One friend said in private message after reading this post(https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10153519016694762):
“you said right that fast food is dangerous but do we really have alternative? Kids go to school and learn new food habits. We simply cannot control it.”
Well then what we parents are for? If schools spoil the habits, take actions. Be part of parenting fraternity. Awake fellow parents. Take seminars on fast food in schools. Awake fellow students of your kids. There is no free lunch. You have to pay the price for your lethargy being a parent. Don’t be so helpless. If kid is picking bad habits from some source, work on it. That is your duty as a parents.
And about alternative, we have many homemade food to replace filthy fast food. Yes, you will have to spend some time in kitchen for it. Do it. Sacrifice your cricket match, movie and weekend getaway and spend time in kitchen. Best if you can involve kids.
For example: Sukhadi. It is best alternative for both chocolates and biscuits. Rich in nutrients and delicious! Enough for growing kids never ending energy needs.
Our cultural diversity is rich enough for finding alternatives. Put some efforts. Be an active parent. (I am also trying to be one).
If there is a will, there is a way. Experiment instead surrendering to the environment. (Y)
Most parents in this era are occupied , even when they are at home. They hooked to either laptop or mobile or TV. While they are hooked to gadgets, they continue doing conversations with family members, including kids. And then they claim spending good amount of time with family and kids.
When the adult and infant are looking at each other, they are signalling their availability and intention to communicate with each other
Really?What is missing here? Is it quality time?
Eye contact is missing. It is reduced. Major flaw in imparting संस्कार! There is no brain to brain connection! There is no mind-mind connection! Shallow conversations don’t transfer
Eye contact with your baby helps synchronise your brainwaves
When a parent and infant interact, various aspects of their behaviour can synchronise, including their gaze, emotions and heartrate, but little is known about whether their brain activity also synchronises – and what the consequences of this might be.
Brainwaves reflect the group-level activity of millions of neurons and are involved in information transfer between brain regions. Previous studies have shown that when two adults are talking to each other, communication is more successful if their brainwaves are in synchrony.
Researchers at the Baby-LINC Lab at the University of Cambridge carried out a study to explore whether infants can synchronise their brainwaves to adults too – and whether eye contact might influence this. Their results are published today in the Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences (PNAS).
The team examined the brainwave patterns of 36 infants (17 in the first experiment and 19 in the second) using electroencephalography (EEG), which measures patterns of brain electrical activity via electrodes in a skull cap worn by the participants. They compared the infants’ brain activity to that of the adult who was singing nursery rhymes to the infant.
In the first of two experiments, the infant watched a video of an adult as she sang nursery rhymes. First, the adult – whose brainwave patterns had already been recorded – was looking directly at the infant. Then, she turned her head to avert her gaze, while still singing nursery rhymes. Finally, she turned her head away, but her eyes looked directly back at the infant.
As anticipated, the researchers found that infants’ brainwaves were more synchronised to the adults’ when the adult’s gaze met the infant’s, as compared to when her gaze was averted Interestingly, the greatest synchronising effect occurred when the adults’ head was turned away but her eyes still looked directly at the infant. The researchers say this may be because such a gaze appears highly deliberate, and so provides a stronger signal to the infant that the adult intends to communicate with her.
In the second experiment, a real adult replaced the video. She only looked either directly at the infant or averted her gaze while singing nursery rhymes. This time, however, her brainwaves could be monitored live to see whether her brainwave patterns were being influenced by the infant’s as well as the other way round.
This time, both infants and adults became more synchronised to each other’s brain activity when mutual eye contact was established. This occurred even though the adult could see the infant at all times, and infants were equally interested in looking at the adult even when she looked away. The researchers say that this shows that brainwave synchronisation isn’t just due to seeing a face or finding something interesting, but about sharing an intention to communicate.
To measure infants’ intention to communicate, the researcher measured how many ‘vocalisations’ infants made to the experimenter. As predicted, infants made a greater effort to communicate, making more ‘vocalisations’, when the adult made direct eye contact – and individual infants who made longer vocalisations also had higher brainwave synchrony with the adult.
