Child Development

Child Development

पुत्रगोष्ठी – Making of Ganesa and Essential Life Lessons

Ganesa

One thing I always followed in my relation with my son : Never enforce anything. Nothing. Let there be demonstration, slow and steady exposure to idea and concept. Give enough time and space for digestion.

He is 5+ now. More observations, varied questions. For last 5 years, he did not demand to establish Ganesa Vigrah at home. He enjoyed visiting different pandals and observe shapes and sizes.

This year too. Day 1 went into visiting relatives and friends sthapana. But in evening, there was question : Why not at our home?

Day2 : We started with our first attempt to give shape to our Ganesa. What did we use? We collected clay from the shore of Maa Narmada few months back.

What is planned for day 3 : Give appropriate colors so that a divide vigraha emerge from it. And yes, don’t fall in modern trap of calling it Idol or Statue! This is Vigraha(विग्रह). मूर्तिसे देवता स्थापन! तत्त्व स्थापन! जल स्थापन, पृथ्वी तत्त्वसे!

Day 4  to Day 10 : We will recite and memorize गणपति अथर्वशीर्ष. We will observe and note down different forms and their characteristics. And this will continue for next 5 years.


You may bring most beautiful vigrah at home but don’t miss to prepare one at home by self. Your involvement. Family’s involvement. Your vigrah is your prana representation. Reflection of your muladhar.
 
This (गणेश चतुर्थी to अनंत चतुर्दशी) is the open window of the year where mother nature naturally allow you get rid of excessive toxins built during varsha ritu due to मन्दाग्नि(low digestive fire with uncontrolled food habits).
 
1) Food during this time will help. Modak and Kheer, pomegranate
2) Devotion to Shri Ganesa will help. गणपति अथर्वशीर्ष
3) Spending time with clay will definitely help as it is पृथ्वी तत्त्व’s trait to absorb toxins from body. Plus, vigraha making yields concentration and attentive mind, result is observed in body cleansing. Stabilize Vata prakop.
 
Your imperfections in vigraha making will inspire you to correct the foundation. Foundation is in learning different art forms.
 
There is interesting conversation between King Vajra and Sage Markendya in Vishnudharmottara Purana about it.
 
King Vajra wants to learn art of Idol making.
He seeks guidance from Sage Markendya.
And Sage prescribes him to learn following art in sequence to become master of Idol creator.
 
Vocal music (Reciting Vedas) => Instrumental Music => Natya Shashtra => Chitra Kala (Painting in 2D) => Becoming sculptor
In short, it is important to realize cosmos, to express it so potently so that seekers can connect with God by concentrating on divine play captured in Idol.

 

What if I missed the early childhood parenting bus?

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One friend asked: What if parents did not take care about proper diet & karma while planning for child?

If you observe increasing juvenile crime cases , one thing will be common : Parental neglect in early childhood!

Well, child will have irregular tendency based on tridosha balance/imbalance of both parents, tridosha impact of season and Jiva’s last birth’s karma.

So? No hope thereafter?

Eternal laws are not so rigid. Maa Kali bestows everything you desire, provided you put efforts. From physical birth onward, altering fate of a child, demands focused efforts from parents.

As Charak Bhagwan says:

त्रिविधं बलमिति- सहजं, कालजं, युक्तिकृतं च|

Strength is of three types – congenital, time-effected and acquired. Congential is that which is natural to the body and mind; time-effected is due to seasonal variations and age factor. Acquired one is produced by proper application of diet and exercise.

So it is possible to acquire desired बल by will and efforts except overcoming congenital defects (due to parents carelessness or past life karma) which we cannot alter at will. Such weaknesses, we should accept with whole heart and train child to live best life with those weaknesses. Sometimes, with right supports, kids can do wonder. And I am sure, mother nature is kind enough to instill at least one strength in us to live life best 

There is still scope till the age 20 (when brain’s major neuron formation activity is completed).

Hint is in altering environment: From right food to right friends to right Guru/Guide!

