Child Development

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Your Child Demands Yashoda Care : Neuroscience of parenting

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Yashoda Care - Perfect parenting
Yashoda Care – Perfect parenting

I call perfect parenting as ‘Yashoda Care’. It is every child’s birth right.

Picture in left depicts scene from the Indian scriptures (Bhagwat or Harivansh. Need to verify) where child Krishna is sleeping and entire family is waiting for his wake up time. They are prepared with food and water for him. They all are with smiling face. Eager to pamper the child. Look at the setup. Full ventilation. Trees in background. Birds. Sunlight.

Mind you, this is not because Krishna is God. This is not exclusive treatment given to Krishna. This was family norm in his times. An ideal child care. In fact, such high quality foster care made him God as per my understanding! 🙂

Why do we need such treatment to infants and children?

As an adult, our actions as a citizen, as a father, as a son of ailing parents, depend upon our mental maturity. Mental maturity requires healthy brain. Brain development depends heavily on experience.

Experience is what we can provide as parents. As per research, Children raised in institutions often show compromises in brain development and associated behavioral functioning, according to the study background.
High-quality foster care is CRITICAL.

And what do we do?

We watch TV while child is sleeping in another room. We continue with our activities even when child is crying and seeking our attention. We are on whatsapp when child’s eyes seek our attention for their activities. All these sums up as neglect. Neglect means impaired brain development.

Take care! All our activities are secondary when a growing child demands attention! Not only our child, all children of near and dear ones!

Take inspiration from the picture in above. Provide high-quality foster care. This requires us to live in joint family. If joint family living is not possible, good social relations with neighbors is needed.

I will conclude with African proverb:
“It requires entire village to raise a child”.

Think about it. take care.

White Matter neglect
White Matter neglect

About research:
“Results from this study contribute to growing evidence that severe neglect in early life affects the structural integrity of white matter throughout the brain and that early intervention may support long-term remediation in specific fiber tracts involved in limbic and frontostriatal circuitry and the sensory processes. Our findings have important implications for public health related to early prevention and intervention for children reared in conditions of severe neglect or adverse contexts more generally ” the study concludes.


Research


Brain White Matter Changes Seen in Children Who Experience Neglect

Brain development depends heavily on experience. Children raised in institutions often show compromises in brain development and associated behavioral functioning, according to the study background.

Results suggest that removal from conditions of neglect in early life and entry into a high-quality family environment can support more normative trajectories of white matter growth. Our findings have implications for public health and policy efforts designed to promote normative brain development among vulnerable children.

http://archpedi.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=2091622

Newborns and step-by-step Sensorial Inputs

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Sensosial Overload
Sensosial Overload

 

Imagine, someone start DJ loud speakers at midnight when you are deep sleep? What will be your reaction?

Do we like erratic perceptions? So often we oppose noise pollution. Chaotic visuals make us nervous. Information overload makes us stressful. Even with matured and developed senses.

Newborn Universe
Newborn Universe

When a child comes out of water-melon sized uterus at birth, its universe expands suddenly! We must not add chaos in new life! Let there be expansion of the universe step by step. For this, we have different Sanskars. Learn 16 Sanskar rituals. Only after 4 months, child is introduced to real universe. Till then, mother remains as universe and the Sutika Gruh as expanded womb.

Imagine torture we gift to newborns in society. Just after delivery, huge crowd of friends and relatives bombard high dosage of erratic and chaotic input signals to underdeveloped senses of newborn. Not only humans, but their pet-gadgets too, throwing powerful flash lights.

Things don’t stop on birth day. This is just a beginning. When infant moves to home, new pet-gadgets and their unnecessary input signals become overburden for developing senses.

In our culture, there is a custom to introduce infant to different level of sensory input signals step by step. First, let there be womb like environment. Infant, mother and their caretaker (mostly mother’s mother) for first 3 months. Only father and blood relatives are allowed glimpses. 4th month onwards, introduce Nature and other distant relatives. Step by step, in humble interest of wellbeing of all future citizens.