Speaker gaze increases information coupling between infant and adult brains
When infants and adults communicate, they exchange social signals of availability and communicative intention such as eye gaze. Previous research indicates that when communication is successful, close temporal dependencies arise between adult speakers’ and listeners’ neural activity. However, it is not known whether similar neural contingencies exist within adult-infant dyads. Here, we used dual-electroencephalography to assess whether direct gaze increases neural coupling between adults and infants during screen-based and live interactions. In Experiment 1 (N=17), infants viewed videos of an adult who was singing nursery rhymes with (a) Direct gaze (looking forward); (b) Indirect gaze (head and eyes averted by 20 degrees); or (c) Direct-Oblique gaze (head averted but eyes orientated forward). In Experiment 2 (N=19), infants viewed the same adult in a live context, singing with Direct or Indirect gaze. Gaze-related changes in adult-infant neural network connectivity were measured using Partial Directed Coherence. Across both experiments, the adult had a significant (Granger)-causal influence on infants’ neural activity, which was stronger during Direct and Direct-Oblique gaze relative to Indirect gaze. During live interactions, infants also influenced the adult more during Direct than Indirect gaze. Further, infants vocalised more frequently during live Direct gaze, and individual infants who vocalized longer also elicited stronger synchronisation from the adult. These results demonstrate that direct gaze strengthens bi-directional adult-infant neural connectivity during communication. Thus, ostensive social signals could act to bring brains into mutual temporal alignment, creating a joint-networked state that is structured to facilitate information transfer during early communication and learning.
Epigenetical mind at work : close and comforting contact from caregivers changes children’s molecular profile
Everyday new evidences come on surface showing importance of environment in shaping our destiny. It is not just about physical environments, but also about mental environment. Ultimately, it is mind loaded with thoughts and feelings , positive or negative, decides many aspects of physical health.
The amount of physical contact between infants and their caregivers can affect children at the molecular level.
If not real mother (Devaki), foster mother (Yashoda), children need highly pampered environment until they hit the age of upanayan sanskar! And not only that, kids participating in Grihasth duties is burden of shaping their genes! From upanayana age to age 25, they needed to be groomed by Guru(s) in pristine environment, full of mother nature’s blessings.
What is Yashoda care?
When society will produce such mighty citizens again, we will again emerge as विश्वगुरु!
Holding infants – or not – can leave traces on their genes
The amount of close and comforting contact between infants and their caregivers can affect children at the molecular level, an effect detectable four years later, according to new research from the University of British Columbia and BC Children’s Hospital Research Institute.
“In children, we think slower epigenetic aging could reflect less favorable developmental progress,” said Michael Kobor, a Professor in the Department of Medical Genetics who leads the “Healthy Starts” theme at BC Children’s Hospital Research Institute.
The study, published Nov. 22 in Development and Psychopathology, involved 94 healthy children in British Columbia. Researchers from UBC and BC Children’s Hospital asked parents of 5-week-old babies to keep a diary of their infants’ behavior (such as sleeping, fussing, crying or feeding) as well as the duration of caregiving that involved bodily contact. When the children were about 4 ½ years old, their DNA was sampled by swabbing the inside of their cheeks.
The team examined a biochemical modification called DNA methylation, in which some parts of the chromosome are tagged with small molecules made of carbon and hydrogen. These molecules act as “dimmer switches” that help to control how active each gene is, and thus affect how cells function.
The extent of methylation, and where on the DNA it specifically happens, can be influenced by external conditions, especially in childhood. These epigenetic patterns also change in predictable ways as we age.
Scientists found consistent methylation differences between high-contact and low-contact children at five specific DNA sites. Two of these sites fall within genes: one plays a role in the immune system, and the other is involved in metabolism. However, the downstream effects of these epigenetic changes on child development and health aren’t known yet.
The children who experienced higher distress and received relatively little contact had an “epigenetic age” that was lower than would be expected, given their actual age. A discrepancy between epigenetic age and chronological age has been linked to poor health in some recent studies.
More than present growing generation, I am worried about upcoming 2-3 generations. Present generation ability to cope up with stress is almost nil due to toxic environment they are part of. Class 9 or 10 student executing murder or suicide is new low of our society. And that suggest our inability to handle stress.
Increase positive stress by engaging kids in sports, adventurous activities.
Spartan kid was shaped by rigorous stress. And same stress handling strength was gifted to next generation. Send your kid to Akhada! After age 5-7, discipline is needed .It is positive stress. Don’t raise them in comfort zones.
Europeans groom kids by arranging race like this: Spartan Race
Ask modern indian parents to send kids to Akhada and they are like : “OMG! It may hurt him !!”
Sad! Up to age 5, you shower the love and pamper! But slowly, change the training! Superpower Nation is not child’s play but surely strong children will make it happen in future!
Nullify negative stress created by TV, Mobile, Gaming, Indoor activities. Screens are turning them into fragile zombies!!
And if you think you are being gifted certain traits in legacy, do पितृ तर्पण!
Even if you are rational fanatic, so called modern atheists, you are still being watched by your पितृ/पितर् .
Worshiping them is a sane and truly rational choice as they are the ones, hidden, enveloped in layers of our mind and body, guiding and manufacturing responses in reaction to the changing environment! All along with देवगण & ऋषिगण !