Keep reading. Will share details on this site.

Child Planning and Season

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Your IQ, your risk of heart disease, and other health problems are influenced by how well your grandmother ate during the third trimester of her pregnancy with your mother. The effects of the prenatal environment can even be multigenerational. If you want data, study generations grown after The Dutch famine of 1944, Bengal famine 1940s.

Basically, there is strong legacy link between atmosphere (and so available food, water) at the time of spring (time of progeny planning) of grandparent generation.

So if you are pregnant this year (or next year) in India, where drought is predicted, you must take care of your food intake. It is not only critical for your placenta supply line economics but for health all upcoming generations.

In ancient India, predicting drought was possible so State/Nation/Kingdom used to store grains for at least 12 years. Grains grown during famine year and year after famine, was not considered as food due to low nutrient value. Instead grains from State storage was utilized.

Present generation is suffering from chronic diseases. Roots were sown when their grandparents were eating first lot of Green revolution in India. Advent of chemical farming is showing results now.

I know, our dumb govt under the influence of their western masters, won’t think in this direction. Better take individual actions. If you can get old grains, use it for pregnant mothers in family. Save future of India.

Never Ignore Roots : Pregnancy, Mother’s attitude and Child Development Impact

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Recently, due to some family emergency, I visited near by hospital. There, I saw expectant mothers waiting for their sonography round! While waiting, all of them were engaged in super critical talk on whatsapp! 🙁

Yes, it may be difficult to spend time but then who stops mothers to divert mind in productive activities like reading Ramayana to the child? If not that, why not learn knitting or other activities related to child?

Child neglect starts very early in life. All in the womb! Modern mothers have hardly any time left to think about the womb. Talk with the child. Conversations! Instead of talking with child in womb, she is driven by entertainment! TV to whatsapp and whatsapp to HotStar! As if, chatting on whatsapp is more important than talking with kid!

No Garbha Sanskar music or seminar or super food will help if you can’t connect and communicate with your kid inside!!

I have written in past, how neglect will cause damage to brain. Read them here:

Never compromise motherhood! Be with your child!

Your Child Demands Yashoda Care : Neuroscience of parenting

Now, read this latest research


Research


Mothers who ‘connect’ with their baby during pregnancy are more likely to interact in a more positive way with their infant after it is born, according to a study carried out at the University of Cambridge. Interaction is important for helping infants learn and develop.

Researchers at the Centre for Family Research carried out a meta-analysis, reviewing all published studies in the field, in an attempt to demonstrate conclusively whether there was a link with the way parents think about their child during pregnancy and their behaviour towards them postnatally.

The results of their work, which draws data from 14 studies involving 1,862 mothers and fathers, are published in the journal Developmental Review.

Studies included in the meta-analysis examined parents’ thoughts and feelings about their child during pregnancy through interviews and questionnaires. For example, in interviews expectant parents were considered to have a ‘balanced’ representation of their child if they showed positive anticipation of their relationship with the child or showed ‘mind-mindedness’ – a propensity to see their child as an individual, with its own thoughts and feelings. This was contrasted by parents who had a ‘distorted’ representation of their child, with a narrow, idealised description of their child, and incomplete or inconsistent descriptions of them.

Once the child had been born, researchers in these studies would observe the interactions between parent and child. One measure they were looking for was ‘sensitivity’ – the ability to notice, interpret and respond in a  timely and appropriate manner to children’s signals, for example if the baby was upset.

Combining the results from all 14 studies, the Cambridge team showed a modest association between positive thoughts and feelings about the infant during pregnancy and later interaction with the infant, but only in mothers.

“Studies have shown that parent-child interaction is crucial for a child’s development and learning, so we wanted to understand if there were prenatal signs that might predict a parent’s behaviour,” says Dr Sarah Foley, the study’s first author, who carried out the research as part of her PhD.