Stop exploiting kids. Avoid your gadget freakiness in front of them. Let them remain close to mother and nature for few years.

Action items:
• Avoid flash light camera exposure for first 6 months.
• Avoid crowd in first 3 months.
• Avoid travelling for first year.
• Avoid noisy environment (marriages, functions, fire-crackers, DJ systems)
• Introduce family step by step
• Handle developing sense as if you are handling fragile utensils.
• Avoid TV, mobile, laptop exposure for first 3 years.

Use common sense. Mother nature is kind enough to guide.

Vata Prakop : Cracked heels

PS: Young married couple: If you see any of Vata symptom in each other, treat it before you plan for progeny. This is to unnecessary avoid Vata as birth Prakruti.

Vayu Prakop - Normal in middle age
Vayu Prakop – Normal in middle age

Cracked heels (Benign Vipadika) is a symptom of Vata Prakop. Vipadika is a common disorder of skin which affects the people irrespective of age and sex. It is not limited to any particular class in the society. Its signs and symptoms according to charaka are pani pada sphutana and teevra vedana.

This used to be middle age symptom indicating gradual increase of Vata with aging. But now a days, I see college going youth suffering from this – Clear indication of untimely and early onset of aggravated Vata.

When it becomes prolonged or spread in entire body, we call it कुष्ठ / Leprosy.

Solution:

1) Apply warm sesame oil or ghee cooked with turmeric and hareettaki.
2) Soak the feet in warm salt water daily for 5-10 mins
3) Apply mixture of castor oil and turmeric on cracks
4) Apply mixture of castor oil and turmeric + Triphala on cracks

Joint Family Living and Immunity

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Joint family living is extinct custom in most Indian lineages. Due to this extinct idea, upcoming generations will miss, not only cultural inheritance but also biological inheritance.

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Cultural inheritance – easy to understand. Common sense. Google

In classroom biology, we are taught about DNA based biological inheritance from paternal and maternal lines but story does not end there.

Exposure-sensitive periods in childhood and sex-specific transmissions are features that support biological rather than cultural transmission. Story begins with grand-parents exposure to children during exposure-sensitive growth periods. Grand-father and grand-mother – both plays critical role of transmitting surrogate biological instructions to growing children. Surrogate instructions are those gene expression, which are not transmitted by parents in their DNA. These gene-expressions, provide extra protection against most possible generational immunity buildup. Modern science has just started investigating this link. [Some studies are shared at the end of this note. This studies also suggest that why it is important for you to discard bad habits and develop good habits.]

And what do we do with our grandparents? We send them to old age home! What a stupid generation! Crime against civilization! If you love your children (which is possible if they are not product of your sex instinct and are not accidently delivered due to one night mistake i.e. Not so planned parenting) Think twice before you decide to live separate from your parents.

Parents, grand-parents, siblings, cousins – they all play role in child development [1]. I know many parents, sacrificing career opportunities to focus on child development. Results are amazing. Take care in national interest. Your child is future citizen. Do not produce weak generation. Fight against modern societal perils. Encourage joint family living.


Research


[1] Family structure, neonatal infection, and hay fever in adolescence.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1511536/