And if you protect your child too much now! you are making life of your grandchildren miserable!! 🙂 (Reason why we have Rahul Gandhi 😉 )
- Stress is important in childhood. Promote sports and adventure based stress
- Shun negative digital stress
- PItru-tarpan helps in wedding out negative traits received as legacy
Early life stress in fathers improves behavioural flexibility in their offspring
Traumatic experiences in childhood can alter behavioural responses and increase the risk for psychopathologies across life, not only in the exposed individuals but also in their progeny. In some conditions, such experiences can however be beneficial and facilitate the appraisal of adverse environments later in life. Here we expose newborn mice to unpredictable maternal separation combined with unpredictable maternal stress (MSUS) for 2 weeks and assess the impact on behaviour in the offspring when adult. We show that MSUS in male mice favours goal-directed behaviours and behavioural flexibility in the adult offspring. This effect is accompanied by epigenetic changes involving histone post-translational modifications at the mineralocorticoid receptor (MR) gene and decreased MR expression in the hippocampus. Mimicking these changes pharmacologically in vivo reproduces the behavioural phenotype. These findings highlight the beneficial impact that early adverse experiences can have in adulthood, and the implication of epigenetic modes of gene regulation.
Stress reaction may be in your dad’s DNA, study finds
Stress in this generation could mean resilience in the next, a new study suggests.
Male mice subjected to unpredictable stressors produced offspring that showed more flexible coping strategies when under stress, according to a study published online Tuesday in the journal Nature Communications.
The secret might be hidden in a small change in how certain genes are regulated in the sperm of the father and in the brains of offspring, the study found.
Several studies have shown that stress in early life not only can affect the individual’s behavior and cognitive functions, but can affect the next generation. So researchers have been eager to find any trace of changes in DNA coding that might underlie their observations.
Getting accustomed to high altitudes that is acclimatization is one of the most significant things when you are travelling to Ladakh or any high altitude terrain. Tourists and other visitors might suffer from headaches, dizziness and Acute Mountain Sickness or AMS without proper acclimatization.
Our children, born to this chaotic world, do need similar acclimatization period. First 6 years of life are naturally designed for local acclimatization at home.Learning customs, inviting and getting bath in local microbial seas, receiving lots of love from family members, neighbors and mother nature.
Instead, what do we do?
We bombard stress!
Don’t stress too much for first 6 years! Let them be in flow first!! Play – is the only activity they need! If they love singing, allow them to sing! Dance. If they really really really love alphabets, then only alphabets! No force, only flow!
I liked movie ‘Inception’ very much for its recursive multi layered story telling. With each layer within layer, mind opens up new avenues. It is endurance exercise for the mind like how you swim or run marathon for physical body.
We have rich history of such recursive events in Maha kavya(s).
For Example Bhagwad Gita – In the periphery, it is Ved Vyasa narrating Mahabharata to Ganesh ji. The outer layer is conversation between Bhagwan Ved Vyas and Janmejaya. The inner conversation is between Dhritrashtra and Sanjaya. And the core is between Krishna and Arjun. Within each layer, time slows down. Within each word, there is depth of infinity!
we were the first to invent recursive stories, powerful enough to alter brain circuits, helping curing mental diseases and keeping humans on the path of dharma!
Dharma upadesa in plain dry dull sermons and vs Dharma upadesa by recursive Maha kavya(s) and Purana(s). Makes a lot of difference in activating brain circuits and preparing it for the actions as per dharma narrated.
I suggest, Ramayana and Mahabharata recitation should be part of daily chores. It is potent therapeutic help for growing minds at home i.e. Children.
Even reading silently is not worth. Speak up! Recite! Let there be संवाद!! Let your brains connect with each other and activate dharma circuits in brain so that mind can drive it for dharmic actions!! 🙂
Storytelling Is The Ultimate Weapon
Guber argues that humans simply aren’t moved to action by “data dumps,” dense PowerPoint slides, or spreadsheets packed with figures. People are moved by emotion. The best way to emotionally connect other people to our agenda begins with “Once upon a time…”
What is going on here? Why are we putty in a storyteller’s hands? The psychologists Melanie Green and Tim Brock argue that entering fictional worlds “radically alters the way information is processed.” Green and Brock’s studies shows that the more absorbed readers are in a story, the more the story changes them. Highly absorbed readers also detected significantly fewer “false notes” in stories–inaccuracies, missteps–than less transported readers. Importantly, it is not just that highly absorbed readers detected the false notes and didn’t care about them (as when we watch a pleasurably idiotic action film). They were unable to detect the false notes in the first place.