“Although we found a relationship between a mother’s attitude towards her baby during pregnancy and her later interactions, this link was only modest. This suggests it is likely to be a part of the jigsaw, rather than the whole story.”

Research has also shown that increased awareness of the baby during pregnancy is associated with healthy behaviours during pregnancy, such as giving up smoking or attending antenatal appointments.

While more work is needed to determine what form such interventions might take, options might include the midwife encouraging the mother to think about what her baby may be like, or asking the mother to imagine activities they think she and her baby might like to do together.

“This is a relatively new area of research, but could have important implications for children’s development,” adds Dr Foley. “We need more research in this area, but hope it will inform new interventions that could help new mothers engage more with their children.”

http://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/mothers-attitude-towards-baby-during-pregnancy-may-have-implications-for-childs-development

 

Cartoons on TV is not Story Telling!

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Parents of 21st century are groomed to believe that cartoons are great way to educate. So they introduce passive, one-way cartoons to children at very early age. And parents help kids to become addicted of the TV. Once the cartoon on TV becomes norms, cartoon goes and every other junk replaces it as kids grow. So teen-age kid will not only watch cartoon but also all junk.
 
Complete waste of potential minds.
 
We Indians have rich legacy of oral education culture. Real education and learning happen face to face, in human to human narration.
 
Humans simply aren’t moved to action by “data dumps,” dense PowerPoint slides, or spreadsheets packed with figures. People are moved by emotion. Results repeatedly show that our attitudes, fears, hopes, and values are strongly influenced by story. In fact, fiction seems to be more effective at changing beliefs than writing that is specifically designed to persuade through argument and evidence.
 
The psychologists Melanie Green and Tim Brock argue that entering fictional worlds “radically alters the way information is processed.” Green and Brock’s studies shows that the more absorbed readers are in a story, the more the story changes them. Highly absorbed readers also detected significantly fewer “false notes” in stories—inaccuracies, missteps—than less transported readers. Importantly, it is not just that highly absorbed readers detected the false notes and didn’t care about them (as when we watch a pleasurably idiotic action film). They were unable to detect the false notes in the first place.
 
So not only storytelling but which story you pick up is also critical. Take care.
 

The Dark Side of the Modern Food

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If you can’t pronounce It, Do you still want to eat It? 😀
 
This is called कलियुगी माया! 🙂 Toxic influence of toxins!
 
The problem is, most processed foods have a laundry list of ingredients similar to that of a can of paint. It’s not as simple as adding a little sugar to canned bisque or lemon juice to a scone mix.
 
Take a look at the list of ingredients from the strawberry flavoring of a milkshake served at a zip-through restaurant:
Amyl acetate, amyl butyrate, amyl valerate, anethol, anisyl formate, benzyl acetate, benzyl isobutyrate, butyric acid, cinnamyl isobutyrate, cinnamylvalerate, cognac essential oil, diacetyl, dipropyl ketone, ethyl butyrate, ethyl cinnamate, ethyl heptanoate, ethyl lactate, ethyl methylphenylglycidate, ethyl Nitrate, ethyl propionate, ethyl valerbate, heliotropin, hydroxphrenyl-2butanone(10% solution to alcohol), a-ionone, isobutyl anthranilate, isobutyl butrate, lemon essential oil, maltol, 4-methylacetophenone, methyl anthranilate, methyl benzoate, methyl cinnamate, methyl heptine carbone, methyl naphthyl ketone, methyl slicylate, mint essential oil, neroli essential oil, nerolin, neryl isobulyrate, orris butter, phenethyl alcohol, sore rum ether, g-undecalctone, vanillin, and solvent[1]
 
[1] Schiosser E. :Fast Food Nation: The Dark Side of the All-American Meal, New
York, NY: Houghton Mifflin, 2001

Cook for Kids, cook for God : Most Sacred Duty

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One friend said in private message after reading this post(https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10153519016694762):

“you said right that fast food is dangerous but do we really have alternative? Kids go to school and learn new food habits. We simply cannot control it.”