OBJECTIVE: To determine whether increased numbers of siblings and infection in early life protect against allergic sensitisation. DESIGN: Historical cohort study. SETTING: Sheffield, UK. SUBJECTS: 11,765 children aged 11-16 years for whom a history of neonatal infectious illness had been recorded systematically at 1 month of age. METHODS: A history of hay fever and family structure was obtained by postal questionnaire; neonatal illness history was ascertained from health visitor records; 723 children underwent skin prick testing with mixed grass pollen extract. RESULTS: The prevalence of hay fever was reduced (p < 0.0001) among children of younger mothers, and those from larger families. The number of older siblings exerted a stronger independent effect than the number of younger siblings (p < 0.001). Infants breast fed exclusively during the first month were at higher risk (p < 0.05) of subsequent hay fever, independent of demographic factors. Adolescents at high risk of hay fever by virtue of their family structure were more likely to be sensitised to grass pollen (p < 0.002). No significant relations emerged between hay fever and infection in the first month of life, even among children born in June. CONCLUSIONS: The association of hay fever with family structure is not due to reporting bias and reflects an environmental influence on allergic sensitisation. The effects of sibship size, birth order, and infant feeding are consistent with a protective influence of postnatal infection. The first month of life and the first postnatal exposure to allergen are not the critical periods during which this protective effect is determined.

Grandma’s Experiences Leave a Mark on Your Genes

Your ancestors’ lousy childhoods or excellent adventures might change your personality, bequeathing anxiety or resilience by altering the epigenetic expressions of genes in the brain.

http://discovermagazine.com/2013/may/13-grandmas-experiences-leave-epigenetic-mark-on-your-genes

Your Diet Affects Your Grandchildren’s DNA, Scientists Say

http://discovermagazine.com/2013/may/13-grandmas-experiences-leave-epigenetic-mark-on-your-genes

You are what you eat, the saying goes. And, according to two new genetic studies, you are what your mother, father, grandparents and great-grandparents ate, too.

Diet, be it poor or healthy, can so alter the nature of one’s DNA that those changes can be passed on to the progeny. While this much has been speculated for years, researchers in two independent studies have found ways in which this likely is happening.

The findings, which involve epigenetics, may help explain the increased genetic risk that children face compared to their parents for diseases such as obesity and diabetes.

Time to take epigenetic inheritance seriously

http://www.nature.com/ejhg/journal/v10/n11/full/5200901a.html

Whilst one striking result relates to the grandfather’s food availability, epigenetic transmission from just father to child would be sufficient to set up a cascade of metabolic responses down the generations.

 

Putna, Krishna and Gau

Krishna fighting against Putna src: Google search
Krishna fighting against Putna
src: Google search

Each story has hidden meaning if we learn to decipher. There is popular story known in our cutlure about Avtar Krishna and Demon Putna. And how baby Krishna kills the demon Putna.

The word “Pūtanā”, broken as “Pūt” (virtue) and “nā” (no) means “devoid of virtue”. Another explanation derives “Pūtanā” from “Pūta” (purifying), thus meaning “she who purifies”.Putana (Sanskrit: Pūtanā, lit. “putrefaction”) is a Matrika, who is killed by the infant-god Krishna.

In reality, Putna is a childhood sickness. Often due to post-delivery stress, mother’s milk become vitiated and imbalance of Dosha (Kapha, Pitta, Vayu balance) happens. More often in the case of first time mothers. If child’s mother cannot feed (in case of Krishna, mother was not able to feed), foster-mother feed. If this foster-mother’s intentions are not good, has no love for the child, milk becomes poison. And Putna arrives to kill or hamper the growth of the child.

Due to drinking such milk, infant’s body’s Vayu is aggravated and so infant suffers from Lack of sleep, diarrhea & constant thrist and constant crying. That is Putna.

If not taken care, infant dies. This is one of the primary cause of infant mortality.

Baby-Krishna could survive such vitiated milk. And that is how he killed the Putna!

How?

Solution: घृत ghee (COW GHEE)

” पिप्पली त्रिफला चूर्णं घृत क्षौद्र परिप्लुतम l
बालो रोदिति य: तस्मै: लेढुम दद्यात सुखावहम ll ” ( योग-रत्नाकर – द्वितीय खंड – बालरोग चिकित्सा )

Pippali and trifala churna with ghee and honey.

Needless to mention that Krishna was living with Nanda the Cow expert. So he must have got this treatment immediately. And since he took birth with perfect body, it was easy for him to fight against poisoned milk.

