination with other environmental and behavioral factors, are creating a looming epidemic of diseases and disorders,” states Argüello. “We must act now so we are not putting another generation of children in harm’s way.”

“What matters is that our children’s bodies have become garbage cans! Everyday, I cry because of those diseases simply caused by the environment. More people have died because of chemicals than during World War II. Those who don’t want to see any cause for concern in our studies will have to answer for their serious dishonesty.”

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Liquor Seller : Role Model?

Role Model?
Role Model?

Can you hide this fact from your kid that his/her so called role model is also a Whiskey salesman?

Teens and age below 16, do not have developed discriminatory intellect (as their brain is still growing) which can decide right vs wrong. For them, whatever their role model does, is right. Parents are role model Parent’s role models are their role models. TV gives them new bunch of role models.

So do not get surprised if your teen age boy is caught drinking whiskey with friends after playing Dhoni style cricket.

Is Dhoni your child’s role model? Take care.

This is not just about Dhoni. Entire Bollywood and Cricket clan is useless and not worth to follow. So what to do?
Find out जनक ! You must find Janak for your child. No matter how intelligent and learned you are, you will fail to convince your son/daughter certain important things about life.That’s where your learned friends will play the role in crafting your child’s destiny. I call such friends as real जनक. Real नंद.

Even Seer व्यास had to send शुक to जनक, to convince him about marriage and keep him away from Vairagya delusion.

Putna, Krishna and Gau

Krishna fighting against Putna src: Google search
Krishna fighting against Putna
src: Google search

Each story has hidden meaning if we learn to decipher. There is popular story known in our cutlure about Avtar Krishna and Demon Putna. And how baby Krishna kills the demon Putna.

The word “Pūtanā”, broken as “Pūt” (virtue) and “nā” (no) means “devoid of virtue”. Another explanation derives “Pūtanā” from “Pūta” (purifying), thus meaning “she who purifies”.Putana (Sanskrit: Pūtanā, lit. “putrefaction”) is a Matrika, who is killed by the infant-god Krishna.

In reality, Putna is a childhood sickness. Often due to post-delivery stress, mother’s milk become vitiated and imbalance of Dosha (Kapha, Pitta, Vayu balance) happens. More often in the case of first time mothers. If child’s mother cannot feed (in case of Krishna, mother was not able to feed), foster-mother feed. If this foster-mother’s intentions are not good, has no love for the child, milk becomes poison. And Putna arrives to kill or hamper the growth of the child.

Due to drinking such milk, infant’s body’s Vayu is aggravated and so infant suffers from Lack of sleep, diarrhea & constant thrist and constant crying. That is Putna.

If not taken care, infant dies. This is one of the primary cause of infant mortality.

Baby-Krishna could survive such vitiated milk. And that is how he killed the Putna!


Solution: घृत ghee (COW GHEE)

” पिप्पली त्रिफला चूर्णं घृत क्षौद्र परिप्लुतम l
बालो रोदिति य: तस्मै: लेढुम दद्यात सुखावहम ll ” ( योग-रत्नाकर – द्वितीय खंड – बालरोग चिकित्सा )

Pippali and trifala churna with ghee and honey.

Needless to mention that Krishna was living with Nanda the Cow expert. So he must have got this treatment immediately. And since he took birth with perfect body, it was easy for him to fight against poisoned milk.

Things to take care:
1) Never give ghee and honey in same quantity i.e. 1 ml ghee + 1 ml honey = this is not preferable.
2) Purity of the sources. Ghee prepared from ethically procured milk and prepared by churning. Honey procured ethically without harming bees.

This is the reason, feeding mother should never take stress of any kind. She should be always cheerful and stress-free. Her food should be rich and wholesome prepared by someone who has highest love for both newly became mother and infant. And so post-delivery, new mother prefers to live with her mother. 🙂

वसुदेवसुतं देवं कंसचाणूरमर्दनम् देवकीपरमानन्दं कृष्णं वंदे जगद्गुरुम्|

Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest

Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest
Super Hero : Dharma vs Rest

Western Superhero -> “I am capable enough of doing everything. I can save the world. I am center of the universe. I can destroy all evils.”

Our Superhero -> He takes the driver’s seat. He navigates. He directs. He inspires. He believes in collective actions. He believes in awakened mass. To his best friend, he says: “Do not become a coward, O Arjuna, because it does not befit you. Shake off this trivial weakness of your heart and get up for the battle, O Arjuna.”

Rama was capable to slay Ravana alone but he did not. He did Nation-wide Van-yatra, awakened the mass, took their help and collectively fought.

Look at the go-vardhan picture. It is not just Krishna that is participating.

This universe runs by collective actions. Even Avatar demands it.

So when your child is raised by the stories of Batman and Superman, it is difficult to instill this valuable learning about collective actions. And child may develop false delusion of super-ego.

I would any day prefer stories of Rama and Krishna over Batman and Superman.

Visual Perceptions and Toddlers

Little boy sitting in cardboard box, hiding his face with hands
Little boy sitting in cardboard box, hiding his face with hands

One thing I noticed about toddlers:

If you ask them to close eyes, they will first deny. And if they agree and do it, closed eyes last for few seconds. Hardly for a minute. This is despite they spent 9 months in eternal darkness.

Imagine the vacuum they feel in darkness! They do not want to compromise their growth by shunning visual perceptions. Every second is critical learning.

And we parents waste these critical visual moments by exposing them to TV, Mobile, Video games…🙁

Let there be vivid live experiences. Let there be Nature maximum and minimum virtual visuals.

Tablet alternative for kids – Part 1


In several notes, I shared how digital screen exposure to kids is acting fatal, a silent bomb.

Screen Alternative
Screen Alternative

In this series of notes, I will share alternatives.

As the potter places clay in the center of the wheel and slowly begins to spin it, he combines water and a gentle but firm hand to guide the shape of the clay, until a unique object emerges to be appreciated and used in many different ways.

All these leaves long lasting impression about human potential on growing kid. Visit to factories, exposure to tablet/laptop/phone can never nurture creativity in full bloom.

Touch of the tablet/phone/laptop/gadget can never compete with the touch of the clay.

How do you help your child for developing touch sense?

I really feel pity for all kids whose schools have made tablet based teaching compulsory. 🙁 And there is hardly any exposure to real touch training (Like pottery) 🙁

And teachers hardly have potter-like skill to mold the growing kids. 🙁

Pottery is potent enough to instill creativity behind the formation and maintenance of the universe. Think about it. Take care (Y). Help your child.


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