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Well then what we parents are for? If schools spoil the habits, take actions. Be part of parenting fraternity. Awake fellow parents. Take seminars on fast food in schools. Awake fellow students of your kids. There is no free lunch. You have to pay the price for your lethargy being a parent. Don’t be so helpless. If kid is picking bad habits from some source, work on it. That is your duty as a parents.

And about alternative, we have many homemade food to replace filthy fast food. Yes, you will have to spend some time in kitchen for it. Do it. Sacrifice your cricket match, movie and weekend getaway and spend time in kitchen. Best if you can involve kids.

For example: Sukhadi. It is best alternative for both chocolates and biscuits. Rich in nutrients and delicious! Enough for growing kids never ending energy needs.

Our cultural diversity is rich enough for finding alternatives. Put some efforts. Be an active parent. (I am also trying to be one).

If there is a will, there is a way. Experiment instead surrendering to the environment. (Y)

Role of Eye contacts in parenting

Most parents in this era are occupied , even when they are at home. They hooked to either laptop or mobile or TV. While they are hooked to gadgets, they continue doing conversations with family members, including kids. And then they claim spending good amount of time with family and kids.

When the adult and infant are looking at each other, they are signalling their availability and intention to communicate with each other

Really?What is missing here? Is it quality time?

Eye contact is missing. It is reduced. Major flaw in imparting संस्कार! There is no brain to brain connection! There is no mind-mind connection! Shallow conversations don’t transfer

 

Eye gazing


Research


 

Eye contact with your baby helps synchronise your brainwaves

http://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/eye-contact-with-your-baby-helps-synchronise-your-brainwaves

When a parent and infant interact, various aspects of their behaviour can synchronise, including their gaze, emotions and heartrate, but little is known about whether their brain activity also synchronises – and what the consequences of this might be.

Brainwaves reflect the group-level activity of millions of neurons and are involved in information transfer between brain regions. Previous studies have shown that when two adults are talking to each other, communication is more successful if their brainwaves are in synchrony.

Researchers at the Baby-LINC Lab at the University of Cambridge carried out a study to explore whether infants can synchronise their brainwaves to adults too – and whether eye contact might influence this. Their results are published today in the Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences (PNAS).

The team examined the brainwave patterns of 36 infants (17 in the first experiment and 19 in the second) using electroencephalography (EEG), which measures patterns of brain electrical activity via electrodes in a skull cap worn by the participants. They compared the infants’ brain activity to that of the adult who was singing nursery rhymes to the infant.

In the first of two experiments, the infant watched a video of an adult as she sang nursery rhymes. First, the adult – whose brainwave patterns had already been recorded – was looking directly at the infant. Then, she turned her head to avert her gaze, while still singing nursery rhymes. Finally, she turned her head away, but her eyes looked directly back at the infant.

As anticipated, the researchers found that infants’ brainwaves were more synchronised to the adults’ when the adult’s gaze met the infant’s, as compared to when her gaze was averted Interestingly, the greatest synchronising effect occurred when the adults’ head was turned away but her eyes still looked directly at the infant. The researchers say this may be because such a gaze appears highly deliberate, and so provides a stronger signal to the infant that the adult intends to communicate with her.

In the second experiment, a real adult replaced the video. She only looked either directly at the infant or averted her gaze while singing nursery rhymes. This time, however, her brainwaves could be monitored live to see whether her brainwave patterns were being influenced by the infant’s as well as the other way round.

This time, both infants and adults became more synchronised to each other’s brain activity when mutual eye contact was established. This occurred even though the adult could see the infant at all times, and infants were equally interested in looking at the adult even when she looked away. The researchers say that this shows that brainwave synchronisation isn’t just due to seeing a face or finding something interesting, but about sharing an intention to communicate.

To measure infants’ intention to communicate, the researcher measured how many ‘vocalisations’ infants made to the experimenter. As predicted, infants made a greater effort to communicate, making more ‘vocalisations’, when the adult made direct eye contact – and individual infants who made longer vocalisations also had higher brainwave synchrony with the adult.