Things to take care:
1) Never give ghee and honey in same quantity i.e. 1 ml ghee + 1 ml honey = this is not preferable.
2) Purity of the sources. Ghee prepared from ethically procured milk and prepared by churning. Honey procured ethically without harming bees.

This is the reason, feeding mother should never take stress of any kind. She should be always cheerful and stress-free. Her food should be rich and wholesome prepared by someone who has highest love for both newly became mother and infant. And so post-delivery, new mother prefers to live with her mother. 🙂

वसुदेवसुतं देवं कंसचाणूरमर्दनम् देवकीपरमानन्दं कृष्णं वंदे जगद्गुरुम्|

Kids, Entertainment, Marketing and Exploitation

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If child labor is illegal, then why employing children to sell useless products and mass-brainwashing children/society as slave is legal?

Observe. Majority ads now employ kids for one or another way.

In 2008, an estimated 17 million children watched the Superbowl with their families. Alongside the football, they also watched a number of highly creative and engaging ads for beer and alcohol.

In India, kids watch IPL and condom ads together. In one of the multiplex in city (Inox group), toilet is covered with condom ads. You cannot go with kids to restrooms.

The marketing of adult entertainment to children has been, and continues to be, an ongoing issue between government regulators and various media industries. In a report released in 2000, the U.S. Federal Trade Commission (FTC) took movie, music and video games industries to task for routinely marketing violent entertainment to young children. Subsequent reports since then have shown that although advances have been made – particularly within the video game industry – there are still many outstanding concerns relating to the frequency that adult-oriented entertainment is marketed to children and the ease with which many under-age youth are able to access adult-rated games, movies and music. [6] Specific areas where the FTC is calling on entertainment media to improve on include restricting the marketing of mature-rated products to children, clearly and prominently disclosing rating information and restricting children’s access to mature-rated products at retail. [7]

Kids represent an important demographic to marketers because in addition to their own purchasing power (which is considerable) they influence their parents’ buying decisions and are the adult consumers of the future.

According to the 2008 YTV Kids and Tweens Report, kids influence:

Breakfast choices (97% of the time) and lunch choices (95% of the time).
Where to go for casual family meals (98% of the time) (with 34% of kids always having a say on the choice of casual restaurant).
Clothing purchases (95% of the time).
Software purchases (76% of the time) and computer purchases (60% of the time).
Family entertainment choices (98% of the time) and family trips and excursions (94% of the time). [0]

Fact 1: The average child sees nearly 40,000 commercials a year, about 110 a day. [1]
Fast 2: Children under seven are especially vulnerable to marketing messages. Research shows that they are unable to distinguish commercial motives from benign or benevolent motives. [2]
Fact 3: More and more Ads now demo Children with VETO power (Parents? Who are they to take out decision attitude)

When you apply common sense to fact 1,2,3 and paint a picture – you derive a ugly picture of society. Keep your family out of this trend/mess.

[0] Poulton, Terry. “ ‘Kidfulence’ on family spending strong: YTV Report.” Media in Canada. February 22, 2008.

[1] Kunkel, D. 2002 “Children and Television Advertising,” Handbook of Children and the Media. Eds. Singer, D., and Singer, J. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications.
[2] http://jbd.sagepub.com/content/26/6/529.abstract
[6] Federal Trade Commission (2009). FTC Renews Call to Entertainment Industry to Curb Marketing of Violent Entertainment to Children. http://www.narm.com/PDF/FTCReport_1209.pdf
[7] Ibid.

Teeth Cleaning, Mental Development And Autism

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Datun

कदम्बे तु धृतिर्मेधा चम्पके च दृढा मतिः |
अपामार्गे धृतिर्मेधा प्रज्ञाशक्तिस्तथाऽसने ||
– भावप्रकाश संहिता
कदम्बकी दातौनसे धृति एवं मेधा , चंपासे वाणी सुननेकी शक्ति ,अपामार्गसे धैर्य और बुद्धि और विजयसारसे बुद्धि शक्ति बढ़ती है ।

CAN your modern toothpaste provide you these benefits? This verse can work very well with children suffering from Autism type disorders. Harmless and effective.