This is the reason we have सीमन्तोन्नयन Samskar. Once the pregnant lady crosses 6th or 7th month, she becomes अगृहिणी (Temporary relief from household chores) and stops worrying about her duties towards family. No one then gives her any responsibility.
Stress-free life -> Rich Gut bacteria -> Rich brain formation for fetus
Up to सीमन्तोन्नयन Samskar, pregnant mother lives routine life as गृहिणी and she takes care home as head of the family. After सीमन्तोन्नयन samskar, mother becomes अगृहिणी and relieves from daily chores. Generally, this samskar is performed around 6 or 7th month. Last 2-3 months are critical for brain and mind development. This is the time when pregnant mother must live stress-free life.
Stress-free life -> Rich Gut bacteria -> Rich brain formation for fetus
Now slap all dumb driven cattle who debate with you that dharmic rituals are useless.
Becoming अगृहिणी plays CRITICAL role in development of healthy brain and gut for newborn.
Same role is played by breast-feeding.
For reference, read article shared in comment.
Hint: Ideal stress-free life is possible when you live with mother i.e. Pregnant’s mother and/or mother nature. Farm life. Jungle life. Mother’s home.
If you are pregnant or expecting soon, take care! No stress of whatsoever!! Even if a building collapses in front of you, smile! 🙂 Develop that level of intolerance towards stress. 🙂
Pregnant mother’s stress affects baby’s gut and brain
Pregnant women may pass on the effects of stress to their fetus by way of bacterial changes in their vagina, suggests a study in mice. It may affect how well their baby’s brain is equipped to deal with stress in adulthood.
The bacteria in our body outnumber our own cells by about 10 to 1, with most of them found in our gut. Over the last few years, it has become clear that the bacterial ecosystem in our body – our microbiome – is essential for developing and maintaining a healthy immune system.
Our gut bugs also help to prevent germs from invading our bodies, and help to absorb nutrients from food.
A baby gets its first major dose of bacteria in life as it passes through its mother’s birth canal. En route, the baby ingests the mother’s vaginal microbes, which begin to colonise the newborn’s gut.
Chris Howerton, then at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, and his colleagues wanted to know if this initial population of bacteria is important in shaping a baby’s neurological development, and whether that population is influenced by stress during pregnancy.
The first step was to figure out what features of the mother’s vaginal microbiome might be altered by stress, and then see if any of those changes were transmitted to the offspring’s gut.
To do this, the team exposed 10 pregnant mice to a different psychologically stressful experience, such as exposing them to fox odour, keeping their cages lit at night, or temporarily restraining them every day for what would be the equivalent of the first trimester of their pregnancy. Another 10 pregnant mice were housed normally during the same time.
The team took samples of their vaginal bacteria throughout the pregnancy and again just after the mice had given birth. These samples were genetically sequenced to see what types of bacteria were present.
The microbiomes of the stressed mice were remarkably different to those of the unstressed mice after they had each given birth. There were more types of bacteria present, and the proportion of one common gut bacteria, Lactobacillus, was significantly reduced.
Back to the future – Indian kids American Way, Drug addicts from childhood
When a child need parents most, parents are busy with career growth, promotions, material wealth accumulation and petty Cricket and Bollywood type passive armchair entertainment!
Obviously, it impacts growing minds in family.
And then, the pill generation rely upon pills as solution for mental disorders!
Many children of 21st century suffer from poor concentration, hyperactivity, and learning difficulties. Modern medicine declare it as disorder! Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder! ADHD! 🙂
These all symptoms are more related to mind than body. Food also play role but supporting role. Problem is with environment children receive as legacy. Stressed parents, family infighting, toxic food, polluted air, polluted homes, lack of love reciprocated by parents and over-use of technology and screens at home – these are some root causes I found around.
And as you read root causes, solutions are very simple.
But what do children get from doctors?
More chemicals! Ritalin is a popular name of this neurotic drug!
Read the side-effects! Avoid it! Save your kid from further mental trauma! Provide better environment and see the magic!
Read this to realize side effects of CNS stimulant!!
Ritalin Side effects
Domestic violence at home, quarrel in front of kids, verbal shouting on phone – they all shape your kid’s mental sphere. Avoid all severe verbal exchanges! Not even when kids are sleeping! Not even when they are at school! They are intelligent and sensitive enough to detect and grasp family stress! And when it goes beyond kid’s stress handling capacity, they fall sick.
And forget scolding kids below 10! They are not mature enough for you so called disciplined life!
Once you are parent, you must make sure cheerful and healthy home environment! 🙂 I have seen many parents of my age utterly careless about this.
Watch your words and actions in front of kids below 12! Does not matter, your kid or anyone’s. No violence.