Speaker gaze increases information coupling between infant and adult brains

https://www.biorxiv.org/content/early/2017/11/24/108878

Abstract

When infants and adults communicate, they exchange social signals of availability and communicative intention such as eye gaze. Previous research indicates that when communication is successful, close temporal dependencies arise between adult speakers’ and listeners’ neural activity. However, it is not known whether similar neural contingencies exist within adult-infant dyads. Here, we used dual-electroencephalography to assess whether direct gaze increases neural coupling between adults and infants during screen-based and live interactions. In Experiment 1 (N=17), infants viewed videos of an adult who was singing nursery rhymes with (a) Direct gaze (looking forward); (b) Indirect gaze (head and eyes averted by 20 degrees); or (c) Direct-Oblique gaze (head averted but eyes orientated forward). In Experiment 2 (N=19), infants viewed the same adult in a live context, singing with Direct or Indirect gaze. Gaze-related changes in adult-infant neural network connectivity were measured using Partial Directed Coherence. Across both experiments, the adult had a significant (Granger)-causal influence on infants’ neural activity, which was stronger during Direct and Direct-Oblique gaze relative to Indirect gaze. During live interactions, infants also influenced the adult more during Direct than Indirect gaze. Further, infants vocalised more frequently during live Direct gaze, and individual infants who vocalized longer also elicited stronger synchronisation from the adult. These results demonstrate that direct gaze strengthens bi-directional adult-infant neural connectivity during communication. Thus, ostensive social signals could act to bring brains into mutual temporal alignment, creating a joint-networked state that is structured to facilitate information transfer during early communication and learning.

Epigenetical mind at work : close and comforting contact from caregivers changes children’s molecular profile

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Everyday new evidences come on surface showing importance of environment in shaping our destiny. It is not just about physical environments, but also about mental environment. Ultimately, it is mind loaded with thoughts and feelings , positive or negative, decides many aspects of physical health.

The amount of physical contact between infants and their caregivers can affect children at the molecular level.

If not real mother (Devaki), foster mother (Yashoda), children need highly pampered environment until they hit the age of upanayan sanskar! And not only that, kids participating in Grihasth duties is burden of shaping their genes! From upanayana age to age 25, they needed to be groomed by Guru(s) in pristine environment, full of mother nature’s blessings.

 

 

What is Yashoda care?

Your Child Demands Yashoda Care : Neuroscience of parenting

When society will produce such mighty citizens again, we will again emerge as विश्वगुरु!


Research


Holding infants – or not – can leave traces on their genes

http://www.med.ubc.ca/holding-infants-or-not-can-leave-traces-on-their-genes/

The amount of close and comforting contact between infants and their caregivers can affect children at the molecular level, an effect detectable four years later, according to new research from the University of British Columbia and BC Children’s Hospital Research Institute.

“In children, we think slower epigenetic aging could reflect less favorable developmental progress,” said Michael Kobor, a Professor in the Department of Medical Genetics who leads the “Healthy Starts” theme at BC Children’s Hospital Research Institute.

The study, published Nov. 22 in Development and Psychopathology, involved 94 healthy children in British Columbia. Researchers from UBC and BC Children’s Hospital asked parents of 5-week-old babies to keep a diary of their infants’ behavior (such as sleeping, fussing, crying or feeding) as well as the duration of caregiving that involved bodily contact. When the children were about 4 ½ years old, their DNA was sampled by swabbing the inside of their cheeks.

The team examined a biochemical modification called DNA methylation, in which some parts of the chromosome are tagged with small molecules made of carbon and hydrogen. These molecules act as “dimmer switches” that help to control how active each gene is, and thus affect how cells function.

The extent of methylation, and where on the DNA it specifically happens, can be influenced by external conditions, especially in childhood. These epigenetic patterns also change in predictable ways as we age.