In form of modern day toothpaste, we actually take first dose of daily poison. 🙂 In the long run, randomly, it is toxic disaster for many.

Science of sUtikA gRRiha vs Modern Hospital, Gut Bacteria, Antibiotics

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Child birth
Child birth

For 1000s of years, we had practice of child birth at honme. सूतिका गृह  was prepared and managed for child birth. There were specifications for it. Panchgavya was part of the setup. (Cow dung, urine,milk, ghee,curd). Honey was part of the setup. Ghee lamp too. Everything to instill healthy Prana and yet keep the environment like womb.

The antibiotics given to many killed mother’s bacteria, and bacteria in NICU took over

This is very simple. Common sense. When child comes out from the sterile protected womb ( actually it is not sterile but modern medicine’s dogmas say so), it will be nurtured by the Prana of the mother and the local environment where it is born.

In our local villages practices, there is no mass-assembly like place for newborns and infants. Instead, they (mother, infant and caretaker – just three) live in highly customized सूतिका गृह for 1 to 3 to 6 months. No issue like what is mentioned in this article.

There are specifications mentioned in Ayurvedic Samhitas about architecture and facilities for सूतिका गृह. It demands research efforts from us. गौ-गोबर,घी,दही,मूत्र,दूध – without them, it is difficult to build healthy and life-enriching सूतिका गृह (As I read so far – this is my conclusion)

Till 80s, children used to take birth at home and the doctor / helper visit individual home for delivery.

We have now forced the alteration in this common sense practice.
Now, child is delivered in hospitals. So sterile Prana of newborn is out of control from birth. We really don’t have any control!

“Babies typically get their gut bacteria from their mothers during childbirth. Premature infants, however, receive antibiotics during their first week of life to prevent infections, and these antibiotics eliminate many of the microbes the infants receive from their mothers.

As a result, microbes from the NICU colonize the digestive tracts of premature infants, the University of California, Berkeley, researchers found.”

My suggestions (Even my son did not receive this better treatment 🙁 due to lack of common sense then 🙁

1) Prefer home-based delivery ( This is impossible in current scenario as doctor won’t agree with it and there is hardly art of traditional care exist in society)

2) Prefer small clinics with no general purpose rooms. (Rooms exclusively used for newborn and mothers). Smaller the facility (small does not mean lack of coziness but low no of beds), lower the chances of unpredicted microbes occupying newborn GUT.


Research


Gut Bacteria in Preemies Altered by Hospital Stay, Study Finds

https://consumer.healthday.com/caregiving-information-6/hospital-news-393/gut-bacteria-in-preemies-altered-by-hospital-stay-study-finds-684245.html

The antibiotics given to many killed mother’s bacteria, and bacteria in NICU took over

Gut bacteria in premature infants don’t come from their mothers, but from microbes in the neonatal intensive-care unit (NICU), a new study finds.

Babies typically get their gut bacteria from their mothers during childbirth. Premature infants, however, receive antibiotics during their first week of life to prevent infections, and these antibiotics eliminate many of the microbes the infants receive from their mothers.

As a result, microbes from the NICU colonize the digestive tracts of premature infants, the University of California, Berkeley, researchers found.

The researchers swabbed the most-touched surfaces in an NICU and collected fecal samples from two premature infants in the unit. The surfaces checked for microbes included the sink; feeding and breathing tubes; the hands of health workers and parents; incubator access knobs; and keyboards, cell phones and other electronic equipment at the nurses’ station.

The researchers found that the gut bacteria in the two infants were similar to those found on the surfaces in the intensive-care unit. The most abundant types of gut bacteria in the infants were similar to those found on feeding and breathing tubes.