Scientists found consistent methylation differences between high-contact and low-contact children at five specific DNA sites. Two of these sites fall within genes: one plays a role in the immune system, and the other is involved in metabolism. However, the downstream effects of these epigenetic changes on child development and health aren’t known yet.

The children who experienced higher distress and received relatively little contact had an “epigenetic age” that was lower than would be expected, given their actual age. A discrepancy between epigenetic age and chronological age has been linked to poor health in some recent studies.

 

 

 

Your gift to grandchildren : How to cope up with stress

Stress Children

More than present growing generation, I am worried about upcoming 2-3 generations. Present generation ability to cope up with stress is almost nil due to toxic environment they are part of. Class 9 or 10 student executing murder or suicide is new low of our society. And that suggest our inability to handle stress.

Increase positive stress by engaging kids in sports, adventurous activities.

Spartan kid was shaped by rigorous stress. And same stress handling strength was gifted to next generation. Send your kid to Akhada! After age 5-7, discipline is needed .It is positive stress. Don’t raise them in comfort zones.

After Upanayan Sanskar, impart discipline. It is positive stress
After Upanayan Sanskar, impart discipline. It is positive stress
Spartans are shaped by early life stress
Spartans are shaped by early life stress

Europeans groom kids by arranging race like this: Spartan Race

Ask modern indian parents to send kids to Akhada and they are like : “OMG! It may hurt him !!”

Sad! Up to age 5, you shower the love and pamper! But slowly, change the training! Superpower Nation is not child’s play but surely strong children will make it happen in future!

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Nullify negative stress created by TV, Mobile, Gaming, Indoor activities. Screens are turning them into fragile zombies!!

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And if you think you are being gifted certain traits in legacy, do पितृ तर्पण!

Even if you are rational fanatic, so called modern atheists, you are still being watched by your पितृ/पितर् .

Worshiping them is a sane and truly rational choice as they are the ones, hidden, enveloped in layers of our mind and body, guiding and manufacturing responses in reaction to the changing environment! All along with देवगण & ऋषिगण !

And if you protect your child too much now! you are making life of your grandchildren miserable!! 🙂 (Reason why we have Rahul Gandhi 😉 )

Summary:

  1. Stress is important in childhood. Promote sports and adventure based stress
  2. Shun negative digital stress
  3. PItru-tarpan helps in wedding out negative traits received as legacy

Research Reference


Early life stress in fathers improves behavioural flexibility in their offspring

https://www.nature.com/articles/ncomms6466

Traumatic experiences in childhood can alter behavioural responses and increase the risk for psychopathologies across life, not only in the exposed individuals but also in their progeny. In some conditions, such experiences can however be beneficial and facilitate the appraisal of adverse environments later in life. Here we expose newborn mice to unpredictable maternal separation combined with unpredictable maternal stress (MSUS) for 2 weeks and assess the impact on behaviour in the offspring when adult. We show that MSUS in male mice favours goal-directed behaviours and behavioural flexibility in the adult offspring. This effect is accompanied by epigenetic changes involving histone post-translational modifications at the mineralocorticoid receptor (MR) gene and decreased MR expression in the hippocampus. Mimicking these changes pharmacologically in vivo reproduces the behavioural phenotype. These findings highlight the beneficial impact that early adverse experiences can have in adulthood, and the implication of epigenetic modes of gene regulation.

Stress reaction may be in your dad’s DNA, study finds

http://beta.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-stress-father-dna-20141118-story.html

Stress in this generation could mean resilience in the next, a new study suggests.

Male mice subjected to unpredictable stressors produced offspring that showed more flexible coping strategies when under stress, according to a study published online Tuesday in the journal Nature Communications.

The secret might be hidden in a small change in how certain genes are regulated in the sperm of the father and in the brains of offspring, the study found.

Several studies have shown that stress in early life not only can affect the individual’s behavior and cognitive functions, but can affect the next generation. So researchers have been eager to find any trace of changes in DNA coding that might underlie their observations.

 

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