The study was published recently in the journal Microbiome.

“The most common species found in our study — Enterococcus faecalis, Staphylococcus epidermidis, Escherichia coli and Bacteroides fragilis — all have been associated with disease in preterm infants, but can also be commonly isolated from healthy infants and adults,” study author Brandon Brooks said in a journal news release.

“The strains found here are largely opportunistic, lacking many of the really nasty genes found in ‘outbreak’ versions of their respective strains,” Brooks said. “The bacteria would need to be further tested to fully understand [any potential threat].”

Hyper-sexual Media and Child Development

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In the contemporary media landscape, images of highly sexualized little girls and childified images of adult women run together seamlessly. Everywhere we see grown women and little girls in the same fetishized clothing, in the same poses, with the same facial expressions. In fact, bollywood and other local movies also sexualize young girls (by showing vulgar songs in school uniforms. Remember Dj Doll feat Deepal Shaw?). There are fashion shows arranged by schools where little girls do catwalk in adult clothes. Of course, you cannot forget flood of kids reality shows that pops up every evening.

As images of young girls continue to morph into a pornified mold, so too do many of the images and products being sold to young girls in form of teen magazines.Marketing of adult products and teen attitude to younger and younger kids is increasing. Little girls are sold products like costumes, makeup and even bras to help them look more mature.

According to the American Psychological Association, self-objectification is “a key process whereby girls learn to think of and treat their own bodies as objects of others’ desires.” More specifically, a girl must “internalize the male gaze” . . . so the constant question is not just “how do I look?” but “how do I look to him?”

Between 2002 and 2003, the number of girls aged 18 and under getting breast implants tripled, from 3,872 to 11,326.[1]

The pressures start ever earlier. Highly sexualized practices like shaving and waxing pubic hair are now marketed to girls who are barely old enough to have pubic hair.

What are the effects of self-objectification on girls? The evidence is in, and it’s very strong. According to a 2007 report by the American Psychological Association . . .

– lowers self-esteem
– increases risk of depression and eating disorders
– increases vigilance and “body monitoring”
– increases body dissatisfaction (shame, disgust)
– decreases sexual health (condom use, assertiveness)
– impairs mental function and academic performance

If you are angel’s father/mother – save her from this invisible objectification. Don’t become victim of market forces.

PS: . . . it’s not as if boys are being left to themselves. From cartoons and superheroes to video games and gangsta rap, boys almost from birth are being sold a detached, callous, and often violent hypermasculinity . . .

[1] Washington Post, 10/26/04 (data from American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery)

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This is so pervasive now (outside entertainment domain) that even educated parents whom I talk to, do not want to understand nature and motive of this slow poison.

I was not aware about world wide scenario but as I read more on this subject, it becomes clear that global model of objectification of females is now being pushed hard in relatively conservative Indian households.

For example, this is BMW ad for used cars – shocking!

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The Angry Bird Generation

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Note about parents of Angry Bird Generation

As a parent, you have choice to design best development path for your kid.

You can introduce Bhagwad Gita to Kid and explain him why Anger, lust and greed are doorways to hell by demonstration in your life. (Chapter 16 त्रिविधं नरकस्येदं द्वारं नाशनमात्मनः । कामः क्रोधः तथा लोभ स्तस्मादेतत्त्रयं त्यजेत् ॥)

Or

You introduce Angry birds and help them become Angry Young Person. Do not complain about their erratic behavior. Hyper responses. Not only Angry Birds toys, frequently quarrelling parents also help them become seasoned Angry personality. Children learn from perceptions introduced to them. They carry these impressions throughout life.

Your anger, or angry toys, your lust, your greed – they all help your kid to become like you 🙂 Yes, you are a blessed parent. You have a choice. You decide. Be sensitive. Be responsible.

Child development is a critical Nation building responsibility.

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